Women Who Run: The Fighter Pilot Trying to Land a Seat in Kentucky Congress

Women Who Run is a series highlighting six female candidates currently running for office. Whether the roles they’re campaigning for are in local, state, or national government, they’re all proof that more women are getting involved in politics than ever before.

Amy McGrath has America’s attention. The retired Marine Lt. Col. launched her Democratic congressional campaign in Kentucky this past August with a powerful video that highlighted her historic achievement as the “first woman Marine to fly in an F-18 in combat.” The clip went viral, and while McGrath, 42, was already confident in her skills as a leader, she admits the reaction to the video was a surprise.

“I’m trying not to get a big head out of it,” she laughs as we discuss her campaign over the phone. McGrath, like many others, felt driven to action after the 2016 presidential election. She was nearing retirement after 20 years in the Marine Corps and, recognizing her privilege of time and resources, her lifelong sense of service to her country took over. She’ll run against Republican incumbent Andy Barr, who, as she says in the ad, “said he would vote enthusiastically to take health care away from over a quarter million Kentuckians.”

McGrath’s mission is not only to protect health care but to redefine good leadership in her state — and to the country. “At the end of the day, the government is made up of people,” she stresses. “It’s not a big, bad beast. It’s people.”

B+C: What inspired your run for office?

McGrath: There were a lot of factors. The biggest one for me was, like a lot of Americans, the day after the 2016 election, I sort of took a step back and reflected on how I could proactively react to what occurred, where I thought my country was going, and what I wanted for my kids.

Over the course of spring 2017, when the Republicans started pushing through their repeal and replace plan, it seemed completely political and not in the best interest of the country. That’s when I realized that these people are not leading in the best interest of the country. They’re leading for their political party. It made me realize the time was now.

It worked out for me personally, because I was retiring, and my husband was as well. When you’re someone who is retired from the military, you have, although you’re not making the same amount while you’re in service, you have something. I thought, there are other 42-year-old women out there who may want to run for office, who also have three small kids, but they have to work. They don’t have the flexibility that I have. I have to do this. Yes, it’s a sacrifice, and it’s really rather stupid financially! But I have to do it. We need more women. We need more veterans. I’m all of those things, and I have a desire and want to lead.

B+C: It seems like that desire to lead and serve was with you from a very young age. Where did that come from?

McGrath: My role models were my parents. They were hard-working Americans. My mother was a doctor, and my father was a high school teacher who took me and my brother and sister around in the summertime to visit historical sites around the country, especially Kentucky. It really instilled in me a love of American history. Some of my patriotism comes from that.

B+C: What initially introduced you and made you interested in being a fighter pilot?

McGrath: I used to watch the History Channel, and one time, there was a special on fighter pilots and jets in the United States. Somebody had said on that documentary that the best pilots were the ones that could fly and land on aircraft carriers, and I thought, that’s what I want to do. I was a young tomboy, very athletic, and at that time, for a girl to just roll in and beat all the guys at sports, it gave me a confidence. When I saw that, I thought, “Well, that’s what I want to do. I can do tough things.”

B+C: What are the main issues you’ll fight for if you win?

McGrath: The number one issue when I talk to people around here, and that I will fight for for them, is health care. Kentucky has been a success story for the Affordable Care Act. It’s not perfect, but we need to make sure that we don’t get set back to the way things were 10 years ago. That would hurt a lot of Kentuckians. We need to fix and tweak what we have and make it better.

The other issues align with the values that I have. The biggest thing is getting someone in office who is of character and integrity who isn’t going to lie to people and not going to bring simplistic solutions to very complex problems, from immigration to environment and national security, and all of the major issues we have today.

B+C: What are some of the main differences between you and your opponent?

McGrath: Healthcare, for one. Two, let’s stop demonizing immigrants and start working to bring them into society. In terms of jobs, we need to diversify our economy. The opioid crisis is another thing. Those are in addition to the American values that I fought for and stood for. Standing up for minorities, diversity, equal opportunity — these are the things that are strikingly different between my opponent and myself.

B+C: It’s clear your message is resonating so far — your campaign announcement video went viral. Were you surprised by how big it was?

