There’s nothing more precarious than having to figure out how much of your love to share on social media. Some take it waaaaay too far and share every little detail of what bae did, yet you wouldn’t even know others are dating based on their social media footprint. It’s a tricky digital landscape to navigate in order to make both you and your S.O. feel comfortable, so we turned to dating coach and relationship expert Samantha Burns to help us figure out how to brag about our boo without making anyone uncomfortable.
Why Couples Like to Share Their Love on the Internet
“When you’re in love, you can’t help but want to show off your partner and have your friends like them,” Samantha says. “But, some posts come off too materialistic, egocentric or conceited.” Samantha stresses knowing your motivation for sharing: “Is it because you’re so smitten that you want to shout it from the Facebook rooftops? A humble brag might be okay — declarations of love and happiness are a beautiful thing,” as long as you keep it appropriate for others to see, she says.
Social media can do a lot of good for a relationship. Scrolling through the best of times can be an easy way to reminisce and increase emotional intimacy. Also, Samantha explains, “Sharing positive things about your partner or your time together will make them feel like they’re a priority in your life.” She recommends sharing a mix of three types of posts in order to keep the haters at bay and help further your relationship.
3 Positive Ways to Brag About Your Boo on Social Media
1. Post a photo of you and bae doing a fun activity together. Doing activities or taking a trip together is a fantastic way in real life to form a stronger emotional bond,” says Samantha. “Spending quality time by taking part in each other’s interests brings you closer together, and is an important way to form an underlying friendship in a relationship, which is key to long-term success as a couple,” she reveals. “Sharing these life experiences will help you grow together, and it moves you from a ‘me factor’ in your single days, to a ‘we factor’ in your relationship.” Your followers will pay attention to both you as a couple and your activity, so it won’t come across as a gratuitous couple selfie.
2. Post a pic with your partner and other family and friends. “The ultimate goal is to have your S.O. become a lifelong part of the family,” says Samantha. “Capturing and posting moments of your S.O. interacting with your family or close friends is meaningful, and helps progress your relationship forward.” She continues, “Posting this to social media shows your partner that you’re excited to incorporate him or her into your life. It’s a sign to your S.O. and everyone else on your feed that you deem this person important enough to meet and spend time with the people that mean the most to you.”
3. Post a photo of your S.O. doing something that you’re very proud of. “A great way to show off your partner is to share a photo or statement about something you really respect or value about them,” says Samantha. “Maybe he or she just got a promotion, earned a degree, completed a marathon, volunteered or did something inspirational. Words of affirmation and praise will make your partner feel appreciated, and likes and comments about his or her accomplishments from your social network will make them feel good too.”
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