Former Bachelorette star Andi Dorfman previously shared her top tips for getting over a breakup — which definitely came in handy after her split from Josh Murray — and now she’s opening up about another delicate topic related to her personal life: why she decided to freeze her eggs.
“It’s scary to think I only have me to rely on,” the It’s Not Okay: Turning Heartbreak into Happily Never After author admitted to Us Weekly in a new interview. “But there’s something liberating about that.”
Leaving her hometown of Atlanta in 2015 to start over in New York after breaking off her engagement to Murray, Dorfman found a sense of independence that she’d never experienced before. That led her to consider what she could handle on her own when it came to her future goals, including her plans for a family.
“I always thought, ‘I’m not that old yet,'” the 30-year-old told Us Weekly. “Then, I was going to weddings and I realized just how single I am. I can’t guarantee a husband, but by freezing my eggs, I can guarantee kids. It felt like a great way to take off the pressure. I mulled it over for a few months and then I was like, ‘I’m going to do this before I turn 30.'”
So, with the help of fellow Bachelor alum and fertility nurse Whitney Bischoff, Dorfman went through the process to freeze her eggs. At the time, however, it wasn’t something that she was ready to share with the world. “I didn’t feel comfortable while it was happening,” she explained. “My way was writing about it. Some women feel great; I felt alone and had to come to grips with that. There are women who will feel the same way. It was necessary but not something to boast about.”
The writing she did during that time is part of her second book, Single State of Mind, which hits shelves January 9, 2018. In it, she goes into detail about the prep she endured, the actual procedure, and her emotional state throughout. And while she struggled with the overwhelming feeling of possibly never having the future she always envisioned, she also found a new sense of empowerment.
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