Ali Fedotowsky-Manno may be open to offering advice (like the change she suggested for The Bachelorette), but it turns out that she hasn’t always found it easy to accept the same kind of help she’s obviously so willing to give. In fact, the new mom said that she had a “mental breakdown” after the birth of her daughter, because she refused to ask for assistance.

Ali Fedotowsky-Manno Had a “Mental Breakdown” Because She Refused Help as a New Mom

“For the first eight months of Molly’s life, we never had anyone else watch her — not even a family member,” the 32-year-old told Fit Pregnancy and Baby for their August cover story. “After months of no breaks and little sleep, I legit had a mental breakdown.”

She went on to share more details, revealing, “I remember I was in our kitchen, crying to [her husband] Kevin [Manno] on the phone, saying, ‘I can’t do this anymore. I need help.’ I was holding Molly. She was screaming. I was screaming. It was like out of a movie — I lost my mind.”

Fedotowsky-Manno said that she eventually “learned to ask for help, whether it meant leaning on friends or calling our moms and asking them to fly out and stay with us for a week.” To deal with the day-to-day struggles and responsibilities, the new parents now have a part-time nanny who comes once or twice a week to help with the baby and give the Bachelorette alum a little downtime.

Remember: It takes a village to raise a child, and that sometimes includes grandparents, friends, and a part-time nanny.

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(h/t People; photo via Alberto E. Rodriguez/Getty)