Different strokes for different folks, as they say, and that’s certainly true when it comes to getting over a serious relationship. One example of this is Lauren Bushnell, who has a new man in her life, and Ben Higgins, who just shared that he’s not ready to even think about kissing someone new after breaking off his engagement to Bushnell.

“If I were to kiss somebody right now in my life, it would hold a lot of weight,” Higgins told his cohost and fellow Bachelor nation alum Ashley Iaconetti on Monday’s episode of their Almost Famous podcast. While some people prefer a lighthearted fling after a deep relationship, it seems like Higgins is the sort who puts a lot of value in each and every kiss.

“It would be really hard for me,” he continued. “Right now, for me to kiss anybody … my chest kind of gets tight. I know that’s really difficult for me.”

He also explained why he has avoided talking about his relationship status post-split. “This kind of stuff, dating and relationships, are things that are very sensitive to me right now. It’s just not something I want to talk about right now, honestly,” he admitted. “I don’t know when I’m ready [to date].”

Which is not to say he hasn’t thought about it. “Honestly, as tempted as I am and as much as I do desire relationships, like I do — I desire commitment and I desire to emotionally attach myself to somebody … I am forcing myself to get to know myself better, to find myself a little bit, to figure out who I am now. Once I do that — I don’t know when that is — hopefully I’ll have somebody then in my life who will tell me they love me and I’ll know it.”

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