Meet the Young Republican Software Engineer Who Wants to Fix Washington

Women Who Run highlights female political candidates on both sides of the aisle who are poised to change the face of local, state, and federal government for the better.

If there’s one thing we can take away from the 2016 election, it’s that you don’t have to be a career politician to win a seat in office. Which is among the countless reasons the 2018 election has emboldened an exponential amount of women — particularly younger women — to get their names on the ballot. Among those newcomers is Republican Naomi Levin, a software engineer and daughter of Soviet Union refugees who is challenging New York Democratic incumbent Jerry Nadler for the Congressional seat.

“As an engineer, someone who is trained at solving problems, I know how to find practical and scalable solutions,” Levin says. “So that’s how I’m approaching policy. In my job, I was fixing bugs every day and we have so many metaphorical bugs to fix and so many things we can do be doing better. We just need to have that pragmatic approach.”

Levin says she hopes this will be “the year of the Republican woman,” and shift the political discourse back to the issues. After pushing through the primaries, she has her eyes set on a November win that will allow her to focus on national security, education and tax reform.

B+C: What inspired you to run for office?

Levin: I’ve always been involved in politics. My family history is very interesting and had a huge impasse on me. My parents came from me from the Soviet Union and they instilled in me a very deep appreciation of our American values and our freedoms. And I do believe we have the greatest set of values known to mankind in our country and we need to always be reaffirming those values and protecting them. More immediately, I got involved in 2015 when I found out that Jerry Nadler voted for the Iran nuclear deal, which was a betrayal to his constituents and decided to do something about it and that empowered me. I immediately became an activist. I started volunteering for the campaign for the man who was running against him in the 2016 election and spread the message to activate our communities. I started getting more and more involved and one thing lead to another, and I was recruited to do it this time around.

B+C: What are the main issues you’ll fight if you win?

Levin: I think our focus should be on three key issues: one is strengthening our national security. The second is expanding education opportunities. And the third is lowering our outrageous tax burden in New York. I think that we need to protect American interests. We have to protect our country and prevent Iran from becoming a nuclear power on a physical level. We need to protect our culture. To make sure Americans are able to get the education that they need for their children so Americans are prepared for the future, which is going to be in business and technology.

Being someone who has been a leader on the forefront of emerging technology and in tune with that community and the growing sector that we’re seeing and expanding STEM programs, including those geared towards women in tech. I’m also a big proponent of school choice. We have some excellent charter schools in our district and a very sizable waiting list of parents waiting for their children to get in, so we know that there’s a need for it and we can direct our federal funding there. In terms of our tax burden economically, we need to keep growing our economy because that’s what creates opportunity and allows us to reinvest in the underprivileged people as well. In New York, we have a very heavy tax burden and there are things that can be done on the federal level to alleviate that burden for New Yorkers. We can be removing the housing rent expense from federal income tax. All insurance-approved medical costs as well and some other things.

B+C: What are some of the biggest challenges in your campaign so far?

Levin: Being a young grassroots candidate, I’m going against a very powerful incumbent. That’s a challenge on its own. At the same time, this is the time for somebody like me and creates an opportunity because I think that people are looking for a fresh perspective and somebody who is not a partisan politician. But it’s also challenging. I don’t have access to the same fundraising opportunities that he does, and he’s very entrenched. That’s probably the biggest challenge. A lot of it has been crowdfunding for fundraising, just finding support through every which way. Reaching out to a variety of groups and people, trying every avenue and finding those people who want to support me to help.

We have a lot of volunteers as a result, just bringing awareness of what I’m trying to do. A lot of people have gotten interested organically. I have an incredible team and have been gaining momentum on a national level. When I was on Fox Family and Friends talking about the disturbing trend of socialism that’s been burgeoning and how I’m the answer to that: I’m a grassroots, Millennial candidate. That propelled a small recognition. I was on Larry King last week, talking about the extreme stance in Washington and how the mission of my campaign is to bridge the divide and bring the focus back to the issues.

B+C: As a candidate among a new generation of women running for office, where do you see your impact at being different from your predecessors?

