Style, According to StylebyAda of No Ordinary She

Between their Insta-perfect #OOTDs and omg-inducing red carpet ensembles, celebs serve up an endless supply of style inspiration on the regular. The designer duds and impeccably put-together looks are nothing short of #goals, but the glitz and glamour factor can make them feel a little out of reach for the average working girl (because #adulting). Sure, expensive duds a killer outfit do not make, but there’s just something so refreshing about seeing a scene-stealing look on a woman that doesn’t have 24-hour access to a stylist, crazy connections or deep pockets. In celebration of real-girl style, each week we’ll be introducing you to a new fashionable femme and showing you a few effortless ways to snag some of their on-point style, both on duty and off.

Off-duty cool doesn’t get any better than this. Bold bell sleeves, disco diva steppers and wide-leg denim lend this laid-back look a serious dose of ’70s flair, offering a much-needed break from a tired tee-and-jeans routine.

1. H&M Blouse With Trumpet Sleeves ($18): Play the layering game the It-girl way with a bell-sleeved blouse that’s all kinds of chic. Whether you layer it under a crew-neck sweater or a classic tuxedo blazer, the result will be straight-up stunning.

2. ASOS Double Breasted Blazer in Pinstripe ($89): Take style cues from Ada and top off a pair of statement denim with a timeless blazer for a foolproof look that comes together in seconds. Bonus points for bold color and of-the-moment additions like perfectly polished pinstripes.

3. Topshop Maximum Fringe Loafer Boots ($160): When you have gold boots like these, make sure you pull ’em out at every opportunity. To blaze some serious style trails, rock these gilded beauties with cropped raw-edge jeans, a ruffle-neck blouse and a sleeveless blazer.

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On-the-job elegance doesn’t have to involve donning a full-on suit. Do like Ada and team a next-level button-down with a printed skirt and high-shine steppers for a nine-to-five look that slays.

4. Finders Keepers Great Heights Long Sleeve Top ($150): If your idea of basics involves eye-catching embellishments and cutting-edge silhouettes, a blasé button-down just isn’t going to cut it for your on-the-job repertoire. This unique piece, on the other hand, with its asymmetric collar, fluted sleeves and modern circular clasp, is right up your alley. Team it with belted culottes and embroidered ankle boots for a down-to-business look that defies office norms without drawing the side eye from HR.

5. Zara Check Mini Skirt ($50): Pass on plain old pencil silhouettes and snoozy black trousers for a twirl-worthy gingham skirt with plenty of down-to-business ‘tude. For ultimate girlboss vibes, style it alongside lace-up boots, minimalist baubles and plenty of go-get-’em confidence.

6. ASOS Sensor Pointed Heels ($46): Day or night, a set of quicksilver steppers makes everything better. Jazz up on-duty duds by throwing these bad boys into the mix, or wear them with a printed mini dress for a hot date with the dance floor.

Keepin’ it low key calls for relaxed duds with no shortage of Insta-worthy edge. Case in point: Ada’s color-block sweat and wide-leg trouser combo that’s perfect for Sunday morning brunch or a much-anticipated Netflix marathon on the couch.

7. Être Cécile Colour Block Slim Fit Sweatshirt ($130): Form and function go hand in hand in this bright color-block sweatshirt that defines laid-back goals. While it would look ah-mazing styled alongside joggers or everyday jeans, it creates an element of cool contrast when paired with ultra-feminine pieces like pleated skirts and midi dresses.

8. H&M Wide Leg Pants ($40): Ultra-cozy vibes come in the form of fluid silhouettes this season, with wide-leg trousers uprooting boyfriend jeans and classic denim from their seat of power. Slip them on with an oversized sweater and slides for a lazy-girl look that gives the whole polished pajamas thing a run for its money.

9. J.Crew Signet Bag in Italian Leather ($128): Everyday bag swag deserves a stylish place to call home, and this bright cross-body is it. Sling it over a monochromatic ensemble for a sleek minimalist look that really pops.

Creative layering lends itself to a day-to-night ensemble with undeniable Instababe flair. An oversized leather jacket and tulle overlay instantly elevate a simple pair of jeans into haute territory.

