While some relationships in your life might feel effortless, others might take all the work in the world. From in-laws to exes and everyone in between, being able to navigate difficult relationships in a graceful way makes life easier for everyone involved, and that goes for even the stickiest situations. Bethany Raab, a licensed clinical social worker, has three tips for navigating one of the hardest relationships of all: the one between you and your co-parent鈥檚 partner.

1. Take a pause. 鈥淒ivorce and separation bring with them a lot of feelings, many of them being unpleasant,鈥 Raab says. 鈥淭aking time to figure out how you鈥檙e feeling and allowing time for grieving are must-dos. Talk about your feelings and your needs with trusted family members, friends, or a professional.鈥 While talking to your kids can make you feel better, Raab cautions against making them feel responsible for your feelings. It might be tempting, but trashing your partner to your kids will only make the situation worse.

2. Limit the time you spend with them. Being diplomatic doesn鈥檛 necessarily mean you have to spend oodles of time with this person; in fact, creating space will most likely allow you to be more polite to your co-parent鈥檚 partner when you are together. 鈥淭ake a breath 鈥 a big, deep one 鈥 before you head into an interaction with the new person so that you can put your best foot forward,鈥 Raab advises.

3. Remember that your kids are watching. Building these new relationships can be taxing and frustrating, but Raab has a great reminder: 鈥淵our children will notice if you are short with or rude toward their other parent鈥檚 new partner,鈥 she warns. 鈥淭his is not the example you want to give them. It is imperative that you deal with your emotions separately from these interactions.鈥 With this mindset, you鈥檒l be better able to create a respectful co-parenting relationship with your child鈥檚 other parent and their new partner.

What tips do you have for navigating hard relationships? Let us know @BritandCo!

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