Levin: As a first time candidate — I didn’t try running in the past, so I can’t speak to that — I think there’s a lot of opportunity for women today. I know that there’s twice as many women running for Congress than the 2016 election. Most of them are Democrats, and there’s fewer Republican women running, but it’s the year of the Republican woman in many ways because we’re running on what we stand for, not what we stand against. I think the Republican candidates that I’ve spoken for and myself, we’re not focused on resistance and obstruction. We’re focused on helping Americans and finding ways to improve different services in our country. I think there’s a tremendous opportunity for support for us, as well as anyone that has that focus.

B+C: Being a younger Republican woman, what issues do you think are important to you not only as a Republican, but as a woman?

Levin: As a Republican woman, I think we need to keep our city and our country safe. We need to expand education opportunities and we need to keep living in New York affordable. An important thing I am advocating for is to increase STEM education programs to expand opportunities for women and get them interested in tech. And those are issues that directly affect me that I’m fighting for.

B+C: Immigration is one of the leading controversial issues affecting the country right now. Coming from a family of immigrants, how does this factor into your position on immigration reform?

Levin: It is a huge issue and I think we need to pass immigration reform. Unfortunately, my opponent votes no on every bill the Republican majority will present because of his partisan politics. Whereas I think we need to look at every policy and see what we can do better. I do think that America is a country of immigrants, built by immigrants, but we’re also a country of law. People like my parents who are immigrants, they fled persecution and came here looking for the opportunity to work hard. We should be taking in these kinds of immigrants who want to contribute and not just those who are looking for benefit from our social net. That merit-based immigration will be important.

B+C: How do you make that determination?

Levin: Language abilities, educational qualities, there’s a whole series of questions that people are asked to determine. This is what the experts do.

B+C: What have you learned by being a Republican in a very Democratic city?

Levin: What I’ve learned is that so many Democrats are disillusioned with what they see as a big polarization in their party and a focus on partisan politics. I’ve met so many people who are open and excited about someone who wants to focus on the issues, work across the aisle and doesn’t want the focus to be on partisan politics anymore. It’s actually been really encouraging to see that.

B+C: What advice would you give to women who are interested in running for office?

Levin: I would say that always say and do what you think is right, not what is advantageous in the moment because in the long run, you’ll be grateful that you did.

B+C: How can people support your run?

Levin: My website is naomiforcongress.com. We need support in terms of donations. People can sign up to volunteer if they live in the New York area. And they can sign up for my newsletter as well to stay updated on the race. I’m @naomilevinny on social media.

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We all have big feelings. And thanks to social media and rising levels of anxiety, those feelings, well, feel bigger than ever. That’s exactly where resources like Wondermind come in. The self-proclaimed “mental health ecosystem” is all about exploring, discussing, and navigating our emotions together. This Mental Health Awareness Month, Wondermind wants you to live your mental health journey in community because Mandy Teefey, who co-founded the company with daughter Selena Gomez, knows what it’s like to walk that journey alone.

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“As I went through a very long journey of finding I did have a mental health diagnosis — and then I was misdiagnosed and then I had to go through that — I was blessed to have the resources to do that,” Teefey, who received an ADHD and trauma diagnosis after a 20-year bipolar misdiagnosis, says. “Whenever I started my journey of discovering what mental condition I had…I didn't have anybody to lean into or explain the way I was feeling.”

While these personal experiences helped Teefey better understand mental health, it wasn’t until she produced Netflix’s 2017 series 13 Reasons Whythat she saw just how far the mental health conversation goes. The hit show went viral almost as soon as it aired because of its realistic depiction of mental health and all the aftershocks of trauma.

“After we did 13 Reasons Why and saw the reaction and the need for that support, me and Selena were trying to really figure out what could be next,” Teefey says. “Everybody was releasing things [at] different times. It's like you have to have 12 apps to have a program, and then remember to use them all. So that's when we decided to create a mental fitness ecosystem. So it's all-encompassing, but there's something for everyone.”

“We're not a medicinal company [but] we do have an advisory committee that oversees everything that we do,” Teefey continues. “We're technically not doctors, but we are for everyone when it comes to feelings. Everybody has feelings and they can go to our content hub and just kind of explore that for a while.”