10. Mango Oversize Leather Biker ($250): There’s a reason leather jackets consistently make an appearance on wardrobe essential lists — they have a way of adding polish to even the most basic duds and infusing everyday ensembles with a note of effortless cool. Translation: If you haven’t already added one of these timeless style staples to your arsenal, there’s no better time than here and now.

11. Zara Tulle Sleeveless Dress ($30): The easiest way to amp up your weekend style? Inject your off-duty uniform with a touch of ballet-beautiful flair. Layer a sheer tulle dress over a t-shirt, jeans and combat boots for an enviable ensemble that screams street-style star.

12. Intentionally Blank Titan Slide ($190): This season’s piece de resistance? A sleek pair of loafers. Giving your go-to pair of sneakers a run for their money, they elevate athleisure essentials like it ain’t no thang, and usher classic closet pieces into 21st-century territory.

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One-and-done styles – like matching sets and fall dresses – are the cornerstone of lazy girl dressing. Compared to pants, they’re the absolute best, especially when they’re cozy. Sweater dresses are that piece this season, offering instant comfort to their wearer. And like a classic shift or shirt dress, it doesn’t take much to take them to the next level: a sleek pair of tights, funky sheer socks, or, of course, knee-high boots.

Sweater dresses are begging for a place in your closet this season, and once you score the right one, you’ll be *so* happy you did. This year’s crop of sweater dresses is chicer than ever and still snuggly. Scroll through these 25 soon-to-be-your-favorite sweater dresses. Work weeks (and weekends!) will never be the same.

Daily Practice by Anthropologie Bell-Sleeve Sweater Mini Dress

The bell sleeves on this sweater dress add a little somethin'-somethin' to your fall 'fit. Though this pick features even more fun details (like an open back and a button-up neckline), it still hugs your body very loosely for the utmost comfort.

J.Crew Sleeveless Ribbed Sweater Dress

This sweater dress fits with some flirtiness. See: the short sleeves that show off your arms and the cheeky leg slit at the hem. This pick would be perfect for the office with a light cardi overtop.

American Eagle Oversized Collared Sweater Dress

This design plays at blokecore, one of the season's most popular aesthetics. The large collar and super-wide stripes recall that of a polo shirt or jersey, and though it's a more subtle nod to the trend, you'll still be looking stylish AF.

A New Day Women's Turtleneck Long Sleeve Cozy Sweater Dress

If white cable knit sweaters help you channel your inner Rory Gilmore during fall, then this sweater dress will bring those vibes to the max. At its core, it's an elongated version of the OG garment, plus it comes suited with a cozy turtleneck to keep you toasty this winter.

& Other Stories Knit Turtleneck Mini Dress

A relaxed fit is *just* what you need from any wardrobe piece this season, not only sweater dresses. But, this one does boast an attractive vibrant green color to really turn some heads wherever you are.

Urban Outfitters Blake Knit Off-The-Shoulder Mini Dress

Tap in to your inner ballerina this winter (hello, Nutcracker szn!) by donning this fuzzy, feminine dress alongside some ballet flats and a few soft girl accessories like decorative tights and hair bows.

Nina Leonard Balloon Sleeve Midi Sweater Dress

Be the best dressed at this year's holiday parties by sporting this sweater dress! Everything from the front buttons to the tie-waist makes for a chic seasonal look. This warm color with some knee-high boots would be the ultimate look.

Gap CashSoft Henley Mini Sweater Dress

Sweater dresses give you a nice one-and-done solution to your personal fall and winter style, and this pick is no exception. Plus, more neutral colors like whites, browns, and grays make way for endless matching and layering options when it's time to really bundle up.

Ugerlov Womens Oversized Sweatshirt Dress

Notable for its qualities as a Free People dupe, this design is part sweatshirt and part dress. It's super flowy throughout, so you aren't left with the stress of whether it's fitting your bod right or not.

free-est Wanda Sweater Dress

Okay – this sweater dress is definitely giving pajamas. But isn't that the best part about it? This design will be there to cover you in comfort inside and outside of the house.

Daily Practice by Anthropologie Miles Sweater Dress

Though it looks like a matching set, this sweater dress is anything but. The 'top' section is actually attached to the skirt, so all you have to do to get dressed is pull it over your head. Style this design with some cozy leg warmers and platform boots to complete your comfiest fall look yet.

