There are a few conversations in any woman鈥檚 life that are almost unavoidably uncomfortable: the DTR talk with a person you聽really like comes to mind, along with the moment you drop the news to your BFF that you鈥檙e moving across the country, or the one where you admit to your S.O. that you鈥檝e only been聽pretending to like the homemade meal they used to win you over on your聽second date. Another conversation that鈥檚 pretty much聽always a challenge? The one where you approach your boss asking for more money. Eek.

Naturally, we want to聽own those conversations around聽salary negotiations. Unfortunately, though, it鈥檚 hard just to get yourself to initiate that discussion. According to Ellevest founder and CEO Sallie Krawcheck in the inaugural episode of her new digital series MAKERS Money, women who ask for raises聽do tend to get them鈥 they鈥檙e just less likely to ask in the first place. The gender pay gap 鈥 in which women make 80 percent of what men make for doing the same jobs, and less than that for minority women 鈥 means that women have less power. And we can鈥檛 let that stand.

In an effort to give women the tools they need to reverse these tides,聽Krawcheck 鈥 and her guest Sally Thornton, founder and CEO of executive recruiting firm Forshay 鈥 offer some tips for negotiating and asking for raises in the second episode of MAKERS Money (over glasses of wine, which makes us love them all the more). Scroll for all the details, and prepare to聽increase your earning power.

1. Do your research.聽Don鈥檛 even think about starting a raise-related conversation with your manager before taking the time to really zero in on what you and your work are worth. Krawcheck recommends using tools like Glassdoor, GetRaised, and Comparably聽to figure out what other people in your industry and geographical region earn for doing a similar job. The more specific you can get, the better!

2. Clearly define what success looks like.聽You鈥檝e done your research, and now it鈥檚 time to sit down face-to-face with your supervisor and ask for what you want. Frame the raise you鈥檙e seeking as the natural result of you being successful at your job. Fill in this blank: 鈥淚f I鈥檓聽achieving success, this is how much money I should be making: ______________.鈥

3. Establish a (short) timeline.聽The fact that you鈥檙e approaching your boss about a raise proactively instead of waiting for the next predetermined opportunity to reevaluate your compensation means that you think you deserve that raise sooner 鈥 so there鈥檚 no point in hiding that. Make it clear that you鈥檙e hoping to be considered for a raise immediately. The worse that can happen is that your boss will remind you of an upcoming company-wide pay adjustment period. You have nothing to lose!

4. Prove it鈥檚 a win-win.聽As you demonstrate to your boss what success is going to look like for聽you (AKA more cash money for a job well done), be sure to communicate how your continued contributions will mean success for聽them. An increase in the company鈥檚 financial commitment to you doesn鈥檛 have to be a zero-sum game, especially if you present it as a way to improve business and performance for聽everyone.

5. Prepare a list of non-monetary asks.聽Any time you approach a manager or supervisor about a raise, Krawcheck also recommends compiling a list of things to ask for that have nothing to do with your immediate paycheck. Research opportunities for continuing education classes or leadership retreats and find out if the company will pay for you to attend. Don鈥檛 walk out of the meeting until you have sign-off on at least聽one of those asks. That way, even if you don鈥檛 get a raise per se, you鈥檒l still have secured support from your boss that will one day translate into dollars and cents.

6. Be confident.聽Thornton says that a lack of confidence is the number one mistake she sees women making in the workplace. Now is a great time to harness the power we鈥檙e seeing in communities of women everywhere and apply it at the office, where a supportive group of female coworkers can be a great reminder that there is room for more than one of us at the proverbial table. Walk into compensation-related conversations with that confidence and see how great of a negotiator you can be.

7. Ask for feedback.聽If you鈥檝e already watched another colleague (particularly a male one) secure the raise or promotion that you were looking for and were confident you deserved, don鈥檛 be afraid to approach your boss and ask for their professional feedback.聽If they can give you a clear reason for the decision, great! Take that constructive criticism and use it to fuel your work so you鈥檒l be a shoo-in for the next opportunity. If the response is vague and confusing, however 鈥 鈥淲e just didn鈥檛 think you were the right fit鈥 or 鈥淚t didn鈥檛 seem like the right time for you鈥 鈥 you might consider pushing harder, approaching HR, or looking for jobs elsewhere.

MAKERS Money was created and produced by feminist media brand MAKERS and Yahoo Finance in partnership with Ellevest, according to a press release. The six-episode series will feature topics聽including money myth-busting, student loan debt, retirement savings, and more.

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(Photo via Ellevest, featured photo via Getty)