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Feeling insecure at work? Like, you just might get exposed for not actually knowing what you're doing? You're not alone! That nagging little voice whispering "you're not good enough" is imposter syndrome, and it's a super common (and super annoying) experience. But fear not, my fabulous friend. Instead of letting it derail your career and your sense of self, let's kick that imposter syndrome to the curb with some actionable tips that are way more effective than hiding under your desk.
Fight imposter syndrome with these therapist-approved tips!
1. Acknowledge and Name It
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The first step to conquering any monster is to recognize it. When that familiar feeling of inadequacy creeps in, pause and identify it as imposter syndrome. Saying, "Ah, there you are, imposter syndrome, you pesky little thing," can help you separate yourself from the feeling and reduce its power. Bring it to life! Draw a picture, or cut out images that you associate with your personal imposter pest, and then flip it the bird whenever you feel it sneak up on you.
2. Track Your Achievements
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Keep a "win file" or a running list of your accomplishments, big and small. This could be a document, a spreadsheet, or even just a notebook. Include positive feedback, successful projects, problems you solved, and skills you've mastered. When imposter syndrome strikes, pull out your file and remind yourself of all the awesome things you've done. These items don't have to be epic in scope either; sure, logging a promotion is great, but so is stuff like "remembered to staple the minutes before passing them out, finally."
3. Share Your Feelings (Wisely)
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It isn't easy, but talking about these feelings helps. Talk to someone you trust, like a colleague, mentor, or friend, about what you're experiencing. Chances are, they've felt it too. Hearing that others share similar struggles can be incredibly validating and make you feel less isolated. Choose someone who will offer support and perspective, not fuel your self-doubt.
4. Focus on Learning, Not Perfection
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Perfect is a lie! Shift your mindset from needing to be perfect to embracing continuous learning. No one knows everything, and proper growth comes from being open to new knowledge and skills. See challenges as opportunities to learn, not as tests of your inherent worth.
5. Separate Feelings from Facts
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Your feelings are valid, but they aren't always accurate representations of reality. Just because you feel like you're not good enough doesn't mean it's a fact. Look for objective evidence of your capabilities and contributions. If you feel doubt growing, channel your inner Dragnet and make sure you're looking at "just the facts."
6. Avoid Comparison Traps
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There's just one you, and that is AWESOME. Social media and even office chatter can lead to harmful comparisons; don't get bogged down in that game. Remember that everyone presents a curated version of their life and work. Focus on your own journey, progress, and goals, rather than measuring yourself against others' perceived successes.
7. Celebrate Small Wins
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Don't wait for a huge promotion or a groundbreaking discovery to celebrate. Acknowledge and appreciate your small victories along the way. Finishing a challenging task, getting positive feedback on a minor project, or even just making it through a tough meeting; these are all worthy of a mini-celebration. High-five!
8. Set Realistic Expectations
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No one is expected to be an expert in every single aspect of their job from day one. Understand that growth takes time and effort. Be kind to yourself as you navigate new challenges and acquire new skills. You're your own fiercest critic, try to be your biggest cheerleader too!
9. Seek Feedback (Constructively)
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Regularly seek feedback from your manager and colleagues when the opportunity arises. Constructive criticism can help you identify areas for improvement, but it also provides a clearer picture of your strengths and what you're doing well, often dispelling those imposter syndrome doubts.
10. Practice Self-Compassion
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Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend. When you're feeling down on yourself, remind yourself that it's okay to struggle sometimes, and that these feelings don't define your actual abilities. You've got this! When I catch myself doing this, I actually say out loud, "Don't talk about my friend that way!" It really helps shift the perspective.
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