We Tried a Bra: The Best Stretchy Bra for Different-Sized Boobs
When it comes to finding the right bra, we can all agree that it’s no easy feat. But things are changing thanks to more innovative technology and more women-designed products. In that spirit, we’re taking on the challenge of finding the absolute best bra for your needs.
In this installment of “We Tried A Bra,” we’re taking on one of the most common challenges of finding a well-fitting bra — uneven breast size. Almost every single woman has one breast larger than the other. Though the difference may be imperceivable to some, it can be the bain of the intimates shopping experience for women whose bra never fits both boobs just right. As a bra fit specialist, I have had women cry to me over this problem because they feel ashamed, imbalanced, and afraid to wear fitted clothing that might highlight the discrepancy. I even had a sobbing TV producer once reveal that she was afraid to date because she thought guys would be turned off by her uneven boobs. (I reminded her that guys don’t usually notice the small details!)
To start, it’s important to determine how big the disparity actually is between your breast sizes. The best method is to “scoop” each breast fully into your cup. If you haven’t scooped, this means put on your bra and stand in front of your mirror. Lean forward and scoop each breast forward into the cup. Get all of that breast tissue that spills around and pull it to the front. Now stand up straight and see how full your cups are. Is one a little less full or do you have a ton of space in the cup? If the gap is minimal (just annoying enough to be a noticeable difference) or up to half a cup size, there’s an easy answer to your woes. The stretchy bra.
A stretchy bra with removable padding like the Yummie Emmie T-Back Cami Bralette ($34) is the easy solution you’ve been dreaming about. This style’s elasticity will fit the smaller boob and the larger boob simultaneously whereas a stiff, molded cup bra would highlight the emptiness in your smaller side (leaving a gap in the cup). This type of bra is a game changer and is key to evening out your breast size difference. By removing the pad (generally measuring about a half cup size) from the larger side altogether or doubling up both pads on the smaller side, your breasts will appear balanced. If the gap is too large to solve with the pad and you find yourself needing even a little more help for boob A or B, we’ve got a fast fix for that too.
The Nudwear Perforated Silicone Bra Inserts ($24) are a comfortable and breathable option that can be inserted right into the bra’s pad pocket. These pads add a full cup size to either (or both) breasts.
If, however, the bra and insert combo don’t quite fix your issue and this is something that really affects your self-confidence, you could perhaps consider a more permanent solution by way of surgery. Dr. David Shafer of Shafer Plastic Surgery and Laser Center in New York City gave us the lowdown on differing breast sizes (technically called asymmetry). Shafer confirmed that this problem is totally normal and “most patients have about 15 to 20 percent asymmetry in terms of breast volume.” Often the nipples, breast creases, and breast location on the chest don’t alight from side to side, so solving the problem is not as simple as getting a reduction or implant in just one breast. “I would never recommend an implant [or a lift] on just one side to improve asymmetry,” says Shafer. “The best results are when surgery is performed on both sides.”
Since there are also congenital conditions that lead to changes in breast formation, it’s always best to consult your doctor before making any medical decisions. “It’s also very important that if a patient is considering breast implant surgery that they consult with a plastic surgeon board certified by the American Board of Plastic Surgery,” says Shafer. “There are similar sounding names and boards, so patients should clarify the credentials of their surgeon.”
So what’s the takeaway? No two boobs are created equal. If you’re bothered by your breast size issues, solving the problem might be as simple as finding the right bra style and some inserts. After all, “most women do have some asymmetry and they shouldn’t be overly focused on minor asymmetry or other issues which are perfectly natural,” says Shafer. We say, let’s love what you’ve got. There is a great bra to solve every boob problem!
What kind of bra do you need? We want to hear about it! Tweet us and tell us @BritandCo!
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(Photos via Yummie for bras and Nudwear)
Welcome to Selfmade Finance School, our new money series with Block Advisors to help small business owners with their tax, bookkeeping, and payroll needs year-round. This week, we explore the tax implications of bringing family members into your business.
The question for today is this: Does hiring your family members make sense for your business? Let me be clear. This is not a piece about whether hiring your family members makes sense for your relationships with those family members. As someone who is part of a family business, I could fill up a lot more than 600 words on my opinions about that. For today's purposes, we focus on whether it makes sense from an overall "good business and tax implication" perspective. As it turns out, there is a decent amount of tax nuance when it comes to employing your family. Let's break it down based on relationship to the employee:
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Spouses Who Are In Business Together
Personally, if I had to be in business with my husband, it would not go well. However, many couples build viable, strong businesses together and I say, good for them! Depending on how you have your business entity structured, it will make a big difference on the tax treatment of you and your spouse working as partners. Because a business jointly owned and operated by a married couple is generally treated as a partnership for Federal tax purposes, the spouses must comply with filing and record keeping requirements imposed on partnerships and their partners. The election to file two Schedule C (Form 1040) forms, (one for each spouse) permits certain married co-owners to avoid filing partnership returns, provided that each spouse separately reports a share of all the businesses' items of income, gain, loss, deduction, and credit. Under the election, both spouses will be subject to self-employment tax and on net earnings from self-employment and receive credit for Social Security earnings.
One Spouse Employs Another
If you have a dynamic where your spouse is an employee of your business, then your spouse's wages are subject to income tax withholding, Social Security and Medicare taxes. If you are self-employed (not a corporation or a partnership), your spouse's pay does not have to be included in your federal unemployment tax account (FUTA) contributions and payments. However, if your business is a corporation or a partnership you must include that spouse's pay in your unemployment tax contribution calculation.
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You Employ Your Child
First, let's be clear. I work in my family business, but I am an adult, so I am treated just like a normal employee. However, if you, for example, run a family restaurant and want to hire your children under 18 to work for you, there are some tax benefits. But first, you should check with your state for rules on how many hours minors can work (in non-agricultural jobs) and reference the Fair Labor Standards Act for information on limitations on the kinds of work children can perform.
"This is an often overlooked or under-utilized strategy. Paying your children for true services they provide in your business can be a powerful tax-saving tool," says Cathi Reed, Block Advisors Regional Director. "If you are a sole-proprietorship or single member LLC, and the child is less than 18 years of age, the business is not required to withhold FICA or payroll taxes. The child can use his or her standard deduction against income you pay."
You Hire Your Parent
Oh dear. If you are brave enough to do this, know that you will need to pay Social Security and Medicare taxes on your parent's wages and make the appropriate withholdings, but you don't have to pay unemployment taxes. Now all you have to do is convince your parent that you are the boss. Have fun with that!
Is Hiring Family Members Worth It For The Tax Benefits?
"There are some positive tax advantages to hiring family members. It's important to treat a family member like any other employee. Hiring your children can result in substantial savings for businesses. Make sure your child has real, age-appropriate work to do and a reasonable pay rate, comparable to other employees. Consult with a Block Advisors small business certified tax pro to ensure that you are complying with all requirements," advises Reed. "Block Advisors, a team within H&R Block, is dedicated to meeting the tax, bookkeeping and payroll needs of small business owners year-round. To start working with the tax experts at Block Advisors, visit blockadvisors.com."
In my opinion, you should not hire a family member solely because of the tax benefits. You should always hire based on whether that person is right for the job and keep in mind how this hire could materially impact your relationship with that person and others in your family. Finally, as I mentioned, make sure you have a tax professional on your team when making these determinations. As you can see, things can get a little tricky!
*All details were sourced from IRS.gov and blockadvisors.com