J.Crew Contrast-Trim Sweater Dress

Sweater dresses are your best bet for office 'fits this winter. Luckily, more structured ones like this one from J.Crew exist to polish up your lazy girl look. With some sheer black tights and loafers, you'll feel prepared to tackle anything.

ANRABESS Long Sleeve Oversized Cable Knit Sweater Dress

The chunky knit on this sweater dress is everything. It's like you're wearing a vintage oversized sweater, which is the perfect start to a killer winter ensemble.

Free People Tupelo Honey Maxi Dress

This maxi sweater dress boasts a flirty open back detail, so if you're looking for a comfortable holiday party outfit that's still stylish, this is the pick for you! Plus, the bow that ties the back together infuses the 'fit with feminine flair.

Old Navy SoSoft Cocoon Mini Sweater Dress

Old Navy deems this sweater dress as "the Goldilocks of sweaters," because the material it's made out of is crafted to be not too heavy, but also not too light. It'll swarm you in warmth – but not uncomfortably so – once you put it on.

Nina Leonard Ribbed Midi Sweater Dress

Your upcoming Christmas party is calling! Answer the call with this sangria-red sweater dress: it features a cheeky keyhole detail up top that'll look iconic in all the pictures you're going to take.

Gap Stripe Mini Sweater Dress

If you tend to dress more boldly, opt for dresses with graphics (like these stripes!) instead of a single solid color. If you stray away from patterns, then brightly-colored sweater dresses will be your best bet for standing out from the crowd.

Universal Thread Long Sleeve Tunic Mini Sweater Dress

Just because winter's coming, doesn't mean Barbie is going into hibernation. Channel summer's hottest movie (and its most admirable leading lady) by donning some baby or hot pink sweater dresses this season.

4SI3NNA Long-Sleeve Striped Sweater Mini Dress

Anthropologie's collection with Phoebe Tonkin gave us major holiday vibes. This black and white sweater dress is one of our favorite picks from the edit – it exhibits a funky striped pattern against a knitted fabric that basically feels like a blanket for your body!

GRECERELLE Mock Neck Ribbed Long Sleeve Bodycon Pullover Mini Sweater Dress

The fitted bottom hem on this sweater dress gives it a more formal feel, so this pick is perfect for any gatherings you've got coming up.

American Eagle Crewneck Holiday Sweater Dress

Say goodbye to the tacky Christmas sweaters you once knew, and instead, rock this patterned sweater dress that's meant to make you look and feel cozy AF!

Free People Jaci Sweater Dress

This sweater dress boasts a babydoll silhouette so your figure can shine through! Available in four colors and a super soft fabric, you won't want to take it off.

Gap CashSoft Turtleneck Midi Sweater Dress

We love this midi sweater dress paired with tall boots when the occasion calls for something a tad more sophisticated. The silvery-gray color is winter's perfect match, too.

Abercrombie & Fitch Long-Sleeve Turtleneck Mini Sweater Dress

This heavier-knit sweater dress will, without a doubt, make you look like the coziest person in the room. The long sleeves and turtleneck details are there for your comfort!

OYOANGLE V-Neck Sleeveless Knitted Solid Short Sweater Dress with Pockets

This sweater dress, when layered over a button-up shirt, creates an academic look, which could really amp up your workdays. Plus – pockets!

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We're thrilled to kick off our new Jetset Journeys series, where we turn the best U.S. cities to explore this year into our own personal playgrounds. This is not just a travel guide but a way to spark your creativity and your wanderlust for weekend and week-long travel. Pack your bags , join us here every week, and get jetsetty this summer.

Though you might not get summers “off” anymore, the season is a great chance to slow down a little, press the reset button, and carve out some time for yourself. What better way to do this than to book a visit to a wellness retreat? There are so many options available that include indulgent massage treatments, nourishing meal choices, and activities like hiking and forest bathing geared toward getting you more centered and reconnected with yourself. Here are a few of our favorites.

Lake Austin Spa Resort, Austin, TX

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Located just about 20 miles from downtown Austin, this lakeside all-inclusive wellness getaway feels much farther from the city than that. Your stay includes all meals, snacks, and nonalcoholic drinks, including fresh juices and smoothies; access to the spa’s pools and relaxation spaces; wellness activities; and gratuity.