McGrath: I was very surprised. The truth is, we need people who are grounded. One of the cool things about being a mom to three young kids is that I’m definitely grounded every day. I do feel that people around the nation are just hungry for someone to stand up and, what I call, raise the “bullshit flag.” We can’t even have a conversation anymore without each ripping apart the other side, and it’s hurting us. It’s hurting our nation. Nobody looks at people in political office as leaders anymore. Right now, I worry that we don’t have any. I want my kids to grow up and look at political leaders and say, “Hey, that was a good person. That was someone who cared about the country, who was a public servant, who did a lot of good.”

B+C: Something that seems to be coming up a lot now is that party division. How do you see it working productively going forward?

McGrath: Three things. One, more women in Congress will help. We collaborate better and egos aren’t as big. I’m generalizing here, but I think, why not? Let’s give it a shot. Two, more veterans in Congress would help. We have a shared mission — our country comes first. I never looked at my wingman and said, “Are you a Republican or a Democrat?” The third thing, as I mentioned earlier, is the money in politics. It’s very scary, and it’s driving polarization. I don’t have huge solutions right now, but I think these are some of the problems.

B+C: Do you hope your visibility helps remove some of the barriers women face in running?

McGrath: My mother worked full-time as a pediatrician in the ‘80s when I was growing up, at a time when not a lot of women worked outside the home. I remember lots of people saying to me, “Don’t you wish your mom was at home?” And I remember being five or six years old, and thinking, no. I’m proud of my mom. She’s out there saving lives. And when she’s home, she’s fully present with us. And when she’s not home, she’s happy, because she’s doing something she loves. I’ll never, ever forget that. I turned out okay. That helped me.

B+C: What has been the biggest struggle of your campaign so far?

McGrath: Learning to ask for money, just to be very honest with you. I’m always honest, but that is, no joke, very hard! I’ve been a Marine my whole adult life. I’d never asked people to fund me or contribute to me. I had rank, and I earned the respect of my Marines. I’m working on it, and I’m going to get better. I’m getting better every day.

B+C: Speaking of money, how can people support your run?

McGrath: I have a website, and you can donate right online. I’d also tell people what I’d tell my students — I taught US Government for three years at the Naval Academy; it was my last assignment in the Marine Corps. I always told my students to register to vote, and to spend the time to look up the candidates. See their background, look at their experience, as well as what the issues they stand for, and then make your decision. Look beyond the headline.

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(Design by Sarah Tate, Photos via Amy McGrath)

College and high school graduations are just around the corner, and you may be wondering what to get your favorite Gen Z grads. Luckily for you, we compiled a list of 15 fabulous graduation gifts for every price range that are guaranteed to put a smile on your graduate’s face!

Set of 4 Meal Prep Containers

Who doesn’t love pretty Tupperware? Whether your 2024 grad is a gym rat or a library lover, they will definitely find a good use for these air-tight, leak-proof containers.

Benevolence LA New Beginnings Scented Soy Candle

Send them off with this sweet-scented candle that celebrates their achievements, as well as the next steps ahead of them!

A Hundred Other Girlsby Iman Hariri-Kia

This book is like a modern day Devil Wears Prada, and would make the perfect gift for any grad going into journalism, media, or PR — especially if they’re moving to a big city.

Stanley Quencher H2.0

Hydration is key for anyone, especially a new college student that's running between classes, club meetings, and friend hangs! This tumbler will also keep their liquids cold overnight so they don't have to go down the dorm hall in the middle of the night for a fresh refill.

Dagne Dover Mila Repreve® Recycled Polyester Large Toiletry Organizer Bag

If you're sending off a high school grad to communal dorms, they'll definitely benefit from having a compact toiletry bag like this one. This style is particularly nice since it's made from recycled polyester that resists water and debris.

2024 Daily Planner

Using a planner is such an underrated way to stay organized, whether it's prepping for college coursework or adulting stuff like work events, grocery shopping, and plans with friends. This all-in-one daily planner will help your grad keep their ducks in a row with fields for all of life's details.