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Admittedly, that exploration bit is pretty fun. The articles are inspiring, and the worksheets (which are each created by an expert) are incredibly helpful. Seeing every program, article, and podcast episode feels like an opportunity to start fresh, but once you have all the ideas in front of you, what do you actually do? Teefey recommends journaling, even if it’s just a sentence every day. (She also loves watching journaling videos from Planning Annie: “Anytime I'm feeling sad or like a little unmotivated, I put her on.”)

Journaling every day, even if your entries are short, allows you to track your mood over an extended period of time. If you notice a consistent sadness, for example, it could be a sign it’s time to check in with your doctor. Plus, journaling can help prepare you for the conversations mental health appointments bring up.

“Sometimes if you go into a therapy session and you're not really settled or concrete in who you are and what may be going on, you might go through what I went through, which is being misdiagnosed,” Teefey says. “It's more important for you to know who you are and what you need prior to going in. So you can give that to them instead of them guessing and working around that process with you.”

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Establishing a consistent routine can help decrease your stress, whether you’re eating the same breakfast every day, or you stick to a tried and true skincare regimen like Sydney Sweeney’s Cassie does on Euphoria. I immediately thought of this teen drama when Mandy Teefey mentioned how important her 4 a.m. routine is. But while Cassie spends time doing her skincare and makeup, Teefey spends time nurturing her soul.

“If I don't have [that routine], I'm usually really off kilter,” she says. “So I get up at 4 when everyone's still asleep, and I found that time could be about me, and I'm not taking it away from anybody. And so that's really what helped me be more grounded throughout the day.”

I can attest that my own quiet time in the morning is vital for a successful day — as is knowing what my boundaries need to be. Because honestly, boundaries can change daily! Teefey and I both acknowledge we have to stay away from sad music to protect our mental health, and she also recommends staying off social media when you feel your mental health struggling.

“I can go three days without looking at social media and then when I go on there, I start having anxiety because I'm like, ‘Oh my gosh, I haven't liked this person. I haven't even liked our own pictures [for] Wondermind.’ And then I start feeling guilty,” she says. “There's just some kind of [expectation] to do social media and you really don't. Not everybody needs to know everything, you know? There's beauty in privacy.”

Even Selena Gomez admitted at the 2024 Time100 Summit that taking time off Instagram "was the most rewarding gift I gave myself."

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The idea of staying off social media is way easier said than done (speaking from first hand experience here). If you feel like you’re drowning in engagement announcements, anxiety-inducing news, and FOMO, Teefey recommends keeping tabs on your reactions to gauge when it’s time to take a serious break.

“If it invokes any emotion that is a negative emotion, I [know] it's not worth being angry about, it's not worth losing sleep about,” she says. “It just feels like there's an unintentional taunting on social media and, ‘Wait a minute, is that about me?’ You don't know this person and then you start running with all this stuff in your mind.”

Like every area of life, social media is all about balance, and if you’re looking to unplug while still staying informed, Mandy Teefey recommends bringing a journal with you when doing your morning news scroll — that way, you can process emotions while keeping tabs on what’s happening. “If anything evokes emotion, I'm meditating during the quiet time,” she says.

Studies have found journaling can help decrease your anxiety, and that it can help you break obsessive thought cycles. And while you’re the only one who can process your thoughts and emotions, it’s important not to isolate yourself from your community — especially when you’re struggling. “You gotta build trust and you gotta build the boundary of who you volunteer [your] help to,” she says.

When it comes to her own daughters, Mandy Teefey knows it’s a process. “You have to work with them and meet them where they're at, and then see the help they need and don't assume [they’re going through] what you went through,” she says. “You've got to really understand them to be able to give that advice.”

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In her own life, Mandy Teefey got to experience building that trust first-hand with Selena Gomez! “One time it was very, very cold in California and me and Selena were on the opposite sides of the pool,” she says. “We were in sweats and she says, ‘Do you trust me?’ And I went, ‘Yeah.’ And she goes ‘Okay, if you trust me, on three, we're gonna jump in this ice cold pool.’”