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Summer is a beautiful time to visit and enjoy full access to the resort’s watersports, such as hydrobikes, waterskis, wakeboards, and kayaks on secluded Lake Austin. Daily programming includes activities like lakeside yoga, guided hikes through private trails in the Texas Hill Country, Japanese sword classes, myofascial release in the water to help unwind those stubborn knots in your neck and shoulders, Tarot readings, and wine cruises.

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The on-site spa’s [ comfort zone ] FACE SPAce is the first of its kind in the U.S., utilizing new specialty therapies to stimulate collagen and leave you glowing. Challenge yourself to a treatment that includes an outdoor cold plunge (this can be fun with friends) followed by a warm, soothing massage to fully relax. Then follow it up with a thoughtfully presented meal, such as heirloom tomato salad, whipped ricotta made with local honey, or Texas blackened redfish, served in the dining room or outside on one of the breezy patio spaces.

Mii Amo, Sedona, AZ

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If you’re looking for an all-inclusive wellness getaway that feels deeply meaningful, head to Sedona’s breathtaking Boynton Canyon, where the iconic spa Mii amo has recently reopened following a $40 million, two-year renovation. Here you’ll find 23 casitas with private balconies or patios, in-room kiva fireplaces and soaking tubs, as well as a new restaurant called Hummingbird.

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Daily guided meditations and special presentations and ceremonies (examples include a Summer Solstice Ceremony and Canyon Bathing) create an ideal environment to slow down and refocus.

Photo: Douglas Friedman

At the spa, beyond the typical massage and facial offerings, you’ll find a unique to Mii amo menu of services, including Chakra Balancing; Aura Photography; a Connection Ceremony that focuses on letting go of past hurts or welcoming in new beginnings; an Inner Quest including special ceremonial elements like braided sweetgrass and cedar/sage oil; and Intuitive Massage.

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The chef-created menu at Hummingbird includes items like salmon ceviche, duck breast, poulet rouge, and gluten-free and vegan selections, and there’s a juice bar serving a full slate of smoothies, juices, and wellness tonics.

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Next door at neighboring property Enchantment Resort you’ll find additional amenities you can use while exploring the surrounding 400 miles of trails.

Canyon Ranch, Woodside, CA

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Secluded within 16 acres of majestic redwoods in Northern California, about an hour south of San Francisco, is the all-inclusive Canyon Ranch Woodside. There are additional locations in Tucson, Lenox (outside of Boston), and Las Vegas.

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If you find forest bathing appearling, this is the ideal wellness getaway for you. The resort celebrates its forest environs from its 24 luxury treehouse rooms that peek through the forest, to ropes courses and guided meditations that take place under the magnificent canopy. Locally sourced dining menus are served al fresco or in a cozy dining room and include afternoon tapas, colorful salads, and fresh salmon.

Photo: Canyon Ranch

Each day, Canyon Ranch offers dozens of mind-body activities including hiking, kayaking, mountain biking, dancing, and free-flow abstract painting. Upcoming summer wellness presentations and workshops focus on themes such as “Wisdom of the Horse and Herd” equine therapy; “Activating Your Empathy and Intuition”; and “Find Your Purpose.” Spa treatments include Forest Aromatherapy Treatment and Hiker’s Retreat, designed to perk up your feet after a strenuous hike.

Art of Living Retreat Center, Boone, NC

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You can design your own stay at the Art of Living Retreat Center depending on your intentions. Customizable itineraries include silent retreats, wellness cleanses and detoxes, meditation-focused retreats, and happiness retreats. This summer, guest faculty will lead sessions on “Healing Through Feminine Practices,” “Trusting Our Transformation,” and “Experience the Divine.”

Photo: Art of Living Retreat Center

The spa offers Ayurvedic-informed treatments, including Eye Bathing, targeting relieving tired eyes with warmed ghee; Clear Breath Support with herb-infused oils to clear the sinuses; and a treatment to settle the nervous system, with warm oil poured into the ears. Round these out with soothing body wraps and massage treatments for the ultimate restorative experience.

