You can鈥檛 pick that up. You can鈥檛 wear that. You can鈥檛 carry that. You can鈥檛 eat that. That鈥檚 right 鈥 you鈥檙e pregnant and everyone is spewing 鈥測ou can鈥檛鈥 at you. According to some 鈥渉elpful鈥 friends, family, and strangers, you can鈥檛, shouldn鈥檛, couldn鈥檛, probably won鈥檛 do just about anything. One more time and you鈥檙e going to lose it. So as long as you鈥檙e not doing anything that your OB has already nixed, you鈥檒l need some snappy comebacks to those naysayers. Hey, you鈥檙e pregnant: not sick, injured, or otherwise debilitated.

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1. 鈥淢y doctor disagrees.鈥 You鈥檙e out for your morning jog. You know, the one that the medical professional (with the degree and all) okayed. That鈥檚 when a complete stranger approaches you and says something like, 鈥淥h, you shouldn鈥檛 jog when you鈥檙e pregnant. It will jostle the baby.鈥 Um, no. That鈥檚 not what your doctor said. You could keep right on jogging. Or, you could answer back with, 鈥淭he OB is okay with it.鈥 And this isn鈥檛 just a jogging answer. It works for almost anything your doc has given the green light.

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2. 鈥淚t鈥檚 my body and my baby.鈥 This isn鈥檛 someone else鈥檚 pregnancy: It鈥檚 yours. Unless you鈥檙e truly endangering yourself or your baby, what you do (or don鈥檛 do) is no one else鈥檚 business. When the person putting you down for being pregnant is someone you don鈥檛 really know, it鈥檚 completely okay to remind them that this your decision, not theirs.

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3. 鈥淵es, I can.鈥 It鈥檚 simple, to the point, and totally true. You know your limits, and your medical pro has advised you on them. There鈥檚 no way you鈥檙e taking any risks with the precious cargo inside of you. That means you are fully aware of what you can do and what your limitations are. It鈥檚 not like you鈥檙e bench pressing 500 pounds right now 鈥 more likely, you鈥檙e trying to pick up a grocery bag.

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4. 鈥淚 do it all the time.鈥 鈥淲hoa! Should you really be doing that? When you鈥檙e pregnant?鈥 Well, yeah. You鈥檝e done whatever it is you鈥檙e doing something like 100 times鈥 and that鈥檚 in the last week. So it鈥檚 pretty likely that you can do it. Let that well-meaning but slightly annoying person who鈥檚 questioning you know that this isn鈥檛 exactly a new activity. They鈥檒l get the message and realize that you鈥檙e not uniformed when it comes to pregnancy dos and don鈥檛s.

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5. 鈥淲hy not?鈥 It鈥檚 a totally valid question here. Someone, whether you know them or not, has questioned your parenting 鈥 before the baby is even born. Welcome to the wonderful world of mom-shamers! They鈥檙e here to stay, and they鈥檒l judge you every step of the way. Get to the meat of the matter by asking why this person thinks you 鈥渃an鈥檛.鈥 Maybe they have a valid reason, maybe it鈥檚 something they鈥檝e actually experienced, or maybe they鈥檙e just trying to put you down.

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6. 鈥淭hank you.鈥 Sometimes you just need to go with the oh-so-polite approach. When you don鈥檛 know the person, it鈥檚 not worth the fight, or they are just so far off base that you can鈥檛 even deal with it, a simple 鈥渢hanks鈥 will do. You鈥檙e pregnant, you鈥檙e hormonal, and you have a short fuse right now. Yes, you鈥檙e offended by the offhand accusation that you鈥檙e not doing this mommy thing right. Or you鈥檙e angry that someone is telling you 鈥渘o.鈥 Instead of getting into it, let it roll off with a smile and a word of thanks. Enough said.

What鈥檚 your go-to response when someone tells you that you 鈥渃an鈥檛鈥? Tweet us your comebacks @BritandCo!

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