Love, Whit Is My New Home Decor Obsession — Here Are My Fave Products For Under $50

Love, Whit home decor and lifestyle brand

Decorating my apartment is one of my favorite new hobbies! I get to be creative, searching for small space-friendly home decor that still brings personality and life to every room. My apartment may not be my forever home, but that doesn't mean I can't create my own indoor piece of heaven. Since I know I can't convince my boyfriend that every inch of our apartment can't be Barbiecore, I can add tasteful pops of color here and there. I've looked high and low for the most beautiful coffee tables, worked to stylishly organize every room, and slowly added more feminine pieces — especially from lifestyle brand Love, Whit — to my space.

What I Love About Love, Whit

One of the first things that attracted me to this brand is it's unwavering commitment to providing cute lifestyle and home decor products that don't feel cheesy. Sure, the pieces are feminine, but they're crafted in a way that respects adulting — AKA they're as functional as they are aesthetically-pleasing.

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Not everyone creates a lifestyle brand, but Whitney Kerney isn't everyone. When I asked the founder about what inspired her to create this company, she said, "I've always believed in the power of a thoughtfully curated space and the healing powers that it can give off, especially as creatives." Keeping creative burnout in mind, she believes it's important for people to invest in what makes them feel good, especially at home.

She also said, "I wanted to create a lifestyle shop to reflect my love of pretty things and my deep-seated passion for a well-balanced lifestyle. More than that, I wanted to create a wellness platform dedicated to helping you feel your best and to become the best version of yourself."

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Whitney's all about making sure Love, Whit's customers have a positive brand experience. More than that, she said, "We want our customers to feel inspired, uplifted, happy, and true to themselves with our products inside their homes. We want them to feel beautiful and capable of anything. We want them to feel confident enough to show up boldly and beautifully in their life"

As someone who's purchased two vases from the shop already, I can personally say they've added a spark of personality and fun to my home.

Here Are My Favorite Love, Whit Home Decor Picks Under $50:

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Wavy Glass Mug ($25)

Coffee lovers will fawn over these glass mugs by Love, Whit. Available in amber/pink, clear, green/purple, pink/red, and purple/green, your mornings will be brighter once you pour your coffee into one of these colorways.

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Cocktail Candles ($30)

It's summer, so that means it's cocktailseason! If you love a good Tequila Sunrise or Strawberry Bellini, you'll enjoy burning one or all of these candles.

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Tache Bowl ($25)

If you're looking for an unconventional way to store your summer jewelry, or eat your favorite summer dinner out of, consider using one of Love, Whit's Tache bowls.

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Affirmation 'Love Note' Candles ($40)

Featuring scents that are reminiscent of warm summer days and breezy nights, Love, Whit's affirmation 'love note' candles will wrap your nose in a cozy embrace.

Let me know what your favorite Love, Whit products are in the comments! And be sure to sign up for our email newsletter for all your home decor inspo!

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Memorial Day weekend is nigh, and in the midst of planning your epic BBQ spread and a slew of themed cocktails, it's also time to start noting the Memorial Day sales you'll be shopping for a much-needed summer refresh. We've got the scoop on savings in just about every category – from beauty to home decor to fashion – so you know exactly when and where to save big.

Scroll on for the Memorial Day sales we're most excited about for 2024, and make sure to come back here for additional sale info!

Dyson V8 Cordless Vacuum

Target

What: Items up to 60% off

When: May 24-27

KitchenAid Artisan Series 5 Quart Tilt Head Stand Mixer

Amazon

What: Deals on everything from home goods to decor

When: Now through Memorial Day

Mila Mirror

Anthropologie Home

What: Savings on home goods

When: May 21-27

Peony Vase Thank You Card Set

Papier

What: 15% off stationery & photo books

When: May 22-29

Sherpa Deluxe Black Guarenteed On Board Soft Sided Dog & Cat Carrier

Petco

What: BOGO 50% off select summer products and 20% off select sherpa carriersWhen: May 24-27

Dallas IV Hat

Hood

What: 25% off sitewide with code USA25

When: May 23-27

CZ Crescent with Stars Necklace

Sterling Forever

What: 20% off sitewide with code SUMMER20

When: May 24-28

Stemless Wine Chiller Pair

VoChill

What: 20% off sitewide

When: May 17-27

The Coated Pan

Material Kitchen

What: 20% off (*promo excludes bundles and collaborations)