While Teefey wasn’t convinced, she trusted Gomez, and they both ended up in the freezing cold water! Which is both a funny story and a fond memory: “We couldn't get out of the pool because [our clothes were] so heavy. It was madness!”

“There's a lot of things I know my daughters don't tell me and that's their right,” she continues. “It's so sensitive between teenagers — especially teenagers — and their parents. They're going through that phase and they don't want to be around them and they don't wanna tell them things. It's definitely not easy but maybe put some feelers out there and just make sure that they know you're there and make it okay to have these conversations.”

Thanks to all this actionable advice, we know that Mental Health Awareness month isn’t limited to TikTok videos or Instagram posts we can reshare. There are real tips we can use to take care of ourselves — and a place to go when we need a boost.

Watch Our Full Interview With Mandy Teefey Here!

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If you're struggling with your mental health, check in with your doctor or check out the mental health resources Wondermind offers. You can also use Psychology Today to find a therapist near you.

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Women Who Run highlights female political candidates on both sides of the aisle who are poised to change the face of local, state, and federal government for the better.

Andria Tupola never planned on a career in anything remotely tied to politics. In fact, the native Hawaiian is a former music teacher who is currently in the process of finishing her PhD in music education. But that hasn’t stopped her from serving two terms representing the 43rd District in the Hawaii House of Representatives, being the first Samoan/Hawaiian woman to serve as the House Minority Leader, and aiming for the top in hopes of becoming the next governor.

Coming from an unconventional background and being a political outsider are both assets, she says. It’s a reminder that anyone can run for office and make changes in their local communities.

“Whether people agree or don’t agree, the best part is that we can change it!” she says. “If you don’t like something, then you can voice your concerns, you can run for office, you can suggest amendments. As you know, there have been lots of changes to the constitution from various amendments that have been brought forth. I just like that there’s a guideline that we can all agree to abide by, and if we want to change it, there’s a process to do that.”

As a Republican running in a Democratic-leaning state, she embraces the challenge of redefining the term “Republican” and pushing Hawaii into more of a two-party system.

“Being a Republican has stimulated a lot of conversation,” she says. “I believe in this state. It’s opened their mind to what a Republican could be. I’m younger, I’m 37, I’m a mom running for governor for the state of Hawaii. For me, the opportunity that opens up is that people can get involved at a younger age. And two, people can get involved even if they have family obligations — it’s still possible to do something like this.”

B+C: What originally inspired you to run for office?

Tupola: It was definitely my time in Venezuela. I lived there from 2003 to 2004, I was 23 years old, and I learned a lot about different philosophies of government and how it can impact and affect an entire society. When I got back from Venezuela, I was just very grateful for the freedoms that we have, especially the opportunities to participate in government. Not just in voting, but we have a greater opportunity in this country where you can run for political office to impact change.

So, I came back and I was more cynically minded than I’ve ever been in my life of different issues and philosophies that they have in Venezuela — that they have built a people that was entirely dependent on the government. I started to frame my own philosophy about leadership: that the government should be here to empower us and to help us to take ownership, but that we should never become totally reliant on the government. As you can see in Venezuela, it just didn’t end up well for them. If you go too far to that side of the pendulum, nobody can sustain an entire country, paying for their medical, their education, their housing. That was probably the one thing that got me involved.

After that experience, I came back, finished my degree, and in 2012, that was the first time I started to help candidates. I campaigned for my first candidate that year [Mitt Romney]. I didn’t even know anything about anything — I didn’t even know the difference between the political parties — I just got out and helped because I wanted to see candidates empower their communities and utilize philosophies that can help citizens become more self-reliant.

B+C: What was it about the philosophies of the Republican party that you were drawn to?

Tupola: I really support local businesses, being more mindful of how the economy can play a big role in empowerment. In supporting local businesses, you really do help the economy to flow because you’re not only creating jobs but you’re getting more within the local community. I’m a very community-minded person, so I do believe that even in Hawaii when you talk about business, there really are no large businesses here. Every business in Hawaii is a small business. If we don’t help and support them, we don’t have an economy here.