Photo: Art of Living Retreat Center

Buffet-style meals are prepared with vegetarian, whole foods, and are informed by Ayurvedic wisdom, including selections like Jamaican Jackfruit Stew and Gado-Gado Peanut Sprout Salad. Each day, you can enjoy yoga sessions, nature walks, a fire circle, and there are additional class options such as pottery and Ayurveda cooking.

Hemlock Neversink, Neversink, NY

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The newest all-inclusive wellness resort on this list just opened in October 2023. Hemlock Neversink is situated on 230 acres of land in the Sullivan Catskills, about two hours northwest of New York City. Your stay includes all meals and non-alcoholic beverages, programming, and on-site amenities.

Photo: Clay Banks

The prix fixe menu at the on-site restaurant Bittersweet highlights plant-forward cuisine, including options like enoki mushroom and warm spinach salad and roasted cabbage or skirt steak.

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Enjoy spa treatments such as the 90-minute Return to Nature Ritual, which exfoliates with berry seats and white peat, then hydrates your skin with organic mushrooms, helichrysum blossoms, and berry oils. Then float while breathing in birch extract and other aromas.

Photo: Sasithon Photography

You’ll find a variety of workshops, yoga and meditation classes, and there’s even a goat sanctuary on site (you can go for a daily goat hike for some animal therapy), as well as tennis courts and hiking trails. This summer, nationally recognized guest instructors will teach classes and lead workouts on mat pilates and dance cardio in the honey-toned wood Movement Building, and in the Activity Building, do a Catskill honey and tea tasting, join a Shamanic drum circle, and make a vision board.

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Ring! Ring! Ring! Autumn’s calling, and she’s here to stay for the next few months! September 23 marked the start of the first day of fall and we couldn’t be more ecstatic. What better way to sashay into our favorite season – besides stocking up on spiced candles, spooky home decor, and adorable mugs – than with a brand-new pair of stompers?

While ankle booties and over-the-knee boots will also have a special place in our closets, it’s without a doubt knee-high boot autumn according to our fav “It” girls. After scouring the internet for the perfect pair of knee-high boots for every occasion, our exhaustive list is here. From Renaissance tour-worthy razzle dazzle to classic comfort, we’ve got you covered.

Square Toe Knee High Boots

Vince Camuto Sangeti Knee High Boot

Has anyone else been thinking about hightailing it back to 1999? Trinity from The Matrix instantly comes to mind!

Vagabond Shoemakers Ansie Knee High Boot

When Gigi Hadid cosigns a boot under $300, we give respect where respect is due. It's giving model off-duty!

ALOHAS East Leather Knee High Boot

We are obsessed with the color blocking on these retro beauties.

Aerosoles Micah Boot

Shades of red are trending this fall, and this burgundy ( or should we say cherry mocha) boot is a great way to add it into your wardrobe.

Marc Fisher LTD Ofida Knee High Boot

Haven't you heard? Biker chic is in and these moto boots by Marc Fisher are bound to up the ante on your fits this Fall.

Frye Campus 14L Boots

If you haven't heard, Frye is one of THE "It girl" boots of the season. Made to last, these go to boots will be in your closet for many seasons to come.

Pointed Toe Knee High Boots

Schutz Mikki Over-The-Knee Boots

Okay, while these are technically over-the-knee, she gets an honorary spot on the list for since you can easily fold the material down. We love versatility!

Everlane The Knee-High Banana Heel Boot

The unique banana heel boot from Everlane exudes timeless style.

Zara SLOUCHY DENIM BOOTS

Say what you want, but a denim-on-denim moment is in order!

Linea Paola Kyra Tall Boot

These knee high boots from Linea Paola can only be described as sleek. And we're absolutely loving this warm grey hue!

Franco Sarto Sylvia Knee High Boot

Be warned: all that you touch might turn into gold. King Midas wishes that he had these boots!

Vince Camuto Alinkay Boot

Fall is the season of suede and we're styling this pair with everything we can.

Naturalizer Kalina Boot

A cute boot shouldn't have to cost you comfort! Get from point A to point B in a breeze with this trendy style from Naturalizer.

Knee High Cowgirl Boots

Dolce Vita Kamryn Western Boot

Enter the steel toe stunners, a.k.a. your new favorite cowboy boot of the season.