When: May 23-27

EOS Classic Organic Mattress

Naturepedic

What: 20% off sitewide with code MEMORIAL20

When: May 15-29

Pierrette Dress

SAYLOR

What: Extra 15% off sale styles with code MDAY24

When: May 27

Sea Green Pleated Tennis Skirt

Gold Hinge

What: 25% off sitewide with code MDAY25

When: May 23-27

Calista FAUXblo Thermal Blowout Brush

Calista

What: 20% off sitewide

When: May 24

CAROL Bike

CAROL Bike

What: Take $200 off sitewide on all CAROL bikes

When: May 24-30

Cartolina Louise Cover-Up

Cartolina

What: 30% off sitewide

When: May 22-28

Carve Designs Zella Mesh Pullover

Carve Designs

What: BOGO red, white, and blue swim; buy 1 swimsuit, get one swimsuit 50% off

When: May 23-27

Essentia Stratami Organic Mattress

Essentia

What: 25% off sitewide, plus receive free GOTS Certified Organic Cotton Sheets with qualifying mattress purchases

When: May 13-31

Harper Wilde Bliss Scoop Bralette

Harper Wilde

What: 20% off sitewide

When: May 24-27

MARLOWE. Soap Bar Discovery Gift Set

MARLOWE.

What: 20% off sitewide

When: May 27

Pura 4 Diffuser

Pura

What: 25% off sitewide through code only (subscriber early access: May 23-27), 25% off sitewide, plus subscribe to the Pura V4 and get a free car set

When: May 21-22

Vacation Classic Whip SPF 30

Vacation

What: 20% off sitewide, plus get a free boat keychain or pen on orders over $65 (while supplies last)

When: May 24-27

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There are plenty of celebrity couples that are able to balance cool yet relatable, and the coolest of all might just be Justin and Hailey Bieber. The couple is everywhere right now, thanks to Hailey Bieber's Rhode skincare and Justin Bieber's stint as an honorary celebrity co-captain at the 2024 NHL all-star game. Amid reports that the couple has had some serious issues this year, a People source promises "they are very, very happy.” Whew! Here's a full look back on their relationship.

How long have Justin and Hailey Bieber been married?

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Justin and Hailey Bieber have been married for almost six years! They tied the knot in 2018 after they were seen walking into a courthouse, but the larger ceremony that had was filled with their closest loved ones.

They looked so stunning that I'm sure Hailey Bieber's look made it to our list of celebrity wedding dresses we can't get enough of.

How far along is Hailey Bieber?

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Ever since the couple shared their sweet baby announcement yesterday, fans have been wondering how far along Hailey Beiber is. People confirmed that she's six months and even shared some cryptic clues about her pregnancy despite not fully being ready to share the happy news with the public.

Justin And Hailey Bieber's Full Relationship Timeline

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November 2009 — Justin Bieber And Hailey Bieber Meet At The Today Show

Justin and Hailey Bieber first met in 2009, when he was 15 and she was 12, when he performed "Baby" at the Today show. According to People, the friendship between Hailey's dad Stephen Baldwin and Justin's mom Pattie Mallette led to the introduction.

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February 2, 2011 — Hailey Bieber Attends The Premiere Of Justin Bieber: Never Say Never

Justin Bieber's Never Say Never documentary thrilled Justin Bieber fans (called Beliebers) — but even though Hailey was excited to be at the NYC premiere, she told Vogue in 2019 she didn't consider herself a superfan.

"It was never that crazed, screaming thing," she says. "I didn't think about it in any kind of way except for the fact that he was cute. Everybody had a crush on him. But for the first few years we had a weird age gap."

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November 10, 2014 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Reconnect

In late 2014, Justin and Hailey Bieber were joined by Kendall Jenner at a Hillsong New York service. "One day Justin walked into Hillsong and was like, 'Hey, you got older,'" Hailey tells Vogue. "Over time he became my best guy friend. I was running around with him as his homie, but we weren't hanging out [romantically].""