I appreciate the stance the party takes on supporting the constitution. One thing that took me aback when I was in Venezuela was just the amount of lawlessness. Everywhere I went, people would tell me that the law was there, but it was just a suggestion. Just the chaoticness of living through that really made me grateful for a base foundation on what this country was founded on. Small government; the less government in our lives, the better. Supporting local businesses, making sure to uphold the laws that we have in place now.

B+C: How did you make that transition?

Tupola: I was a missionary for my church. When I got back from Venezuela, I graduated in 2005 with my bachelor’s in music and then I finished my masters in music in 2011. So my track my whole life was to be a music teacher. I absolutely did not want to get into politics; I just wanted to finish my music career and become a music professor — which I did! It’s just that I stepped away to do this. It’s not a joke. Going from a field of music education into politics is like living in Japan. I don’t understand the terms; sometimes the word and the procedures confuse me. So, the past four years of being a legislator have been harder than getting my PhD. Getting a doctorate degree in a field that you know is easy. But stepping into the world of politics and having to become competent on thousands of issues, that is hard. I have to have a stance about what I think about the second amendment, what I think about the Affordable Care Act […] I’ve sat on eight different committees as a legislator — finance committee, public safety, transportation, labor, higher ed, education, health, human services — and I’ve never learned so much different content in such a short period of time.

B+C: What are the main issues you’ll fight if you win?

Tupola: I have to do something about the cost of living. There’s no question in my mind that it’s the most important thing we have to do for our state right now. We are facing such a huge outflux of people leaving Hawaii, local families determining they can’t live here anymore because it’s too expensive, local businesses determining if they can even keep their doors open. There are native Hawaiians that haven’t got housing. There is a huge issue here that we’re not addressing and that is: How do we really [make] the cost of living [affordable] so that local families can go on living here? In conjunction with the cost of living, you have to talk about housing. We have a really bad issue with bringing in developers to build housing that is not for local families, where the median price of a home is like a million dollars. There needs to be more support for local developers, being mindful of the population, and making sure that we have more options for affordable housing.

B+C: Wouldn’t that require more government intervention in terms of regulation?

Tupola: No, that requires the government getting the heck out of the way. Right now, just to build anything like a wall or structure, the average time is 17 months to get a permit. I just met with one of my constituents who can’t get a permit to add an additional room onto his house for his daughter who can’t afford housing. The city won’t give him the permit because they can’t tell how much weight the bridge next to the house can hold, and if we don’t know the weight of the bridge, then we can’t determine if a fire truck can go through it. And if the fire truck can’t go through it, then in the event of a fire, it can’t get put out — it is just so ridiculous. I called the fire chief and I’m like, are we really talking about the weight of the bridge? Our permitting process is a bureaucratic layer of mess of seven different things that you have to get through.

It’s all for safety, but the lag time to get this done and the cost incurred is one of the biggest problems. The delay of permitting increases the cost of your project and your labor. If you have guys waiting on the line, they’re getting laid off. […] These people are losing jobs, their families are going on unemployment and food stamps because they can’t afford to eat because a piece of paper isn’t getting signed. […] All of this is due to government unnecessary regulation with a million steps and 10 people, and everyone has a different view of what needs to [be done to] complete step A and B. If these guys don’t have a legislator like me that sticks my hand in the problem and does it, these are just regular people who don’t know what to do with an incompetent government. We need to make decisions like first responders because these decisions absolutely affect local people’s lives.

B+C: What has posed some of the biggest challenges in your campaign so far?

Tupola: It’s always gotta be hard to raise money. When I ran the first time, it was difficult. My first race, I raised $56,000 and people were like, “Holy smokes! How did you do that?” and it wasn’t easy, I’ll tell you that much. The second race, I raised almost $70,000, and this race, we’re up to $400,000 right now. But it’s a statewide race. I’m running banners, but some of these guys who run for statewide races, they’re dropping like a million dollars. We just bought some radio ads for $1,700 here, $2,000 there. It’s always a challenge, but it’s good because it keeps our campaign humble, very grassroots-oriented. There’s nothing fancy about the way that I do things; we just get out there and do the work.

B+C: Politics are always a spectrum. Where do you see yourself fitting within the modern Republican party?

