In the world of relationships, there are certain things that are聽obvious聽no-nos. While arguments can be constructive now and then, incessant, unhealthy fighting is clearly a problem in any romantic partnership. Infidelity? Dishonesty? Also聽clear issues. Most of us are conditioned from a young age to be on the lookout for behaviors like this when we start seeking that special someone, which makes them pretty easy to spot 鈥 and thankfully because we鈥檙e worth so. much. more than that. But there are other dangerous relationship behaviors that are more subtle, more challenging to identify.

The team at the One Love Foundation is totally pro when it comes to healthy relationships 鈥 in fact, their whole mission聽is to change the world and eliminate abuse of all kinds by educating upcoming generations about how to establish respectful, loving romantic relationships via efforts like their recent #LoveBetter campaign. We asked them to walk us through a list of subtle relationship red flags that should be no less concerning simply because they are less obvious. Here鈥檚 what they had to say.

A couple has an argument

1. You鈥檙e being gaslit.聽If your partner has a habit of trying to explain away your feelings or of making you wonder if they鈥檙e meaningless or wrong (Wrong?! But they鈥檙e聽feelings!), there might be gaslighting at play 鈥 a phenomenon when one person wrongly tries to convince another that their perception of the world is 鈥渃razy.鈥 It can be hard to pick up on these patterns because gaslighting often comes off as totally innocent. A telltale sign of a gaslighting partner? You feeling like you鈥檙e regularly apologizing for behavior you never committed or your S.O. often says things like, 鈥淲hy are you always so sensitive?鈥

2. Your S.O. is unpredictable with their affection.聽In unhealthy relationships, affection is often used as a kind of currency that鈥檚 spent freely when things are good and withheld when one partner is dissatisfied 鈥 and no, we鈥檙e not talking about the bit of physical distance that often comes naturally when you and bae are聽having a typical argument. You can expect to encounter future problems with your partner if they totally withdraw their physical affection or become hostile over the slightest disagreement from you. This kind of pattern often leads to the feeling of perpetually walking on eggshells, and you shouldn鈥檛 have to deal with that.

3. You don鈥檛 get a lot of space.聽Your new S.O. is so protective of you! Cute, right? Well,聽maybe. If protectiveness turns into a lack of personal space or constant jealousy, you might have a problem. A sign of this larger issue is paranoia from your partner about your whereabouts or how quickly (or not) you鈥檙e responding to their calls or texts.

A couple talks in bed

4. Things are moving really fast.聽There鈥檚 nothing inherently wrong with a relationship that picks up speed聽quickly, but if it feels like your partner is developing feelings or expecting behavior at a rate that鈥檚 potentially uncomfortable for you, it might be time to take a step back and reevaluate things. When you feel overwhelmed by bold declarations of love or constant face time, it鈥檚 possible that things are less聽overwhelmingly romantic and more just聽actually聽overwhelming.

5. Your partner tries to lead things you say and do.聽鈥淢anipulation鈥 can feel like a strong word, but a partner who however so quietly encourages you to state certain opinions or make decisions that wouldn鈥檛 come naturally to you otherwise could very well be guilty of it. Manipulative partners are also known for turning situations around so they can place blame on their significant other.

6. You feel guilty a lot.聽No one聽deserves a guilt trip, whether it comes from a friend, a parent, or a significant other. If you spend a lot of your time away from your partner feeling bad for, well, being away from them, it should make you wonder if your relationship is all that it should be.

7. You find yourself making excuses for your partner.聽鈥淵ou just need to get to know聽them better!鈥 鈥淭hey said they鈥檙e sorry for missing another family dinner鈥 They just had a lot of work to do!鈥 Have you found yourself constantly making statements like this about your S.O. to your friends and loved ones? If so, alarm bells should be going off in your head right about now. Habitual excuses on your partner鈥檚 behalf might mean that on some level you聽know how unacceptable their behavior is and are simply trying to ignore it.

Are there other red flags you keep your eyes open for? Tweet us @BritandCo.

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