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February 11, 2016 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Are Officially An Item...Kind Of

After sharing a passionate New Year's Eve kiss, Justin Bieber seemingly confirmed his relationship with Hailey right before Valentine's Day. "[She's] someone I really love. We spend a lot of time together," he tells GQ. However, he doesn't call her his girlfriend.

"I don’t want to put anyone in a position where they feel like I’m only theirs, only to be hurt in the end," he continues. "In the past I’ve hurt people and said things that I didn’t mean to make them happy in the moment. So now I’m just more so looking at the future, making sure I’m not damaging them. What if Hailey ends up being the girl I’m gonna marry, right?...I just don’t want to hurt her."Hailey went on to tell E! News that same day they were "not an exclusive couple."

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Spring 2016 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Break Up

After the February 2016 GQ story went live, Justing and Hailey Bieber split. But, according to Hailey, it felt much more intense than that. "'Fizzled' would not be the right word — it was more like a very dramatic excommunication," she tells Vogue. "There was a period where if I walked into a room, he would walk out."

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July 7, 2018 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Get Engaged

Justin and Hailey Bieber reconnected at a Miami conference from pastor Rich Wilkerson Jr., and by then, Hailey says, they were past the drama. Things fell into place quickly, and TMZ announced the couple's engagement in July.

"He was the first person I ever had real feelings for," Hailey later says in an episode of Justin Bieber: Seasons. "When things kind of went south for a little bit and we went our separate ways, I just knew that no matter what the outcome was going to be, he was going to be somebody that I loved for the rest of my life."

"Hailey I am soooo in love with everything about you!" Justin says in his official Instagram announcement. "So committed to spending my life getting to know every single part of you loving you patiently and kindLY. I promise to lead our family with honor and integrity letting Jesus through his Holy Spirit guide us in everything we do and every decision we make. My heart is COMPLETELY and FULLY YOURS and I will ALWAYS put you first! You are the love of my life Hailey Baldwin and I wouldn’t want to spend it with anybody else."

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September 2018 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Get Married

After moving in together, the couple was seen walking into a courthouse in the fall (via TMZ)! Since slipping wedding bands on each other's fingers, both Justin and Hailey Bieber have admitted their relationship has taken a ton of work.

"I remember when I first got married, I hit a little bit of an emotional breakdown because I thought marriage was going to fix all my problems and it didn't," Justin says in an interview with Apple Music 1's Ebro Darden (via Billboard). "You want your wife to do something that you're not doing and it's like, it's hard sometimes to look in the mirror and really have to realize, man, maybe you're not the person that you necessarily thought that you were."

"There's a reason they say 'for better or for worse.' Like, that's for real!" Hailey tells Harper's Bazaar. "I might fly somewhere and go do a job, but I can't wait to come back and hang out. And I feel like that's because of the effort that's been put in on both sides. At the end of the day, like, he's my best friend, but it still does take a lot of work to make it work."

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February 7, 2019 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Have Their First Photoshoot Together

For Vogue's February 2019 issue, Justin and Hailey Bieber go deep into their relationship (the photos for the issue are beautiful, with the couple in shades of cream and white, with bejeweled details).
“I just feel like I care so much and I want things to be so good and I want people to like me," Justin says. "Hailey’s very logical and structured, which I need. I’ve always wanted security...with the lifestyle I live, everything is so uncertain. I need one thing that’s certain."
"I’m fighting to do this the right way, to build a healthy relationship,” Hailey says. “I’m not going to sit here and lie and say it’s all a magical fantasy. It’s always going to be hard. It’s a choice. You don’t feel it every single day...But there’s something beautiful about it anyway — about wanting to fight for something, commit to building with someone."
"We’re committed to growing together and supporting each other in those changes," she continues. "That’s how I look at it. At the end of the day, too, he’s my best friend. I never get sick of him.”

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January 27, 2020 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Attend The Premiere Of Justin Bieber: Seasons

For a date night at the beginning of 2020, Justin and Hailey Bieber attended the LA premiere of his YouTube Original Justin Bieber: Seasons. Ahead of the screening at the Regency Bruin Theatre, the couple hit the red carpet. Justin wore pink pants and a white sweater, while Hailey looked chic in a sequined black dress.

