We all have certain things that can make or break a budding relationship. For this writer specifically, a couple of those things have been discovering one dude’s favorite actor is Nicholas Cage and that another didn’t like fluffy dogs (like, WHAT?). Those two examples are very specific, but in a broader sense those deal breakers tended to be more or less the same across the board.

To figure out exactly what those traits are, the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin recently released a series of surveys that gathered the opinions of 5,541 single Americans. The singletons were asked to pick a few character traits from a list of 17 that would affect their desire to consider a long-term relationship with a potential mate.

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With participants ranging in age from 21 to 76, older people appeared to have more deal breakers than younger folks, and women tended to have more deal breakers than men. We know what we like, okay?!

Coming in as the top three, 67% admitted a “disheveled or unclean appearance” could end things, 66% said they’d be deterred by someone who was too lazy and 63% would be put off by a partner who is too needy. A few that ranked surprisingly low on the list was being too athletic, not athletic enough and not wanting or already having children. If you feel the urge to add a link to this article on your Tinder profile as a not-so-subtle warning, we totally understand.

What’s your biggest relationship deal breaker? Share with us in the comments below.

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