You鈥檙e the senior member of your parenting tribe, and that makes you the go-to girl for pregnancy advice. Your preggo BFF is all about asking for labor and delivery details. You could sugarcoat the pressure, pain, and push experience, or you could get real. But before you gather around the campfire and tell scary stories about L&D, take a step back and think about what your friend truly needs to know. Oh, and consider not sharing some of these nail-biting, freak-out tales. Birth is an awesome experience, and there鈥檚 no reason for a mom-to-be to think otherwise.

1. The Pre-Baby Gore and Goop: One day, you were going along with your pregnancy as normal. Everything was fine. You had to pee, and then it happened. You lost your mucus plug. Yep, there鈥檚 a mucus plug in there, and it came out. Hey, that鈥檚 totally normal. It happens before labor and delivery starts, but it doesn鈥檛 necessarily mean you鈥檙e ready to have your baby right away. Your cervix is softening, and your body is prepping for the big day. That鈥檚 probably where the info you give your BFF should end. Going into great detail about what your mucus plug looked like isn鈥檛 exactly necessary. And please, please, please do not show her pictures.

2. Your Coworker鈥檚 Friend鈥檚 Super-Scary Story: You heard it from a friend who heard it from a friend who, well, you get the picture. The horror show of a birth story you鈥檙e about to share with your pregnant (and kind of scared) BFF is like a bad game of telephone. What may have been a fairly normal birth has turned into a complication-filled blood bath, by way of several exaggerations. If the childbirth tell-all sounds more like fiction than fact, hold off on relaying it to your expectant mom friend.

3. The Pain, Oh the Pain: Your friend knows that childbirth hurts. Seriously. She hasn鈥檛 lived her entire adult life under a rock. She is aware that she will soon need to squeeze someone the size of a small watermelon out of her hoo-ha. So, going on and on and on about the crazy intense pain isn鈥檛 going to help her. What it will do is make her hyper-focused on the pain of delivery, and she doesn鈥檛 need that right now. Yeah, she鈥檒l feel the pain, but she doesn鈥檛 need someone pounding the nitty-gritty details into her head beforehand.

4. The Complete List of Complications: Some births don鈥檛 go as planned. Complications happen. It鈥檚 a fact. Sharing your complications with your friend is kind of tricky. You want to help your BFF understand that it鈥檚 okay to have a labor and delivery that doesn鈥檛 go as planned. And you want to educate her and help her understand the facts, signs, and symptoms to look for. But you also don鈥檛 want to terrify her. There鈥檚 a difference between helping a friend and giving her a panic attack.

5. Bizarre Medical Mishaps: There鈥檚 this story going around your mommy sisterhood about how one woman got an epidural, had her baby, and never walked again. Yes, medical mishaps are real, but they鈥檙e certainly not the rule. Filling your friend in on every possible healthcare slip might just lead to some pretty unrealistic medical nightmares.

6. Amazingly Intimate Details: Some parts of your birth story are just for you and your S.O. or birth partner. It鈥檚 possible that something you found funny, sweet, or memorable in an odd sort of way is absolutely frightening to your friend, especially when it comes to the very intimate details. Unless she really wants to know, consider not sharing how you pooped when you pushed, the crazy way you stretched as your baby was crowning, or what your placenta looked like.

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