There鈥檚 really no getting around it: First dates are super awkward. Even once you鈥檝e brushed up on trendy online dating slang, found the *perfect* first-date outfit, AND picked a date night meal with the least probability of spillage, you鈥檙e still going to have to make awkward conversation with a stranger for an hour鈥 without it turning into a bad game of 20 questions. In order to help us jump back into the dating pool with confidence, we asked five relationship experts for tips on keeping the conversation flowing naturally on an already-awkward first date.

1. Don鈥檛 skimp on the preparation. While planning out every detail of your date on color-coded flash cards may be too much, it never hurts to come with a plan (and having done some diligent Facebook stalking). 鈥淲hen I was dating, I would make sure I had several funny or interesting stories lined up to break the ice and make a good first impression,鈥 says co-owner of Ex-Boyfriend Recovery Jennifer Seiter. 鈥淏ottom line: If you want your date to feel open and comfortable, come prepared.鈥

2. Plan something interactive. If you鈥檙e super worried about running out of things to talk about with your new crush, you may want to consider planning something interactive instead of a typical dinner and movie. 鈥淒inner is nice, but when the bread runs out it can get awkward fast. A first date that鈥檚 an activity can solve this problem,鈥 notes chief communications officer at Peoplelooker (AKA a background checker for online daters) Justin Lavelle. 鈥淔or instance, try an Escape Room. The challenge to escape provides all the conversation you need. Regardless of success, working together is a great way to get to know each other.鈥

3. Ask questions that evoke feelings, passions, and stories. 鈥淭oo often people dig for facts on first dates,鈥 says certified counselor and relationship coach Jonathan Bennett. Instead of digging for answers about the childhood pets or quirky nicknames, Bennett suggests getting your date talking about their passions. 鈥淢ost people are happy to talk about their passions but sometimes are too shy to take the lead,鈥 he notes. 鈥淎sking questions that move the date beyond the usual fact sharing will help continue the conversation, build rapport, and create an instant bond.鈥

4. Take little risks. It may be easy to talk about safe topics and funny anecdotes all night, but don鈥檛 be afraid to take little risks to move the conversation toward something deeper. 鈥淎sk permission to either ask something a little more personal [about your date] or to share something a bit more personal about yourself and/or your background. See how they respond. If it鈥檚 positive, go for it,鈥 says chief psychologist at Montefiore Medical Center Dr. Simon Rego.

5. Ask questions that matter to you. At the end of the day, you probably want to know if your date subscribes to any of your relationship deal breakers *before* you waste your time with a second date. Astroglide鈥檚 resident sexologist Dr. Jess O鈥橰eilly reminds us that we鈥檙e totally allowed to ask these questions on a first date鈥 no matter how awkward they are. 鈥淚f you鈥檙e actually interested in the response (as opposed to simply asking questions to seem interesting or cultured), you鈥檙e more likely to generate rich and meaningful conversations.鈥 In other words: Go for it, lady!

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