8 Things All Ambiverts Can Relate To
Personality tests like the Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram are all the rage — and for good reason. Identifying your personality type can help you understand yourself and how you interact with the world around you, including work, friendships, and romantic relationships. Along the same lines, knowing how you’re hard-wired plays a big role in helping you grow. Personality tests can help you identify your blind spots and overcome what may be holding you back.
But what if you take a personality test and don’t fit neatly into the pre-determined categories? You aren’t the only one, especially if you feel like you could be equal parts extrovert and introvert. Adam Grant, a professor at Wharton University and bestselling author, set out to study how we categorize ourselves as humans and found that two-thirds of people don’t identify strongly as extroverts or introverts.
If you don’t perfectly fit the mold of introvert or extrovert, there’s an alternative. You may be an ambivert, which means you fall smack-dab in the middle of the introvert-extrovert spectrum. Interestingly, Grant claims those with both introvert and extrovert tendencies actually do have an advantage over other personality types. For example, many ambiverts, he found, have an easier time adjusting to people of various personalities because they don’t lean too far in either direction. And since ambiverts are typically socially flexible — meaning they can handle and enjoy a broader spectrum of situations — they may possess more emotional intelligence than other personality types.
Does this sound like you? Here are a few ways to know if you have the ambivert advantage.
1. Your personality test results don’t resonate with you. Maybe you’ve taken the MBTI, and you get different results each time. Or perhaps your test results are 50/50, and you don’t know where you really fall. If you don’t feel like you fit in the traditional extrovert/introvert definition, there’s a good chance you fall somewhere in the middle.
2. You love to be social, but you also need alone time. If you are equally energized by being in big groups of people and spending time curled up with a book by yourself, you could be an ambivert. You may also go through phases of craving social interaction or alone time depending on the situation, which is completely normal.
3. You consider yourself flexible and adaptable. Most ambiverts tend to do well in all levels of social interaction. Whether deep heart-to-hearts with a friend or busy parties with a lot of small talk, you thrive in a variety of socially demanding scenarios. You also adapt just as well to quiet nights at home with Netflix or even going to a movie or restaurant by yourself.
4. You think teamwork is fun, but you also like to work by yourself. Another indicator you may be an ambivert is your ability to work with both a group and by yourself. If you’re truly an ambivert, you probably excel at communicating and teamwork in group settings, but you would do just as well taking on a solo project.
5. You’re equal parts playful and deep. You love witty banter and joking around, but you’re also game for meaningful conversations about the deep things in life. If you can’t settle on whether you’re witty or wise (and perhaps you struggle to come up with the perfect social media bio to reflect your personality), chances are you’re both — and you’re an ambivert.
6. You can’t decide if you love or hate social media. Speaking of social media, ambiverts tend to have a love-hate relationship with it. On the one hand, they like interacting with friends and sharing details about their lives, but on the other, they find it exhausting to keep up with everyone and sometimes just want to stay private.
7. Your friends don’t freak out when you go off the grid. If you tend to randomly “go dark” after days of back-and-forth chatter in your group text thread, friends who know you won’t be surprised. Ambiverts also have a love-hate relationship with their phones, blowing their friends up one day and staying quiet the next.
8. You’re a good talker, but also a good listener. Whether you’re in a casual conversation with a coworker at the office or hearing out a longtime friend who’s having a bad day, you know when to dole out advice and when to keep quiet. Ambiverts specialize in being amazing counselors and listeners, which makes them really good friends.
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)