You鈥檝e found her. She鈥檚 your other half, the Taylor Swift to your Selena Gomez. Now she鈥檚 found her Calvin Harris and they鈥檙e tying the knot. As the official MOH, you couldn鈥檛 be happier for your BFF! But now you have a very *important* task at hand: giving a toast to the newlyweds. This is your time in the spotlight鈥 or a chance to embarrass your bestie just a little. If the idea of standing up in front of all those people frazzles your nerves, don鈥檛 panic just yet. Speak confidently by following these 10 tips to make sure your toast is funny, heartfelt and super memorable. After all, the bride picked YOU to stand by her side on her big day, and you want to make her proud.


1. Talk to the bride. You don鈥檛 have to spill the beans before the wedding, but a quick check before writing won鈥檛 hurt a soul. Some brides might have input on things that they want you to incorporate or things they absolutely want you to leave out. Plus, talking to her might also help you get some cute little tidbits about the couple that are worth mentioning. Plus, she鈥檒l remind you that you鈥檙e a boss and that you鈥檝e totally got this.

2. Make it meaningful. This is no time for a generic toast. We鈥檙e talking about your BFF and her soulmate here. Everyone knows she鈥檚 great and an awesome partner, but what exactly makes her so great? Talk about what she鈥檚 done for you or something that shows her true character, like a particular something that you and the groom both love about her. The couple is going to look back on this moment for years, so make it count!

3. Remember: It鈥檚 about them, not you. While it鈥檚 great to talk about how you know the bride and a few fun times that the two of you have shared, this toast is not about you. Talk about some of the adventures y鈥檃ll have had or when she鈥檚 been there for you, but don鈥檛 overdo the details. That鈥檚 not what people want to hear, nor is it appropriate, so avoid being that person.

4. Don鈥檛 forget the groom! While you could talk about your bestie for days, the toast is about THEM, not just her. Don鈥檛 forget that this is a celebration of two people, not solely a party in her honor. It鈥檚 great to start out talking about the bride and a little about your friendship, but lead quickly into the two as a couple 鈥 especially things that make the groom worthy of your bestie.

5. Joke around. Weddings are a time for fun, so don鈥檛 feel the need to get super serious. While you definitely want to put in some heartfelt moments, it鈥檚 also a light-hearted occasion. Your toast should put smiles on their faces and remind them of the great times all of you have had. Plus, it鈥檚 always great to get people laughing on trips down memory lane.

6. Keep it PG. You two had a lot of fun back in the day and will continue to for a long time, but don鈥檛 forget to play to your audience (hi, grandma!). Leave the drunken stories, exes and hook-ups out of the equation and remember: What happened on spring break, stays on spring break.

7. Skip the tough love. While she needs it sometimes, this is NOT the time. You don鈥檛 want to be Rachel McAdams in Wedding Crashers and make things super awkward. Most likely, close family members will not appreciate those jabs and you鈥檒l just feel really uncomfortable saying them into a microphone in your classy MOH dress.

8. Don鈥檛 wing it! Practice your speech multiple times beforehand. Look at your beautiful self in the mirror and read it out. Or, even better, read it to the bridesmaids. You do what you need to prep yourself for your stage debut, but make sure the first time you read it out loud is not at the reception.

9. Run it by the bridesmaids. Even though you don鈥檛 want to admit it, they know her just about as well as you do, so be sure to get some input from them. They鈥檒l no doubt have some jokes to add and they won鈥檛 be afraid to tell you about that one line you wrote that isn鈥檛 really appropriate.

10. Pace yourself. There might be an open bar and that groomsman might be hella cute, but you鈥檝e got a job to do! Just saying, videographers are a thing these days. She鈥檚 counting on you, so don鈥檛 make the silly mistake of drinking too much before your speech. Nothing is tackier than a sloppy toast, and there鈥檚 plenty of time for partying with the bridesmaids later.

Bonus Tip: The best toasts are authentic and from the heart, so don鈥檛 forget to be yourself. She鈥檚 your best friend, so she鈥檚 most likely going to love what you come up with, no matter what. And she knows you鈥檙e a little quirky too, so don鈥檛 feel the need to hide it. Do it your way and have fun!

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