They鈥檙e the J to your Bey, and you simply cannot wait for them to put a ring on it. But hold up 鈥 just because you finish each other鈥檚 sentences, you鈥檝e got a million shared interests and they鈥檝e seen the contents of your ahem drawer, doesn鈥檛 mean you鈥檙e necessarily ready to walk down the aisle. It鈥檚 one thing to make relationship resolutions, but here鈥檚 a list of must-dos 鈥 from silly to serious 鈥 before you say your 鈥淚 dos.鈥 Plus, we got Dr. Michelle Golland, a Los Angeles-based clinical psychologist and all-around love guru, to weigh in.


1. Exchange digits. As in, the passcode on your smartphone. You know everything there is to know about each other, right? Well, 鈥渆verything鈥 includes the contents of one鈥檚 most precious technological device. Dr. Golland says, 鈥淚f your S.O. keeps passwords on his phone, isn鈥檛 willing to have the hard conversations needed to move to the next step or is more concerned about [his parents鈥橾 feelings or thoughts than yours around big issues,鈥 then he鈥檚 not ready to get married.

2. Watch each other鈥檚 favorite TV shows. As much as it pains you to indulge in the caveman etiquette that is him hogging the remote control, just know that you鈥檒l soon be queuing up My Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, to which he will inevitably also become addicted. Compromise is an important lesson to learn before you tie the knot!


3. Bump heads. No one likes to argue, but occasional squabbles can be beneficial: They show that you are two people with differing opinions and viewpoints who are willing to share them. 鈥淐onflict is healthy and normal. Learning how to handle differences is critical. The worst scenario is when one partner believes being married means things are always good,鈥 Dr. Golland says. Plus, if you didn鈥檛 fight, you couldn鈥檛 make up.


4. Explore 鈥渃heating.鈥 The definition, that is. Trust is huge in marriage. And since cheating means different things to different people, it鈥檚 important to get on the same page. 鈥淓motional infidelity is a relationship killer, as much as sexual infidelity. There shouldn鈥檛 be anything you say about your partner to someone else that you are not brave enough to say to your partner yourself,鈥 Dr. Golland says.

5. Eat this, pass that! Let鈥檚 be honest, the quickest path to intimacy is via garlicky pasta, slurpy ramen, Mexican food and all of their鈥 shall we say, aftereffects. 鈥淚f you can鈥檛 pass gas in front of your partner or they won鈥檛 in front of you, then you have some work to do around letting go of ego and awkwardness and the need to be seen as perfect, which will be a killer to the relationship. Gas happens, and life gets messy and stinky at times!鈥 Dr. Golland says.

6. See a shrink together. Even if you get along swimmingly, every couple can gain insight by chatting with a professional. 鈥淓very person should be willing to come in and talk to an expert about their relationship and how to communicate best with each other. To me, having a shrink or therapist who is your go-to person around emotional challenges is no different than having a good mechanic or chiropractor,鈥 Dr. Golland says.

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