Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard seem to have a picture-perfect marriage. But like any other couple, they鈥檝e had to work to make their relationship what it is. In fact,聽early in their romance, Shepard called out Bell for some 鈥渢oxic鈥 relationship behavior that could have broken them up.

鈥淲hen we first met, we fell madly in love,鈥 the actress recalled聽during an interview for Harry on Wednesday, according to Entertainment Tonight. She then explained that as much as she聽loved Shepard, she also 鈥渓oved the dramatic exit鈥 when they were fighting. 鈥淭here is nothing I craved more,鈥 she admitted.

鈥淭he first year [in a relationship], you鈥檙e working out your kinks,鈥 she continued. 鈥淚 loved it. We鈥檇 get in a fight, because we would fight a lot, and I鈥檇, like, yell something, then I鈥檇 slam the bedroom door, then I鈥檇 slam the front door, then I鈥檇 get in my car, and then I鈥檇 skid out the driveway and then I would just go sit around the corner in my car, and it felt so good鈥︹

We understand the need to let off steam, but Bell now admits that she was indulging in some unhealthy patterns. She eventually realized 鈥渉ow incredibly toxic it was,鈥 but 鈥渙nly after聽[Shepard] pointed it out鈥 to her.

鈥淭hree months into our relationship, he was like, 鈥榊eah, you can鈥檛 leave anymore during fights. I鈥檓 not going to do that.鈥 And I was like, 鈥榃hat?鈥 He鈥檚 like, 鈥榊ou can鈥檛 do that. I鈥檓 not going to have a relationship,'鈥 the Frozen star recalls. 鈥淗e has a very high standard and a strong code of ethics. He was like, 鈥楴o, I have more respect for myself. I love you but I鈥檓 not going to do that my whole life.'鈥

Prior to that, Bell thought she was a good fighter, since 鈥 in her words 鈥 she 鈥渨on,鈥 but Shepard disagreed. 鈥淗e鈥檚 like, 鈥楴o, people can鈥檛 do that. Our marriage won鈥檛 survive.鈥 And everything he was saying was making so much sense, and I was like, 鈥楧amn, this guy.'鈥

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Bell still聽craved her dramatic exits, but the couple agreed to set some ground rules. For instance, when things got heated, she聽was allowed to leave the room, but not the house. They then made the rules even stricter by agreeing that neither person could leave the room, but they could stop talking 鈥 which Bell tried to get around by sending 鈥渕ean texts.鈥

Now, she said, they 鈥渇ight beautifully鈥 鈥 and often! 鈥淲e actually disagree about 99 percent of the things on the planet, but we have an ultimate respect for each other,鈥 she explained.

Their patience and compromises have clearly聽paid off, as they鈥檝e been happily married for almost four years and are the proud parents of two daughters, four-year-old Lincoln and two-year-old Delta. #Goals.

Can you relate to Kristen Bell鈥檚 past 鈥渢oxic鈥 behavior? Do you and your significant other have rules about fighting? Let us know @BritandCo!

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