Hey, Internet-savvy daters! Chances are, whether or not you’re at the age most likely to use an actual dating app, you won’t be adverse to a few helpful love tips. That’s why you’ll want to check out this news that may totally change the way you approach your online self-directed matchmaking. If you’re the kind of lady that likes to sit back and wait for the other person to make the first move, that’s totally fine — but this OKCupid study shows you might not be getting as many dates are your sistas with a more take-the-bull-by-the-horns style.
According to a study from online dating dominators, OKCupid, that took into consideration the initial hook-up habits of 70,000 users, (straight) women who send the first intro message are apparently “2.5 times more likely to receive a response than men who did the same.” Interesting!
“If you’re a woman who dates online, you’ve probably sifted through a lot of messages. Some are sincere. Others are direct references to penises,” OkCupid explains (as we nod enthusiastically). But it may hint at why “women rarely reach out, no matter their circumstances. [But] if a woman sends the first message, everything changes in her favor. That’s because men tend to respond, a lot.”
Their argument for ladies being a little more forward is that many women on OkCupid are still waiting to be messaged, which means they’re settling without realizing they’re doing so. In their calculations: If you’re a woman who receives a message from a man on OKC, the dude who sent it is about 5 percentile points less attractive than you. But if you send the first hello, the man is about 7 percentile points more attractive than you. So if you typically wait to be approached, you could elevate your game by about 12 percent points just by sending the first message.
So, get your game on, datin’ ladies!
Are you up for sending the first message in an online interaction, or do you leave it to the other person/people? Tweet us @BritandCo!
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