Honeywell Mini Cool Mist Humidifier

This humidifier, made especially for small rooms and personal spaces (ahem, dorm rooms!) helps maintain humidity levels between 40-60%, which can help relieve congestion and keep the throat and nasal passages hydrated to prevent sickness. This is crucial for soon-to-be college students who may hang around a lot of different people.​

Fresh Sends Flower Bouquet

Flowers are a staple for any major life event, especially a graduation! Fresh Sends is perfect for sending beautiful bouquets for those who live far away, since they ship directly to the recipient's door.

The Beast Mini Blender

This super-effective, high-power portable blender is the perfect size for a dorm room or small apartment, plus it's very aesthetically-pleasing even if it's just sitting on the shelf. It comes equipped with a screw-on lid and straw, too, so your grad can take it on walks and in the car.

Béis The Sport Backpack

Perfect for grads on the go, this bag can hold their water bottle, phone, wallet and so much more when they're trekking across campus.

Loop Quiet Equinox Earplugs

These design-forward earplugs are multipurpose – they block out extra noise for study sessions and sleep time, or even loud parties and concerts! Your grad will appreciate that they come with an easy-to-carry case for keeping them on-hand in unforeseen, noisy situations.

Crush Your Goals Inner Truth Affirmations Deck

For an extra dose of motivation, this 40-count deck of cards will keep them going when times get tough!

Keurig K-Mini Single-Serve K-Cup Pod Coffee Maker

Coffee will ​always ​be a part of any new grad's life. Keep 'em caffeinated with this convenient coffee maker that's compatible with K-Cups for everyday ease.

Hoka Clifton 9 Sneakers

Hokas are undoubtedly the cool girl of running shoes, and they will definitely make your grad hit the pavement smiling, no matter if they're stepping foot on their college campus for the first time or making big moves in a new city.

Great Jones The Starting Lineup

This trio of cookware is such a stylish way to give your recipient's post-grad kitchen an upgrade. All three pieces are oven-safe and dishwasher-friendly to make cleanup a breeze.

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This post has been updated with additional reporting by Meredith Holser.

I have such a love/hate relationship with haircuts. While I love the feeling of a fresh look as much as the next girl, I hate having to spend $100+ for a simple cut and blow dry session. During my recent trim, I talked with my hairdresser, Jack Rehak of Jack’s Hair Design in Hinsdale, Illinois, about ways to keep a haircut looking new and best practices for keeping hair healthy. Here's what he had to say!

Here's How Often You Should Cut Your Hair, According To Professionals

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I’ll admit it — it had been eight months since my last haircut. My hair had lost its shape, my layers were nowhere to be found, and my ends were begging for mercy. Life got busy over the last few months and I was neglecting my haircare like never before.

My hairdresser could immediately see that I was beyond due for a cut and said I needed to get more taken off than I was hoping. I was definitely disappointed — I'd been working on growing out my hair for a while now, and it just felt like my hard work had completely gone to waste. He explained that getting consistent haircuts is the key to growing out healthy and strong hair, rather than letting it grow and grow until it eventually breaks. So let's dig into the top three things you can do to avoid this scenario!

1. Just Get The Dang Haircut

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Also avoiding a haircut like I was? You might want to schedule one at your nearest salon. Like my stylist said, when you wait too long between trims like I did, you risk your hair becoming heavy, dull, and lifeless. When the hair is dry or even dead, it’s nearly impossible for it to hold a curl or style, essentially collapsing on you and taking on more and more heat damage all the while. I know the pain of spending time on a blowout only for it to fall minutes later — it’s the worst.

According to Jack, getting a haircut every 10-12 weeks is the best time frame or your ends will pay the price. Between blow-drying, curling, straightening, sun, and weather, our ends get dry and start to break without the proper care. Getting consistent haircuts allows hair to bounce back, shine, and perform the way we want in a healthy way.

2. Leave-In Conditioners Are Your Friend

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His top piece of advice to keep your hair looking and feeling hydrated between trims? Invest in conditioning treatments. Jack swears by the Olaplex conditioning system, specifically the No 3 Hair Perfector. Made with patented OLAPLEX Bond Building Technology™, this conditioning treatment repairs and prevents damage in as little as three minutes. No 3 promises to reduce breakage and visibly strengthen hair, so it’s the perfect assistance to keep ends fresh between cuts. Another conditioning treatments I’ve used and loved for years is the Moroccanoil Intense Hydrating Mask, which is designed to restore moisture, elasticity, and shine to dry hair.

