When Ben Higgins and Lauren Bushnell celebrated their one year anniversary, it looked like their love was as strong and adorable as ever, even sparking their own spinoff show. That’s why we were totally shocked when Ben called off their wedding. Is love dead?! Well, maybe not for these two, as it turns out Ben and Lauren are in a totally unexpected place after cancelling their big day.

While our initial glimpse of their rocky relationship sitch showed a stunned and tearful Lauren getting the news from Ben, we now know that things aren’t so dire. Just… paused. “This thing sped up real fast, and we haven’t had a second to breathe,” Ben told his fiancée, according to ET, adding, “Now it’s time not to rush anything else.”

Though he does indeed want to cancel their current wedding plans, Ben doesn’t want to ditch them forever, just slow things down to a manageable pace. Although it may be hard for Lauren to hear that Ben isn’t ready to get married, he assured her it’s just that he’s not ready yet. But when he is feeling the marriage vibe, it’s still Lauren he wants to spend the rest of his life with, saying, “You’re the woman of my dreams.”

And now that Ben has been open with his true feelings, he says things are better than ever with the pair. “We’re in one of the best places we’ve ever been in our relationship — probably the best place. We’re feeling less stressed. We’re feeling less pressured. We’re able to laugh and smile more.”

To put it blatantly so that there’s no confusion: “We are together, happier than ever — no plans to break up!”

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(h/t ET)