Ryan Reynolds is pretty upfront about the challenges of being a dad, and if his views on flying with kids are any indication, he’s not exactly the picture of perfect calm when it comes to parenting. That’s why, despite Blake Lively’s help with anxiety, Ryan Reynolds has revealed why he’s been feeling totally “desperate.”

Ryan Reynolds

Chatting to ET alongside new bestie and Life co-star, Jake Gyllenhaal, Reynolds admitted that it’s time that’s really thrown him for a loop. Or, more specifically, the lack of time needed to do everything he needs to take care of work as an actor, a husband, and especially as a parent to a toddler and an infant.

Ryan Reynolds, Blake Lively, kids

“I think you’re just more desperate in everything you do,” he said, adding, “’Cause you’re like, ‘I’ve got 10 minutes to do this, and then I gotta get home for a thing, and a thing, and a thing…’ There’s just no time anymore, so you’re hardened by it.”

He ended the thought with, “Anxiety, I think, that’s probably it.” We can totally relate, Ryan. Just take a deep breath and then another, and maybe check out some of these super helpful anxiety apps.

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(h/t ET; photos via Michael Loccisano + Matt Winkelmeyer/Getty)