Your best friends have been there through pretty much everything: the wonderful stuff, the weird stuff, and the really, really hard stuff. When your bestie is in crisis, finding a way to help them through it can feel scary and daunting. Whether the person you care about is getting over a breakup, grieving a death, or struggling with another tough time, crisis clinician Angela Tennyson has some tips on how to be there for your BFF.

A woman consoles her friend

1. Be selfless. 鈥淢eet your friend where they are, and do not try to push them into your own agenda,鈥 Tennyson instructs. 鈥淎llow them to open up with their processing in their time.鈥 This means resisting the urge to relate their feelings or circumstances back to things you鈥檝e experienced; when you focus only on your friend and their feelings, you鈥檒l help them by validating their experience.

2. Give them grace. One of the most important things you can do for a friend going through a crisis is to give them a safe, nonjudgmental space to process their emotions. This means refraining from using statements such as, 鈥淵ou鈥檒l get over this soon鈥 鈥 especially since there is no time limit to grief. 鈥淎 kind touch, a nod of understanding, or even a soft Kleenex allows your friend to know it鈥檚 perfectly normal to cry as much as needed,鈥 shares Tennyson.

3. Let them know you鈥檒l be there. Simply being present makes all the difference in times of crisis. No matter what your friend is going through, demonstrating to them that you will show up for them means that they will never have to experience anything alone. When you can鈥檛 be there, Tennyson recommends collaborating with other supporters to ensure your friend will always have someone by their side.

4. Be patient with their recovery. 鈥淲hat might take you a short time to recover from and go back to your norm may take your friend much longer,鈥 Tennyson reminds. Since, as we mentioned, there isn鈥檛 a universal timeline for grief, be patient as your friend takes whatever time they need to recover. If necessary, Tennyson recommends helping your friend find professional help to aid in your absence.

5. Take care of yourself too. Watching someone you love go through something terrible isn鈥檛 easy. During this hard time, Tennyson implores you to keep tabs on your own mental health as well. 鈥淏eing a good supportive friend does not mean you have to take on your friend鈥檚 pain by vicariously living through them,鈥 she cautions. 鈥淜eeping in mind your own self-care and detachment will allow you to be the best supportive friend you can be.鈥

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