The Dos and Don’ts of Seeing an Ex at a Party
If you’re like most of us, the whole “let’s be friends” thing after the breakup with your ex probably hasn’t worked out so well. And, like most of us, you’re bound to have an awkward run-in with said ex sooner or later. Heard your ex is going to be at a party? Don’t panic, and definitely don’t bail. Here’s what to do (and, more importantly, what not to do) when seeing an ex is inevitable.
DO mentally prepare yourself. For anything. Your ex could have gotten a totally swoon-worthy ‘do that reminds you of Ryan Gosling during his Notebook days or Beyoncé at the Grammys. Or worse yet, your ex could be with another new squeeze. And trust us, you don’t want to be caught off guard when that happens.
DO remember why you broke up in the first place. Feelings don’t just go away overnight. Through rose-colored glasses (or, more likely, beer goggles) your ex is probably looking pretty smokin’. But don’t fall for it. It’s times like these that you need to remind yourself why you two broke up in the first place.
DO take a moment to collect yourself. Breakups are hard — you’re allowed to be sad about them. You’re even allowed to wallow, but only temporarily, and definitely not in public. The last thing you want is to have a full-blown meltdown like one of those girls from The Bachelor who didn’t get a rose. Instead, take a minute to step outside, take a breather and collect your emotions before you get back in there and show that party who’s boss.
DO stay positive. You know what they say: Fake it ’til you make it. Even if it feels like your chest is caving in, your lungs are filling with quicksand and your heart has been shoved through a meat grinder, don’t forget to smile. You want to seem happy, not mopey. Just keep your head up and know that things *will* get better.
DO keep things short and simple. Though the two of you may have dated for months or even years, now is not the time to fill your ex in on every detail of your life. If you’re feeling up to it — and you’re on good terms — then say a quick hello. But keep the convo short and sweet.
DON’T pretend like you didn’t see him/her. Unless your current relationship status with your ex is icier than the make-believe kingdom of Arendelle, then completely ignoring your ex will just seem childish and immature. We’re not saying you two have to be BFFs; you just have to acknowledge the other’s presence — a friendly wave will suffice.
DON’T look like you’re trying too hard. Now is not the time to whip out your false eyelashes, platform wedges and metallic bodycon dress or skinny tie, patent leather oxfords and velvet blazer. You want to look put together, but not, like, Kardashian/Kanye put together. Remember, less is more.
DON’T try to make your ex jealous. Bringing a hot guy or girl as a plus-one or making out with a rando on the dance floor doesn’t exactly scream class. However, if a rebound is really what you need — if you’re really doing it for your own happiness and not to get revenge on your ex — then, by all means, you make out with that rando.
DON’T drown your sorrows in tequila (or any other liquor, for that matter). Sure, drinking your melancholy away may sound like a good idea at first, but did you really need that fourth tequila shot? Probably not. If you overindulge in the alcohol department, chances are you’ll be spending the rest of your night on the bathroom floor. Not cute. Instead, stay for a drink (read: ONE drink) and then make an early exit with your dignity — and liver — still intact.
DON’T hook up with him/her. We repeat, do not hook up with your ex. Much like the tequila, it might seem like a good idea at the time, but rest assured, come the next morning you’ll wake up with nothing but regret. Sure, old habits die hard, but if you’re ever going to move on you need to move forward, not back (into bed). Remember, nothing good happens after 2 AM.
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)