How to Deal When You’re SUPER Mad at a Sibling
Playful brotherly and sisterly bickering can be fun (if it’s just your form of banter), but the sibling rivalry that’s been driving you both for years also contains the seeds of real conflict that can blossom into a full-fledged fight. (Even if your arguments have less to do with “Who cut the hair off my Barbies??” these days.) Instead of completely losing it the next time your bro/sis pisses you off, here are five ways to deal that’ll have both of you feeling the family love. Because even if you never reach sibling tattoo status, you guys still need each other — especially when it comes to dealing with your parents.
Don’t just think of them as your sibling.
not yelling “No, you shut up!” at any time during an argument.)
2. Remember why you love them. In the middle of an argument or during a stalemate where you’re both refusing to pick up the phone, try to remember all the good times you’ve had with your sibling, and why you would want to repair that relationship. Your shared history can be a challenge to navigate, but it’s also a huge asset. They probably know you deeper than anyone else in your life, even if at the moment you hate to admit it.
3. Don’t try to change them. A lot of times, sibling fights will arise when one is critical of the other’s life choices. You might think you know better because you’re the oldest — or have a fresher perspective because you’re the youngest — but nobody likes unsolicited advice. Even when you think you have their best interests at heart and you’re not purposely being judgmental, it’s just not your place to direct their life or try to “save” them from their own decisions.