Although traveling while single is hella fun, there are some big advantages to traveling solo and being in a committed relationship. Partners these days are really pushing the boundaries on what 鈥渘ormal鈥 means, and if that includes a little bit of an LDR, then more power to you. In between downloading a long-distance relationship app or two and choosing the best country to travel solo, scroll on for relationship counselor Rebecca Nilson鈥檚 thoughts on what happens when you travel without your S.O.


1. You fall back in love with yourself. We won鈥檛 get into how frighteningly fast we sometimes turn 鈥測ou and me鈥 into 鈥渨e,鈥 and that鈥檚 really cute for selfie purposes, but we can easily start to lose our sense of self in that comfort. Rebecca reminds us, 鈥渋t鈥檚 important people maintain their identity in a relationship. You come together as one, but for a healthy, long-term relationship, it鈥檚 important to have your own hobby. This could mean traveling and being apart.鈥

There鈥檚 something completely refreshing about being in a new city by yourself. Without having to compromise for anyone else, you get to just be you, and that can be a glorious thing. Take time to do all the things YOU want to do and think of it as an opportunity to spend quality time with yourself. That relationship is equally important.

2. You learn how to appreciate new experiences and communicate them. Sure, full moon parties on the beaches of Thailand sounded fun once, but a six-day bender with kids who just graduated from high school isn鈥檛 exactly the trip you had in mind at this phase of your life. Be realistic with your expectations and interests, because even though travel releases the explorer within us, this doesn鈥檛 have to mean clubbing through every city.

No matter how you鈥檙e seeing the world, being open with your partner about these experiences is the most important part. 鈥淟earning to communicate is a skill鈥 we practice it, we make mistakes, we hopefully learn and then do it better next time. This is critical in long-distance relationships.鈥


3. Your relationship is tested. 鈥淎s with any healthy relationship, I think three components must be there: trust, loyalty and commitment.鈥 Being in a foreign place and away from your love can definitely be tough, but no one ever said relationships were easy. Rebecca鈥檚 words of wisdom are, 鈥淕ood things take work, maintenance. Especially relationships. It takes two and both people must be willing to commit.鈥

The best way to test a car is to take it out on the open road, so let鈥檚 apply the same logic. If there are some loose screws, but you鈥檙e both willing to take a look under the hood 鈥 okay, no more car analogies 鈥 then it can actually bring to light some issues you might have buried. You and your boo can totally benefit from being tested every now and then.

4. You go beyond hookups. We all have some great stories of transient affairs and some let鈥檚-not-even-go-there ones, but we can all agree that nothing compares to that feeling of a true companionship. Rebecca tells us, 鈥淓ach day, choose that person. Let them know you still choose them, each and every day. If you find yourself in a committed relationship that brings your partner far away for some time, it takes effort, but it is often worth it.鈥

When you鈥檝e reached this level of comfort, you can actually use that to focus on what else is around you. We spend a lot of time romanticizing romance, but sometimes it can be exhausting. Taking a break from it all and giving yourself your undivided attention might change your perspective. Whether it鈥檚 viewing the Arc de Triomphe or the Great Wall of China, your experience is marked by just that: your experience.


5. You learn how to keep the romance alive. Rebecca tells us, 鈥淚n this day and age, it鈥檚 easy to stay connected. To send a 鈥榯hinking of you鈥 message, we have FaceTime and Skype. You can still have dates if one person is traveling overseas for a week, a month or even a year. Yes, the year is more difficult. But it is possible. I have worked with many people in relationships who had to do that.鈥

Think of travel as your opportunity to go vintage and write real letters, or send postcards from each of your stops. Too often couples fall into a rut of routine, and nothing revives those honeymoon feelings more than a bit of distance and adventure. You鈥檒l both have so many stories to tell each other when you finally reconnect.

What do you think about traveling without your boo? Got any tips for us? Tweet us your thoughts @BritandCo.

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