Cheer Up, Taylor: Andi Dorfman’s Top Tips for Getting Over a Breakup
Breakups are tough… but they are especially hard when you get engaged on one of the most-watched reality shows ever and THEN break up with the guy a few months later.
1. Move to a new city. “Start fresh somewhere. Start a new life for yourself. I literally picked up and moved to New York, and it was the best decision I ever made. It took me out of that world of Atlanta and memories. Just start fresh!” Dorfman said. Dorfman says she loves New York and still pinches herself that she lives here and gets to feel a little like Carrie Bradshaw on a daily basis.
2. Try a new workout. The former lawyer said she tried her hand (or handstand rather) at yoga, but it ended up being a terrible idea. “But I got into cardio kickboxing. Endorphins clearly make you feel better and help you get that anger and sadness out,” she said. Plus it always helps to imagine yourself hitting your ex really hard.
3. Pour yourself into new projects. Dorfman is a self-confessed DIY person so she didn’t discover that part of herself during her breakup, but she said working on a project like that is great for getting through a rough time. “I would just say stay distracted. Keep your mind busy. You are going through a heartbreak and don’t be in denial of that but do things that make you feel good.”
4. Use fire. In the book, Dorfman lights a lot of fires. Literally. She suggests writing down all your feelings about your ex and then lighting them on fire (in a safe environment.) “I know it sounded so stupid and small but first of all, purging your feelings is so therapeutic. To actually get those feelings out onto a piece of paper is so cathartic. You are just getting it out of your body. It was burning the bad feelings, burning away the relationship and then it made me feel so validated. Once it was burned, there was no going back to it. I got to rid myself of those negative, emotional feelings.”
5. Have a little wine. She is not saying you need to drink from noon to night, but definitely indulge yourself. “Obviously red wine was my go-to. I think the important thing to keep in mind is that you are naturally going to feel bad about yourself, so anything you can do that makes you happy — whether it’s going to see a movie, going to a cardio kickboxing class, going out with friends, reading a great book — you have to really force yourself. That is the best way to distract yourself.”
6. Get a (subtle) makeover. Dorfman, who did change up her look with bangs in the past year, suggests getting a different look — but not shaving your head or anything too drastic. “Don’t chop all your hair off. Get a new look. Get a nice new outfit,” she suggests.
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(Photos via Nomi Ellenson, Peter Hurley)