3. Switch Up Your Shampoos

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Switching shampoos frequently is a pretty hot tip that I honestly hadn't thought of. Our hair gets used to the same products and grows tired of them, resulting in lackluster locks. Jack’s advice is to switch brands after finishing every bottle of shampoo to bring life back to your hair. Have two brands that you’re loyal to? Even switching back and forth between them after every bottle should make a big difference in your hair. I’m a huge fan of the R+Co Dallas Biotin Thickening Shampoo, which makes my hair look thick and full, as well as the Moroccanoil Hydrating Shampoo, which is so hydrating and gives so much shine.

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In the end, navigating your back-and-forth relationship with haircuts often feels like a rollercoaster ride between wanting that fresh look and cringing at the receipt. Luckily, by using conditioning treatments and switching up your products,, you can keep your locks healthy, shiny, and full of life between trims. But take a newly learned lesson out of my book: don't let your ends pay the price for procrastination and just book the haircut.

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With Mother's Day around the corner, it's time to celebrate moms of all kinds, and step moms deserve some special recognition, too! If you're grappling with finding the perfect gift that expresses your love and gratitude for your step mom, these 20 gifts are the way to go. This curated list of thoughtful step mom gifts for Mother's Day will get you going on a gifting kick and make any step mom's heart swell with joy and appreciation. 💓

Rinna Beauty Larger Than Life Lip Plumping Oil

The glossiness of this lip oil alone will feel like a total gift! One swipe using the soft, sizable wand delivers a sheer tint of color, all while encouraging plumpness and moisture with its peptide formulation.

The Larger Than Life Lip Plumping Oil from Rinna Beauty comes in 5 other shades for $24 on Amazon.

Anthropologie Faye Planter

For the step mom with an undeniable green thumb, this decorative purple planter from Anthropologie makes repotting process super fun! Dotted in adorable outdoor creature and plant motifs, the pot is not only practical, but looks good, too. It measures about 8 inches in diameter to fit a variety of small house plants.

The Faye Planter is currently on sale for $31 (was $44) for a limited time.

Barefoot Dreams CozyChic Cotton Checkered Throw

She's gonna want to live in this cozy throw blanket 24/7. It's crafted from a blend of Barefoot Dreams' CozyChic material and a light cotton for added breathability. The light, neutral checkered pattern makes it the perfect match for any space!

This stylish throw, made to last a lifetime, goes for $148 from Barefoot Dreams.

DedCool Room & Linen Spray

Think of this spray as an instant refresh for any bedroom, bathroom, or living room, supplying a saturated scent of bergamot, vanilla, and amber. It's also compatible to spritz on sheets, blankets, and pillows to create a soothing atmosphere every time your step mom comes home!

The DedCool Room & Linen Spray comes in two other scents for $40.

Compartés Mother's Day Chocolate Flowers 20-Piece Truffle Gift Box

When all your other gift ideas fail, there's nothing wrong with chocolate! This truffle box is perfectly elevated to give as a standalone gift – it's impressively decorated and seamlessly packaged for a memorable Mother's Day treat. Some of the spring-inspired flavors included are: raspberry rose, lavender, poppy seed, and passionfruit.

The Mother's Day Chocolate Flowers gift box is $60 and comes with 20 gourmet truffles.

Fig.1 Ceramide Moisturizer

This moisturizer delivers 24-hour hydration with a dense formula of peptides, hyaluronic acid, squalane, and glycerin. It has a lightweight yet creamy feel, perfect for slathering on under SPF and makeup. Your step mom's skin will absolutely soak this clinically-proven cream up, and she'll be feeling like a new woman every single time she puts it on!

The Fig.1 Ceramide Moisturizer goes for $32 and is also refillable once it's fully used up.

Little Secret Round Sunglasses

Keep her lookin' so cool with a pair of trendy sunnies! This timeless style from Free People channels the 90's and makes for chic everyday eyewear with any outfit.

The Little Secret Round Sunglasses are shoppable in 5 other colors for $30.

