This Study Says Nice Guys Actually Do NOT Finish Last
Calling a guy “nice” after a first date is rarely a compliment, but rather a kiss of death for any romantic possibility. So it’s no wonder a lot of people still believe we’re livin’ in a bad boys’ world. ‘Nice guys finish last’ is an old adage that suggests that guys who are kind and compassionate get passed over for misbehaving (and often charming) men. For those ladies that haven’t learned themselves that dating good guys is awesome, rom-coms have been disputing the “nice guys” theory for years by giving the sweetest guy the girl in the end. And now, there’s science to back up women’s preference for dating thoughtful men with manners.
A new study out of two universities in the UK found that nice guys actually don’t finish last when it comes to long-term straight relationships. The researchers surveyed about 200 women, asking them to look at photos of men and read descriptions of things those men had done, including buying a coffee for a homeless person — or walking right by.
What they found was that even among the men who were less conventionally attractive, women preferred the “nice guys.” Now, the women were asked the questions in the context of choosing which man they’d want a long-term relationship with, so the results might have been a little different if the researchers had asked who they would pick for a casual fling.
Still, the results are pretty clear: “Being altruistic is better than being attractive for long-term relationships,” lead author Daniel Farelly told Live Science. Farelly also said he’d be interested in reversing the study to see how men respond to altruism versus physical attractiveness. Now that would be interesting!
What’s your take on the “nice guys finish last” theory? Tweet us your thoughts at @BritandCo!
(Photo by Getty)
Fall is right around the corner, and we're getting amped up for our next session of Selfmade, Brit + Co's 10-week interactive startup school. Designed to help you create a new business or grow your existing one, this course is personally led by Brit + Co founder Brit Morin and co-founder Anjelika Temple, and supported by more than a dozen of the top female entrepreneurs, creatives, and investors in the country. Students receive personalized coaching on everything from how to get out of your comfort zone to how to scale your business, and everything in between. And now, thanks to Office Depot, even more of you can join the course!
For the fall session, we're thrilled to team up with Office Depot to grant 200 FREE scholarship seats to the course. Scholarships are open to US residents, focusing on women of color, women from underserved and underrepresented communities, and women in need of support to help them trail-blaze. After all, we firmly believe that your support system is a huge part of how you achieve greatness, and we are here to cheer all of you on.
To nominate yourself or someone you know for a scholarship, head to our nomination form right here. The deadline for scholarship nominations is September 27th — it's time to take the leap!
Beyond the scholarship, Office Depot is all about helping you accomplish more. Whether it be the start phase, growth phase or keep businesses going phase, Office Depot offers a full suite of business solutions, including services and products, to help you work from anywhere, organize and save time and help build your brand.
So what are you waiting for? Take a chance on yourself and get yourself one step closer to truly being selfmade. Learn more about the Selfmade program, apply for a scholarship and prepare to be inspired :)