Whether or not your 鈥渓ist鈥 of preferred characteristics in a potential partner is actually kept in list form or is simply a vague collection of positive adjectives in your head, we鈥檙e willing to bet you have some sort of list. After all, you鈥檙e a girl who knows 鈥 and usually gets 鈥 what she wants, and you鈥檙e not going to waste time dating if you don鈥檛 have a pretty clear sense of the kind of attributes you鈥檙e seeking in a partner. (BTW, that鈥檚 pretty much a recipe for dating fatigue.) We haven鈥檛 seen your list, of course, but we have a general idea of what鈥檚 on it. You鈥檙e looking for someone smart, ambitious, compassionate, thoughtful, and supportive. Maybe you go for goofy and confident too. But do matters of finance make their way onto that list? If so, no judgment 鈥 because a new survey from Life Happens indicates that you鈥檙e not alone.

Does this information already have you feeling fired up? Relax. According to the results of this survey, the kind of financial success that singles seem to be interested in is a bit less superficial than it sounds. A rep from Life Happens told us that, when asked what they find attractive in a romantic partner, four times as many singles say 鈥渞esponsible with their money鈥 than say 鈥渨ealthy.鈥 Additionally, singles find being 鈥渋rresponsible with money鈥 or 鈥渇inancially unfit鈥 more concerning in an S.O. than conventional 鈥渦nattractiveness鈥 鈥 by 35 points! According to Life Happens CEO Marvin Feldman, 鈥渇inancial fitness鈥 emerged from the survey as the second most important factor in attraction, right after a sense of humor. 鈥淚n this Instagram-ready world, I would have thought that physical attraction would have come in first,鈥 Feldman tells us. 鈥淚 find this encouraging as we try to help people get a strong financial foundation in place.鈥

Essentially, what鈥檚 important is not necessarily what鈥檚 actually in a potential partner鈥檚 bank account. People are looking for partnerships with those who know how to handle their money responsibly and effectively鈥 regardless of how much money they have. Naturally, these factors become increasingly important over the course of a relationship and may not figure into the equation as much early on. 鈥淚t鈥檚 when things become serious and you鈥檙e looking to settle down that you have to start asking some of the tougher questions, questions that might make you feel uncomfortable,鈥 Feldman says. 鈥淚t comes down to being financially aware and asking the appropriate questions, even if they鈥檙e the uncomfortable ones. You need to go into a long-term relationship with your eyes and ears wide open.鈥

If you鈥檙e still skeptical about these stats, we鈥檝e got you. Three Day Rule matchmaker Caitlin Bergstein confirms that the findings from Life Happens 鈥 and a preference for financial fitness over actual 鈥渨ealth鈥 鈥 do play out IRL. Most clients, she tells us, are seeking partners who are financially stable more than wealthy. She is 鈥渢ypically told that it鈥檚 more important that [the] person is driven, motivated, and responsible.鈥

鈥淔iscal responsibility shows that a [person] won鈥檛 be reliant on their partner or racking up credit card debt, which can really minimize the stress in a relationship,鈥 Bergstein says. 鈥淏eing wealthy 鈥 while certainly appealing to some 鈥 does not necessarily reflect these same qualities. If someone is wealthy but spends irresponsibly, there鈥檚 a chance of ending up in a bad situation down the road if, for some reason, that wealth dries up.鈥

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