The Pioneer Woman 3-Piece Floral Check Ceramic Lidded Bowl Set

Your step mom's serving, baking, and cooking projects just got such a stylish upgrade! This trio of checkered ceramic bowls designed by The Pioneer Woman make every dish look stunning, plus each one comes equipped with a decorative wooden lid for convenient storage.

This 3-piece bowl set goes for $33 at Walmart.

Sand + Fog Pistachio Dream Eau De Parfum Oil

This perfume oil can be used sparingly – meaning it'll last a long time – and delivers delicious notes of pistachio, vanilla, brown sugar, and cream to make step mom smell like a total treat. She won't want to go a day without putting some on!

This perfume is $13 at Marshall's.

Versed Total Package SPF 30 Body Lotion

This body lotion is really a 2-in-1 deal: hydrating and protective against the sun. It's packed with SPF 30 to give the skin a light shield against harmful UV rays, all while replenishing moisture with a delightfully-smelling mix of cupuaçu butter and grapeseed oil. It's not sticky or oily at all!

The Versed Total Package body lotion is $20 at Target.

Maeve Buckle Slide Sandals

These trendy slip-on sandals from Maeve are the epitome of cool girl style for summertime. Your step mom will be stepping out looking so good with these as a gift! The upper is made from durable leather, while the sole is a comfortable rubber material to withstand walking.

The Maeve Buckle Slide Sandals are shoppable in 4 other colors and are on sale for $104 (was $130) for a limited time.

Chamberlain Coffee Strawberry Matcha Latte Mix

Switch up her morning routine with this deliciously sweet matcha mix from Chamberlain Coffee! It's earthy, fruity, and made with oat milk for otherworldly creaminess. All it requires is some hot water, a good froth, and from there, your step mom can customize her sip with more milk or creamer.

This drink mix goes for $19 at Target.

L.L. Bean Open-Top Boat and Tote

This classic tote bag from L.L. Bean is the perfect vehicle for carrying work essentials, groceries, clothing, and more! It can be ordered in small, medium, large, or extra-large sizes, with the option for short or long straps.

This bag comes in 11 other colors. The small size is $30 and the extra-large is $45.

Ban.do Oven Mitt Pot Holder Set

For the step mom that loves all things colorful, this oven mitt + pot holder set will bring some joy into her kitchen set-up. Both are crafted from cotton with quilted stitching and feature small loops for easy hanging.

The duo is shoppable for $30 from Ban.do.

Auburn Home 3-Piece Glass Taper Candle Holders

These funky candle holders can go together as a set, or spread out around the house for a unique touch. Bundle them with some taper candles to complete the gift!

This colorful trio goes for $25 at Marshall's.

Verloop Raffia Phone Sling

Any on-the-go step mom will appreciate this convenient phone sling for its carrying capabilities, but it's also supremely stylish! The bright colorway is summertime's perfect match, so she can take it along for vacations and outdoor outings alike. The thin shoulder strap is adjustable in length so she can find the best fit for her needs.

The Verloop Raffia Phone Sling is shoppable in three other colors for $38.

Osea Bestsellers Bodycare Set

Gift sets are always a good bet if you're stuck on what to get your step mom for Mother's Day. This luxe 4-piece set from Osea comes complete with body butter, body oil, body balm, and body scrub (all inside a cute zip bag) so she can treat herself to a full-on spa day right at home!

The Osea Bestsellers Bodycare Set is $52 (a $78 value).

UrbanStems The Parade Bouquet

Flowers are welcome any time of year, but a gorgeous bouquet like this one is so fitting for Mother's Day. With UrbanStems, you can select a specific delivery date, and your step mom will receive a fresh grouping, ready to display at home!

The Parade Bouquet is $60, with the option to add a vase for $15+.

Material Kitchen The Cloud Pitcher

Whether it's used for a batched cocktail or a big serving of iced coffee, this stylish glass pitcher from Material Kitchen is a statement piece to be reckoned with. The glass is surprisingly light for transport, and it's dishwasher-safe for added convenience after the fact!

The Cloud Pitcher comes in three other colors for $95.

Ban.do Meal Planner

This meal planner pad is *the* way to keep track of what she'll make and when she's gonna eat it. It has three lines for each day of the week, plus a roomy list for ingredients she may be missing.

This meal planner is $15 from Ban.do and has 50 sheets.

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