Let鈥檚 face it 鈥 rejection sucks just as much in the workplace as it does in your love life. You need to take big career risks, but sometimes, that big-time work project totally bombs or the promotion you *really* wanted just doesn鈥檛 come through. Being rejected can send you into聽a major聽work rut聽or shatter your confidence. But you don鈥檛 have to let it. We chatted with Halley Bock, author of聽Life, Incorporated: A Practical Guide to Wholehearted Living, about聽what you can learn from getting rejected and how you can use that crucial info to boost your career. After being聽let go as CEO of a former company, she applied these five lessons to her own mindset and overcame rejection to found her own company, Life, Incorporated.

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1. View rejection differently. Halley says there are聽two different ways you can view rejection 鈥 one as a badge of honor for taking a risk and the other as a critical warning that your vision might not聽align with your audience. Viewed as a badge of honor, rejection shows that 鈥淵ou鈥檙e not playing small, you鈥檙e taking risks and remaining true to聽yourself,鈥 says Halley. If so, then take pride in the fact that you took a risk.

If the rejection is about a certain project that depends on the acceptance of others, you may have hit an early sign that things aren鈥檛 working. 鈥淎 critical聽warning is either a sign that you鈥檝e聽lost your聽own intrinsic motivation for the work and should re-ground in it or that your聽vision doesn鈥檛 resonate with your聽audience,鈥 says Halley. Don鈥檛 get angry or double-down on your vision if you get some feedback that鈥檚 tough to hear. Instead, recognize it鈥檚 an opportunity to adjust your strategy or delivery.

2. Accept that it isn鈥檛 only about you. When something doesn鈥檛 work out the way we wanted it to, we have a tendency to blame ourselves.聽鈥淢ore often than not, the failure is due to multiple outside forces and not to one person alone. Remain optimistic, don鈥檛 point fingers and understand that other opportunities will arrive!鈥 says Halley. While it definitely stings when you don鈥檛 get what you want, try to realize that you鈥檙e just one part of the whole equation.

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3. Listen to your bod. In her book, Halley talks about her most life-changing rejection: when she was let go as CEO of a training organization by her boss, who also happened to be her mother. Halley describes the experience as 鈥渋ncredibly difficult, as the rejection from聽a parent is one of the greatest forms of rejection a human can experience.鈥 After being fired, she had a very physical reaction to the rejection. She vomited after eating, and during one particularly hard run, she passed out. 鈥淨uite often, physical ailments are indicators of something being off within us. It鈥檚 nature鈥檚 warning sign,鈥 says Halley.聽Your body might be sending you signals that you need a break from the stress that鈥檚 bugging you.

4. Allow negative thoughts to pass. It鈥檚 natural to have some self-doubts after a big rejection. These doubts may feel like they鈥檙e 100 percent true, but don鈥檛 listen to this train wreck of negativity. Halley suggests using this type of meditation to work through the negativity. 鈥淣ame the thought or feeling without identifying with it. For example, name 鈥榮elf-judgment,鈥 鈥榝rustration鈥 or 鈥榬ejected鈥 and as soon as you name it, allow it to pass and morph into the next thought. If one remains, keep repeating the label. When you聽attend to those thoughts and emotions, they鈥檙e freer to dissipate,鈥 says Halley. Try this meditation whenever you feel hesitation or doubt start to creep in and let yourself move on.

5. Practice self-care. Do something that makes you feel good, whether it鈥檚 exercising, journaling, meditating or getting a massage. 鈥淎ny time you can create space between stimulus and response, you come closer to your power and your truth,鈥 says Halley. Make a playlist of your fave songs, do聽some spa-worthy treatments聽at home or craft some cards聽with some inspirational quotes. Whatever makes you happy, do it! Then get back to your regularly scheduled kick-ass routine.

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