Tupola: I would say that everyone has a different perspective of what a Republican is, and I think obviously there’s a lot of stigma toward the Republican party, but at the end of the day, there’s not one person that defines what a Republican is. So I believe that one of the things our party is known for is embracing diversity of thought. In this last presidential election, there were maybe 10 candidates running for president. There were all these people running because there’s so much diversity of thought of where the Republican party thinks the country should go.

So I always remind people that whenever you’re part of a group, there’s never one continuous word or description of it. A group is made up of many diverse individuals who have diverse thoughts. I would say for me, I am a very distinct individual who is very community-minded, that talks about issues on a very ground-level basis and grassroots. Even when people speak, they say, “Wow. You’re not very partisan.” And I say, “Yeah, I just talk about parts that matter: schools, laws, facilities, getting Hawaiians in homes.” And none of that has to do with the party, it all has to do with the necessity of our government doing its job to help facilitate a better life for the people of Hawaii. I don’t know where I fall on the spectrum; people might call me a moderate, but again, it’s all about perspective. For some people I’m too right-wing; for some people, I’m a screaming liberal.

B+C: What advice would you give to women who are interested in running for office?

Tupola: I would say check your motives. If your motive is to serve the people and better the community, then do it. If you have the motive to see positive change and you can envision that, get involved. But I would never ever advise anyone to get involved in politics if you’re looking for a career or looking for a powerful position. My main concern with people that I work with is if you have the real desire to love the people you serve and put yourself aside, and do what the people need and ask those real questions — that’s why you should get into office. If you have any other motives, just check your motives, because it is no joke to run for office. Once you get in, you need to be ready to have hundreds of thousands of people pick apart every idea you’ve ever had in your life. If that motive or drive isn’t pure or centered on the people you serve, you will get burned out for sure.

B+C: How can people support your run?

Tupola: I have a website at votetupola.com. We raise money every day, so you can donate. If you want to volunteer, even if you don’t live in the state, we have people from out of state who help all the time. They do calling, they do social media posting. And lastly, if you are in the state of Hawaii, the best thing you can do to help me is you can vote for me.

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After The Gray Man and a year full of Barbie and Ken, The Fall Guy (plus the upcoming Ocean's 11 prequelwith Margot Robbie) continues to prove Ryan Gosling is THE definition of a star. And between his friendship with Emma Stone and his relationship with Eva Mendes,Ryan seems like the kind of guy we'd all want to be best friends with — and not just because of his endless #Kenergy.

Not only is Ryan the sweetest partner, he's also the ultimate girl dad to daughters Esmeralda and Amada. Their "interest in Barbie and disinterest in Ken," as Ryan tells People, get him to Barbieland in the first place, but he also just revealed they "asked specifically" he avoid one The Fall Guy stunt. “My kids didn't want me to be set on fire,” he says. “Even though I said, ‘Well, it's actually, technically the safer thing to do because there's a lot of protective stuff involved, [they] were like, ‘No. No fire.’ So I didn't do it.”

It's clear that Ryan Gosling's children are spitfires and I love to see it! Here's everything you need to know about Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling's kids.

How many children do Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes have?

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Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes have two children, Esmerelda Amada and Amada Lee. Amada was named after Eva's grandmother — both my sister and I have family names and I love seeing the way different families carry on that tradition!

How old are Ryan Gosling's kids?

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Esmerelda was born in September 2014, meaning she'll turn 10 this fall. Amada just turned 8 at the end of April!

How does Ryan Gosling prioritize his kids?

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In his recent profile with WSJ, Ryan Gosling revealed he only picks roles that will benefit his whole family. "I don't really take roles that are going to put me in some kind of dark place," Ryan says. "The decisions I make, I make them with Eva and we make them with our family in mind first."

"I think La La Landwas the first," he continues. "It was sort of like, 'Oh this will be fun for them too, because even though they're not coming to set, we're practicing piano every day or we're dancing or we're singing.'"

Every couple needs to figure out what prioritizing their kids looks like for them, and considering how much I love all Ryan's recent roles, I'd say this is a shift that benefits everyone ;).

When did Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes have their daughters?

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Eva Mendes gave birth to Esmerelda on September 12, 2014 and later had Amada on April 29, 2016.

