Kristen Bell’s List of What Makes Her Marriage Work Is a Must-Read on Lasting Love
Kristen Bell and husband Dax Shepard are open about the joys, struggles, and lessons that come with their marriage, and in a new handwritten note, Bell shared some sage advice about what she called “the A-Z of what keeps my marriage with Dax healthy.”
“I was writing a note to friends who were getting hitched,” the Good Place star tweeted. “I wrote congratulations then thought, ‘Kristen! Aren’t u old & married? Don’t u have any wisdom to share?!'” What followed was a list of heartfelt advice that was as personal as it was universal.
“Vulnerability always begets connection and intimacy,” the note began. “Stay vulnerable with each other.” She also stressed the importance of fighting the fading spark. “In 10 years, when the dopamine has waned, remember: Life is a crazy ride. It’s a privilege to go through it with a partner.”
Bell further advised that couples should “take necessary separateness” and “rejoice in what makes the other person happy, and allow them their individual interests.”
She added, “Loving someone despite their faults, failings, or character defects is the most powerful loving thing you can do.”
I was writing a note 2 friends who were getting hitched. I wrote congratulations then thought "Kristen! Arent u old & married? Dont u have any wisdome to share?!" When i was done, I realized Id written the A-Z of what keeps my marriage w/@daxshepard1 healthy. #HappyValentinesDay pic.twitter.com/d0ew7hydUL
— Kristen Bell (@IMKristenBell) February 14, 2018
Bell and Shepard have been together for a decade (they got hitched in 2013 after she proposed to him on Twitter) and share two daughters. The Frozen star is the first one to say that marriage can be hard, admitting that, when needed, the couple attend therapy together. Ultimately, though, they’re committed to putting in the work.
“Know that everyone is doing the best they can with that they’ve got,” Bell compassionately concluded her note of advice. “So get a bigger emotional tool box to fix your problems.”
What relationship or marriage advice would you give to friends? Let us know @BritandCo!
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)