Dirty Laundry Upwind Metallic Western Boot

In our book, metallic counts as a neutral.

Lug Knee High Boots

Dirty Laundry Veelo Knee High Platform Boot

Whoever said that wearing white after Labor Day was a crime never met these creamy Veelo boots from Dirty Laundry! If your Fall color palate stays in neutral, then these are for you.

Lucky Brand Cirilia Knee High Boot

There's absolutely no debating that black boots are the go-to, but sometimes a Fall look calls for a more mocha hue.

Rhodes Tall Boots

Put your best foot forward in these glossy burgundy boots from Free People!

Mercella Carnegie Knee-High Boots

These boots are just effortlessly cool, with the geometric soles and slip-on style. They're giving, "Oh these? I just pulled them on!"

Knee High Rain Boots

Hunter Original Tall Rain Boot

Rain boots are an absolute must for transitional weather. We suggest opting for knee-high rain boots to avoid soaked socks and battles lost with unsuspecting puddles.

Burberry Simeon Check Waterproof Rain Boot

If you're down to splurge, this chic pair of rain boots from Burberry are worth every pretty penny.

Lace-up Knee High Boots

Doc Marten Audrick Tall Lace Up Boots

With the 90s always making a comeback, I have my fingers crossed for a grunge girl Fall! Sure, you'll probably have to break these bad boys in, but Doc Martens are most definitely worth it.

Jeffrey Campbell Aluma Knee High Boot

What would a Fall boot roundup be without a witchy pair for the season?

Minnetonka Front Lace Knee High Boots

in case you missed it, moccasins come in knee high and we're living for it!

Platform Knee High Boots 

Azalea Wang Sutton Platform Boot

Enter THE Bratz boot! In a year where pink and furry have reigned supreme, the girls whose girlhood nostalgia starts with Sasha, Chloe, Yasmin, and Jade deserve a little representation.

Round Toe Knee High Boots

H&M Knee-High Heeled Boots

When it comes to affordable basics that rival high-priced wares, H&M always delivers.

Madewell The Selina Tall Boot

The Selina boot from Madewell is a girl's buttercream dream!

Croc Print Boots

ASOS DESIGN Campbell pull-on knee boots

No need to get green with envy — just add these to your cart! The texture and color combo are sure to make a statement this fall!

Nordstrom Alina Reptile Embossed Knee High Stiletto Boot

Embossed in a subtle yet chic take on croc print, these boots are the perfect way to sneak a little animal print into the Fall mix.

Schutz Maryana Block Pointed Toe Knee High Boot

Listen, if there's one embossed detailing we can't live without, it's croc print!

Franco Sarto Talfer Wide Calf Boot

Here's a low heel croc option for the girlies who don't want the extra boost.

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I'm so inspired by coastal decor in all of its renditions, from the Nancy Meyer’s-inspired coastal grandmother to elegant and coastal luxemodern, from California surf shacks to Cape Cod cottages. While coastal decor can be an all-year decor trend that combines fresh whites, soft blues and natural elements like jute, wood, and rattan, it’s around this time of year that I start to really embrace the relaxed and refined aesthetic. Here are 20 coastal accents to refresh your home for the season.

Coastal by Gray Malin

Coffee table books are a great way to bring in a coastal aesthetic. New York Times bestselling author and photographer Gray Malin is known for his aerial beach photography in the U.S. This new collection highlights coastal locations from around the world.

Spoonflower Peel & Stick Art Deco Swans Wallpaper

This removable and eco-friendly wallpaper (water-based inks and no toxins) features a swan graphic in a seaside color for a breezy addition to any room.

Aitken Flatweave Cotton Geometric Rug

This boho cotton rug also leans into the greener side of coastal decor with a fun polka dot print.

Nauvoo Dresser Mirror

Bring in natural elements like wood and rattan to keep your coastal decor casual and earthy.

Soho House Pool Towel, Nashville

Soho House uses these classic cabana stripe towels around their poois. This fade-resistant one in their signature hue is used at their Nashville location.

Surf Tribe Book by Stephan Vanfleteren

This photo book shows surf culture in a new light, showing the passion for nature and respect for the ocean that surfers universally have.