Are Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes still together?

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Yes, Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes are still going strong, and thank goodness. Eva just revealed that Ryan provides a ton of support for her. "When I was 40, it was a big deal for people when I was pregnant, and it wasn't for me," she tells People. "And then I was 42 and I was pregnant with my second one and people were like, 'Oh my God, you're going to be so tired. That's why people have kids in their 20s.' I was like, that's the most sorry, asinine thing I've ever heard."

"[Ryan supports me] in all the ways I need to be supported," she continues. "He's got me in all the ways."

How has fatherhood affected Ryan Gosling?

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Considering Ryan Gosling's daughters are such a huge part of his life now, it's hard to believe that earlier in life, he wasn't sure he wanted kids. "After I met Eva, I realized that I just didn’t want to have kids without her," he tells GQ. "And there were moments on The Place Beyond the Pines where we were pretending to be a family, and I didn’t really want it to be pretend anymore." Now, I'm going to need you to pause and reread that quote because I can't believe that's a real sentence. I'm obsessed!

A source also told People in 2023 that "Ryan is such a fun dad. He is goofy and his girls love it."

Via WSJ, we also know that since Ryan Gosling's kids have started learning Spanish, they now call him Papi. "It kills me every time," he says. "There's just nothing, nothing better than that."

What has Eva Mendes said about their daughters?

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Eva Mendes is just as obsessed with her and Ryan Gosling's children as he is, and she's talked about how they make life so much better. "Oh April…I have such a complicated relationship with you," she says on Instagram. "[April 2] would have been my brother’s birthday…..in a couple of weeks from now is the day we lost him…but then, the end of April we got the biggest blessing of all, my little girl was born 8 years ago. I hate you April. But I love you more."

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Bloating is a common digestive issue that can make you feel sluggish, uncomfortable, and self-conscious. While bloating is often caused by overeating, there are other factors that can contribute to this uncomfortable sensation, such as consuming gas-producing foods or experiencing hormonal changes.

The thing is that bloating happens to the best of us so it doesn't mean you're weird if you haven't figured out what's causing your tummy issues. Between weight fluctuations and hormonal changes post-birth, I still haven't cracked the 'happy digestive system' code. But, that lack of knowledge is no match for the expertise of Dr. Brynna Connor, MD — a Healthcare Ambassador at NorthWest Pharmacy.

Based in Austin, Texas where she has her own private practice, Dr. Connor is a member of the Texas Academy of Family Practice, the American Academy of Family Practice, and the Texas Medical Association. In other words, she has nearly two decades worth of medical experience that makes her the right person to answer all our "How to get rid of bloating" questions.

Whether you're dealing with the occasional bloat or chronic digestive issues, Dr. Connor has expert tips to help you find relief and get back to enjoying healthy meals that your body loves.

How can I tell if I'm bloated?

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Before I became a mom, it was easy for me to recognize the immediate signs of bloating. I only experienced it during PMS and the week of my cycle, but it always went away for a few weeks. Not only that, I used to be able to pinpoint which foods were the culprit of horrific period cramps and the inevitable gassiness that seemed to make my cycles 10x worse. Now, things are up in the air and I'm joining the ranks of other curious women who want to know what's considered bloating.

Dr. Connor says, "There are various symptoms a woman may experience if she’s bloated. Bloating may make you feel like your stomach is tight or full and can cause abdominal pain, swollen/distended stomach, flatulence, belching, and/or stomach cramps. It’s not uncommon to experience multiple symptoms of bloating at once."

I don't think I need to mention just how uncomfortable things can feel when experiencing multiple bloating symptoms.

What triggers bloating symptoms?

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I mentioned my daily cycle as one of the reasons I knew I used to experience bloating, but there are more things that can trigger it. "Bloating occurs when your gastrointestinal or digestive system(s) are filled with gas or liquid and there are six common potential causes," says Dr. Connor.

She lists having gas as one of the first reasons. "It’s normal to experience symptoms of excess gas, especially after eating and/or drinking as you may have also swallowed small amounts of air. Certain factors may increase the likelihood that you experience bloating after eating, such as chewing gum, drinking carbonated beverages, and/or eating or drinking too fast."

