When you go from 鈥渋n a relationship鈥 to 鈥渋t鈥檚 complicated,鈥 then finally to 鈥渟ingle鈥 on Facebook, and then stay connected to your ex online, you鈥檙e usually setting yourself up for major post-relationship trauma 鈥 even if you ended on good terms. You have to work at loving yourself again after a breakup, and scouring your ex鈥檚 profile every day for signs of new lovers is NOT the way to do it. While some people swear by tech tricks to get over an ex, maybe quitting social media (for a hot minute) is what鈥檚 actually in order, according to a new study.

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In the most obvious finding ever (sorry, researchers), a study published in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking found that staying Facebook friends with an ex and monitoring their profile may increase feelings of distress, anxiety and jealousy, and could even prevent you from moving on emotionally. And isn鈥檛 the best revenge happiness (and maybe a hot rebound)?

Look, we鈥檙e not saying you check up on your ex daily. You鈥檙e, like, totally over it鈥 completely. But Facebook is making it easier than ever for us to stay connected, and that鈥檚 not always a good thing. So here are eight solid tips to stop yourself from going all part-time Facebook private eye on your ex (just in case you need them).

1. Pause, take a breath and remind yourself you鈥檒l always feel better resisting the urge to look them up. Name one time you鈥檝e ever felt good after lying awake late at night, scrolling through your ex鈥檚 profile. Can鈥檛 do it? We didn鈥檛 think so. And remember: There鈥檚 a reason why you guys broke up, even if it鈥檚 not obvious right now.

2. Take a break. This is the simplest, most casual way to see less of your ex online, without having to resort to any awkwardness that could come from unfriending. When you change your relationship status, Facebook will prompt you with an opportunity to 鈥渢ake a break鈥 from seeing your ex鈥檚 posts and having their name pop up in tagging suggestions. You can also limit how much of your activity they see, and end your 鈥渂reak鈥 whenever you want. Be honest with yourself, though: Is this temporary fix enough?

3. If you can鈥檛 help yourself, just unfriend them. Unless you know that you鈥檙e 100 percent over the relationship and don鈥檛 care about seeing your ex pop up in your newsfeed, just get them out of your network. Here鈥檚 a test: Another girl tags them in a photo and hashtags it #relationshipgoals. Do you snap, or shrug and go have a snack? You know which one means it鈥檚 time to hit the unfriend button.

4. If you really can鈥檛 help yourself, block them. You can always undo it later, and chances are, they won鈥檛 even notice. Blocking means they can鈥檛 see your updates, and more importantly, you can鈥檛 see theirs. If you can鈥檛 stop yourself from entering their name in your search bar and letting morbid curiosity take over, this is a cold-turkey solution.

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5. Temporarily unfollow posts from mutual friends. This is another low-key tactic your friends will never even know you鈥檙e employing (unless you鈥檝e trained them to be used to you liking every. single. one. of their selfies). You might miss your buds鈥 online presence, but it鈥檚 a safe way to avoid your ex鈥檚 name popping up in their posts when you least expect it. Even the most mundane things, like your ex in a pic out drinking with mutual guy friends, can hurt right after a breakup.

6. Kill your newsfeed altogether. There鈥檚 an amazing Chrome web browser extension called Kill Newsfeed that allows you to log in and still see notifications on your posts and events but hides your newsfeed so that you don鈥檛 get sucked into that black hole vortex of endlessly scrolling through other people鈥檚 drama and humblebrags. That also means you don鈥檛 have to see your exes鈥 or anyone else. This is a good tip if you鈥檙e experiencing Facebook fatigue and just want a break in general from social media too.

7. Get offline and go outside. Go out and do something fun by yourself, or with your friends. You鈥檙e single now! You can do whatever you want! Life鈥檚 too short to be hanging on some dude or lady鈥檚 every Facebook post. Use activities as a reward for not checking your ex鈥檚 profile 鈥 go for a hike or head to the movies instead.

8. Find someone new. We鈥檙e not saying rush into a new relationship, but more like鈥 indulge a celebrity crush. Might we suggest following a Hemsworth brother (or more than one) on Instagram? Refocusing your attention on someone new IRL or online offers a simple distraction that鈥檒l get you through the toughest time.

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