The Citizenry Meru Counter Stool

Bringing in natural elements in a refined way is a key part of coastal decor. These modern counter stools in a beautiful ethically-harvested mindi wood are handcrafted by fair-trade artisans in Jepara, Indonesia.

Pendleton White Sands Printed Quilt Set

Inspired by sand dunes against a blue sky, this machine-washable cotton quilt is a nod to the serene landscape of New Mexico's White Sands National Monument.

Indigo Surf Textile Art

This textile art features hand-cut vintage dark indigo lettering on a lighter indigo background and a small wave stitched detail. It comes with the salt oak frame and each one is one of a kind.

Blu Dot Invitation 24" Bench

Woven seating in a white oak wood frame brings in the sandy colored hues of coastal decor. Blu Dot is one of my favorite modern decor brands, and this quiet luxury bench is so lovely IMO.

Nathan James Outdoor Patio Loveseats (set of 2)

Extend your coastal decor to the great outdoors with these acacia wood loveseats and chairs with washable cushions.

Dumae Malibu 3-Piece Setting

This LA-based ceramics company designs unique pieces for casual and special occasions. Love the organic edge on these that would suit a coastal decor aesthetic.

Begonia Dining Chair

Adore the idea of these upholstered chairs in a cabana stripe around a wood dining table - so chic and fun!

World Market White Marble Shell Bookends

Marble shell bookends feel just a tiny bit kitsch without feeling too old-school beach decor. Add these to your desk or bookshelf.

Serena & Lily Jute Border Rug

Hand-tied fringe hints to a surf shack vibe while the elegantly framed jute rug keeps it more refined.

'Crowded Summer' Frame + Photograph Print

Make a statement with a beachy landscape that recalls the best of summer days.

Surf Shacks Book by Matt Titone

Find anecdotes and photographs in this book that reveals a more personal side to surfing.

Zara Embroidered Border Towel

Swooning over these cotton terry towels with an embroidered detail (an illustrated shower) and contrast border in the most perfect blue.

If Lost Please Return Me To The Sea Art Print - Digital Download

Cheeky prints like this one make sure your coastal decor doesn't get too serious.

Surf Shack: Laid-Back Living by the Water by Nina Freudenberger

Peek inside surfers' homes, from bungalows to trailers to cabins, in this bestselling design tome for coastal decor lovers.

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Are you stressed right now? Maybe not so stressed that you curl up in a ball, or run around screaming, but most of us have at least some stress in our lives. And often that’s a good thing; the right amount of stress motivates us and gets us up in the morning. But if stress gets too much, we start to suffer, become demotivated, and eventually collapse as our nervous system falls apart.

Fortunately, there are ways in which we can build our resilience. Some of these are useful for everyone; getting support from your family and friends, nurturing a positive view of yourself, doing things that you enjoy and find relaxing, developing realistic goals and taking action to achieve them. But some will be unique to you, to your particular circumstances to your personality. If you know your personality type, you will have a head start on knowing what your stress triggers are (and so dealing with them), how you react to stress, and how to cope with that reaction. In other words, how to build resilience.

Personality Types And How They Deal With Stress

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The personality type framework, as measured by the Myers-Briggs(MBTI) assessment, looks at four aspects of personality:

  • Extraversion-Introversion — People with an Extraversion personality preference are energized by and focus their attention on what’s happening around them, their external world. They are likely to find spending too much time alone without enough external stimulation quite stressful. People with an Introversion preference are energized by and focus their attention on their inner world of thoughts and feelings. They can become stressed if they are forced to spend too much time with others, or when they have to cope with too many external distractions.
  • Sensing-Intuition — is all about how we take in information. People with a Sensing preference prefer information that is realistic, practical, built on past or present real-life experiences, and often detailed. They can be stressed when things are ambiguous and unclear, without any clear direction. People with an Intuition preference are interested in the big picture, in how things connect, and in ideas rather than facts. They will find having to follow exact instructions stressful, and working with people who demand lots of detail.
  • Thinking-Feeling —People with a Thinking preference want to make decisions using objective logic and will be stressed when decisions seem to be subjective, or when they are forced to concentrate on people rather than the task at hand. People with a Feeling preference want to make decisions that line up with their values and they will be stressed if they feel that those values are not being respected, and when there is conflict.
  • Judging-Perceiving — People with a Judging preference want to live in an organized, planned way and will find dealing with disorganized people stressful, or having to rush things at the last minute. People with a Judging preference want to live in a more spontaneous, emergent way and will become stressed when they have to deal with inflexible people, or when they are forced to make decisions before they feel they really need to.