Hearing this reminds me of the moments I was told to slow down when eating my food as a little girl.

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There's also the chance that you have a food intolerance. I only speak for myself when I say that I'm only able to consume dairy in small increments and tomato sauce? Well, I can just forget that because lately my stomach skips bloating and heads right to nausea. What gives, you ask?

Dr. Connor says, "You can experience bloating if your digestive system has trouble breaking down certain foods. Common food intolerances that can lead to bloating include lactose intolerance, gluten intolerance, and/or fructose intolerance." Feeling mind-blown about possibly having a fructose intolerance? Same here, but Dr. Connor explains what happens when our body breaks down certain foods.

"There are also chemicals found in particular foods that can increase the chances of bloating after they’re ingested, including histamine (found in wine and cheese), caffeine, alcohol, sulfites (found in beer and wine), and monosodium glutamate (MSG – found in ripe fruit and cured meat)," she says.

If you're hearing someone play the world's smallest violin, it's me mourning the fact that my two greatest loves — wine and cheese — may not be the best things to consume together.

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I can say it's been a while since I've been constipated, but only because my doctor all but demanded that I start taking probiotics and eating more probiotic-rich foods. Still, it always sucks when constipation happens which explains the bloating that tends to follow.

"When your large intestine absorbs too much water from your stool, it becomes harder and more difficult to pass. The resulting buildup of stool in your colon can lead to bloating, swelling, and stomach/abdominal pain, and you’re particularly susceptible to constipation if you’re not getting enough fiber, water, or exercise. Changes to your daily routine or an increased level of stress can also contribute to constipation and bloating," says Dr. Connor.

Somehow this is oddly comforting to know that stress can also be a culprit.

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Like I mentioned before, starting your period is one of the reasons you can experience bloat. What Dr. Connor says next will occupy a space in your mind if you're never considered what happens during that special time of the month.

"Certain hormones, like estrogen, can cause your body to hold onto water, which can cause swelling in the abdomen. Estrogen can also interact with progesterone in your digestive system, leading to increased gas in your intestines. Bloating prior to your period may also be caused by the increase in volume in your uterus just before your period starts," she says.

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I've been prescribed different medications after two of my surgeries and found that I experienced unusual bloating that led to horrific cycles. Dr. Connor says there's a reason why certain medications or supplements can cause this to happen.

"...fiber supplements can cause bloating or constipation when the supplement isn’t taken with enough water. Other medications that can lead to bloating and/or constipation include opioids like hydrocodone or oxycodone, non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDs) such as aspirin or ibuprofen, iron supplements, and antihistamines like Benadryl," she offers.

Although I no longer take Benadryl, I can confirm I experienced a ton of bloating when trying to combat my allergies.

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Lastly, Dr. Connor says there could be underlying medical reason you're experiencing bloating. "People living with gastrointestinal diseases like Celiac Disease, an inflammatory bowel disease such as Crohn’s or ulcerative colitis, or irritable bowel syndrome are more likely to experience bloating, excess gas, and constipation."

She also says, "Underlying liver disease or cancers can also cause bloating in the abdomen, which is why you should talk to your doctor if you are experiencing prolonged symptoms associated with bloating, or if you’re having any additional symptoms such as vaginal bleeding, or pelvic pain, blood in your stool, difficulty swallowing, or any excess fatigue or unexplained weight loss."

What are some ways to reduce bloating in general and during PMS/menstrual cycles?

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Dr. Connor says managing bloating can depend on what's triggering your symptoms. It's always best to schedule an appointment with your doctor if you concerned about your digestive health, but there are things you can do at home to provide some relief.

"At-home solutions include over-the-counter (OTC) medications like Gas-X or antacids that can be taken together or separately. Probiotics can also help reduce gas and restore the balance of bacteria in your digestive tract. Herbal remedies like peppermint, chamomile tea, or turmeric, can aid digestion, and peppermint oil can help relax muscles in the stomach that aid in the passing of gas."

She also suggests that you increase your fiber intake, incorporate exercise in your routine, and stay hydrated.

By taking steps to reduce bloating, you can improve your overall health and feel more comfortable in your daily life.

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