What to Do If You Need to Cry at Work + Why You Shouldn’t Feel Bad About It
If you’re a human being, there’s a pretty good chance you’ve cried at work at some point. It’s natural and normal to need to let intense emotions out, and sometimes that inconveniently happens at the office. Ugh. Whether it’s because you’re burned out, you’ve realized you’re definitely in the wrong job or something is just weighing on you, there are times when you just can’t suppress your emotions, and you shouldn’t have to! But not only can it be uncomfortable to get super upset at work — it can be embarrassing if it happens in a public way, like in a meeting or at your highly visible desk (gotta love those open-floor-plan offices, right?). So where can you go and what can you do if you feel the tears coming on? We tapped some HR pros and career experts to get their take on this tough sitch. Here are some guidelines to follow if you just need to let it out during your nine-to-five.
Do it in private.Laura Macleod, HR expert. The office of a coworker you trust is also a safe place to go, as long as they’re okay with it. “If possible, try to get outside the office,” she adds. Heading to your office’s lobby or even outside for some fresh air can work wonders.
There’sreason to apologize. “People are allowed to have emotions and no one should apologize for that,” says Michelle Petrazzuolo, human resources consultant at Petrazzuolo HR. “Apologizing makes it seem like your reaction was wrong or inappropriate, and it may not have been.” There are all kinds of reasons you could cry at work and, you know what? Some of them are 100 percent justified.
4. Sometimes, crying is a reasonable reaction. While breaking down at work is definitely never ideal (being sad or super stressed is the worst!), there are times when it’s not really that out of place. Petrazzuolo explains that “certain situations push most people to their emotional limits, such as being laid off or receiving difficult news about a coworker. During these times, it’s not only acceptable to show your emotions, but sharing them with others can help everyone work through their reactions.” Since you spend so much time with your coworkers, they can be a great support — especially if there’s a situation where many of you are going through something similar.
5. You can offer a helping hand to a teary colleague. If you see that someone else in your office is struggling, it’s absolutely okay to reach out to them. Just know that they may want to be left alone. “The best way you can help is by offering to escort them to a more private area,” says Laura Henderson, HR consultant and owner of North County HR. By taking your coworker outside or to a private room, you help them to avoid causing a scene and give them a moment to regroup before returning to work.”
6. Know that crying isn’t a “feminine issue.” Just a friendly reminder that guys have feelings too. “Crying is generally frowned upon and a sign of weakness, especially for men,” notes Macleod. “This isn’t accurate. Crying is a normal human release and often those who cry feel significantly better and more positive once they’ve finished.” That includes dudes, everyone.
Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)