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Everyone will have a preference for Extraversion (E) or Introversion (I), for Sensing (S) or for Intuition (N), for Thinking (T) or for Feeling (F), and for Judging (J) or for Perceiving (P). These four preferences combine together dynamically to give one of 16 types. For example, if someone has preferences for Extraversion, Sensing, Thinking and Judging, then their overall type would be ESTJ. If you know your type, you can identify your likely stressors (and so avoid or mitigate them), your typical behavior under everyday stress (so that you can recognize when you are stressed) and what to do to cope with that reaction, stop the stress cycle and so build resilience. Here’s the detail for each type.

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ESTP and ESFP

Stressors

  • Lack of stimulation and excitement
  • Theoretical, abstract tasks without any practical application right now
  • Being physically confined, e.g. though illness or circumstance

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Seeks out more and more external stimulation and excitement
  • May behave in a thrill-seeking or dangerous way or over-indulge
  • Lives solely in the present moment and will not make any decisions

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Pause, stop what you are doing, or think through what you will do next before you do it

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ESTJ and ENTJ

Stressors

  • Inefficient people, systems, or organizations
  • Lack of closure, not being able to make decisions, blockers
  • Having to focus on people's feelings, rather than the task

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Becomes overly directive, forceful, or even aggressive
  • Makes snap decisions and imposes them on others
  • Dismisses evidence/other opinions that don't fir your view

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Stop making any decisions until you have taken some time out to explore all the available information.

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ENTP and ENFP

Stressors

  • People who say "it'll never work"
  • Too much seemingly irrelevant detail
  • Lack of variety; not being able to do anything new

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Shares increasingly impractical ideas with more and more people
  • Unable to take things seriously, becomes destructively 'playful'
  • Will be tied down to decisions

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Slow down. Take some time out to quietly decide on a course of action

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ESFJ and ENFJ

Stressors

  • Conflict with others and between others
  • Lack of warmth, not having friendliness reciprocated
  • Injustice in the world at large

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Become effusive and over-friendly
  • Becomes demanding in getting your own and others' needs met
  • Interprets situations in terms of your values, ignoring any other evidence

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Step back from the situation and the people involved and consider alternatives and the facts

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INTP and ISTP

Stressors

  • Having your carefully reasoned solutions dismissed or ignored
  • Illogical decisions that have not been thought through
  • Excessive displays of approval or emotion from others

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Withdraws to solve problems by yourself
  • Fixates on finding the one correct solution
  • Ignores other people; makes decisions without informing them

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Talk to others to explore information and ideas

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ISTJ and ISFJ

Stressors

  • Having to act without detailed, practical information or plans
  • Having the lessons of your experience dismissed by others
  • Changing things that already work

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Obsessively searches for that one important piece of information
  • Withdraws from the outer world
  • Cannot make a decision until all the information has been found

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Talk to others to help you prioritize and make a decision

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ISFP and INFP

Stressors

  • People who ignore, dismiss, or contravene your values
  • Working in a job that is at odds with those values
  • Inflexible and unthinking people or organizations

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Withdraws into an inner dialogue
  • Obsessively works through decisions that fir your values
  • Ignores facts that do not fit with the picture you have painted

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Talk to others to get their reassurance and help in considering the facts and alternatives

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INTJ and INFJ

Stressors

  • Not having time to think through possibilities before answering
  • Having your well-considered ideas dismissed or ignored
  • Disorganized, opinionated people

Behavior under everyday stress

  • Withdraws to build increasingly complex ideas in your head
  • These models may become divorced from reality
  • Unable to act under every possibility has been explored

How to stop the stress cycle

  • Talk to others to help decide which of your many ideas should be pursued

When you feel stressed, it can get in the way of dealing effectively with life’s demands, and it can affect everything you do. Understanding your MBTI personality type will help you to build resilience.

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