Each year, as soon as the clock strikes midnight on November 1, cuffing season begins (as if all the updated relationship statuses in your feed weren鈥檛 enough of a reminder). This mad dash for monogamy lasts until Valentine鈥檚 Day and is actually driven by biological聽factors. Unfortunately for college kids, though, cuffing season is cut right in half by winter break. If you found yourself a cuddle buddy but didn鈥檛 have time to turn it into a committed relationship before finals ended, the month apart can be tricky to navigate. We spoke with Columbus, Ohio-based relationship coach Jonathan Bennett about how to keep the fling afloat until next semester, even if you haven鈥檛 DTR鈥榙.

1. Stay in touch. 鈥楾is the season for texting and FaceTime. Thankfully, technology has made it pretty easy to keep in touch no matter how many miles separate you and your boo. By making time to talk to them, even if it鈥檚 through a screen, you鈥檙e letting them know you consider them a priority. And according to Bennett, halting communication sends the opposite message loud and clear too. 鈥淚f you take forever to respond to texts and rarely engage him or her, don鈥檛 be surprised if he or she looks elsewhere for attention or gradually loses interest,鈥 he says.

2. Keep busy. Although it鈥檚 important to keep up contact, try not to have your nose in your phone too much. 鈥淲hen you鈥檙e separated from someone you like but haven鈥檛 had the 鈥楧TR鈥 talk, it鈥檚 very easy to overthink everything, whether it鈥檚 analyzing social media posts for clues or obsessing over who that new guy or girl is in a Snapchat story,鈥 Bennett says. The holidays are a time to spend with your family and hometown friends, so put the phone away and be present in this season鈥檚 festivities. This way, you鈥檒l be too distracted to think about the uncertainty of your relationship status.

3. Remain confident. If things were going well between you two prior to break, it鈥檚 likely they鈥檒l proceed that way after you return. Make a point not to act needlessly jealous or controlling throughout the month, as these are sure ways to sabotage a relationship in the making, Bennett says. Use your communications over break as the needed reassurance that things are still moving in the right direction.

4. Be realistic. Again, Bennett stresses calm and relaxed over needy and possessive. If you and your crush have yet to define the relationship, then you must remember you鈥檙e not actually in one. 鈥淵ou have to take an attitude of detachment toward the other person,鈥 Bennett says. If you catch yourself having difficulty emotionally detaching during your time apart, perhaps that鈥檚 a sign DTR-ing should be on your to-do list next year.

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