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September 13, 2021 — Justin Bieber And Hailey Bieber Attend The 2021 Met Gala

To celebrate the Met's America: A Lexicon Of Fashion exhibit at the end of 2021, Justin and Hailey Bieber went old school glam for the Met Gala red carpet, with chic outfits and statement jewelry. Unfortunately, their appearance went viral for a different reason when fans of Justin's ex-girlfriend Selena Gomez started changing *her* name during Hailey's time on the carpet.

“It was disrespectful," Hailey says during an episode of Alex Cooper's Call Her Daddy podcast. "To me, to my relationship. It just was. Period. The end.”

While some fans think a feud has existed between Selena Gomez and Hailey Bieber for years, Hailey says "there's no drama, personally."

"I can say, period, point blank, I was never with him when he was in a relationship with anybody — that's the end of it," she adds.

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March 10, 2022 — Hailey Bieber Suffers A Mini Stroke

During the spring of 2022, Justin and Hailey Bieber were eating breakfast together when the model "started having stroke-like symptoms and was taken to the hospital," she wrote in an Instagram story (via ABC News). In a YouTube video sharing her story, Hailey explains that she was diagnosed with a patent foramen ovale (or PFO), which is a hole between your heart's left and right upper chambers.

On March 16, during Justin Bieber's concert in Denver, the singer confirmed Hailey had been doing better. "She's okay, she's good. It's been scary, you know, it's been really scary but I know for a fact that God has her in the palm of his hands."

The couple later walked the Grammys red carpet in Las Vegas on April 3.

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September 13, 2022 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Celebrate Their Four Year Anniversary

Both Justin and Hailey Bieber posted about their fourth wedding anniversary in honor of the special day! "Happy anniversary to my best friend and wifey," Justin posted. "thank u for making me better in every way."

"4 years married to you," Hailey says on Instagram. "the most beautiful human I’ve ever known... love of my life. Thank God for you."

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November 21, 2022 — Justin Bieber Celebrates Hailey Bieber's Birthday

Hailey Bieber turned 26 while the couple was on a trip to Japan, which meant Justin's Instagram post was 14 hours earlier for all their friends and family in North America!

"HAPPY BIRFDAY TO MY FAVORITE HUMAN BEING, XOXO," Justin says in the post. "YOU MAKE LIFE MAGIC 😭 OBSESSED WITH EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. LOVE YOU BUM BUM."

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May 14, 2023 — Hailey Bieber Is Ready For Kids

"I want kids so bad but I get scared," Hailey Bieber tells The Sunday Times. "It's enough that people say things about my husband or my friends. I can't imagine having to confront people saying things about a child."

And in an interview with GQ Hype later that year, Hailey says that while she looks forward to motherhood, she won't be in a rush to tell the world when she does get pregnant: "When there comes a day that that is true, you, you as in the internet, will be the last to know."

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March 1, 2024 — Hailey Bieber Celebrates Justin Bieber's 30th

Justin Bieber finally joined the thirty, flirty, and thriving club in 2024 and Hailey was over the moon. "30!!!!!!!????!!????!!!!" she says on Instagram. "that was fast. words could never truly describe the beauty of who you are. Happy Birthday to you… love of my life, for life."

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April 3, 2024 — Justin And Hailey Bieber Are "Very, Very Happy"

After rumors began circulating that Justin and Hailey Bieber were having some serious issues, a source tells People the couple is “doing really well."

“There’s no divorce and no truth to that whatsoever,” the source says. “They are very, very happy.”

Hailey Bieber herself weighed in on the rumors in March, when she posted the above message on her Instagram story. "Just FYI the stories and constant ‘blind items’ I see on TikTok are 100% of the time wrong. Made out of thin air," she says. “So I know it may be fun feeding into these stories but just know they’re always false xx sorry to spoil it."

April 15, 2024 — Justin Bieber Celebrates His "Soulmate"

Following the first weekend of Coachella, Justin Bieber shared a video (originally posted to a fan account) that shows him standing with Hailey during a show. The fan account captioned the video, "JUSTIN AND HAILEY ARE SOULMATES IDC WHAT ANYONE SAYS," and TBH I totally agree. The video shows Justin and Hailey Bieber swaying to a song, and Justin kissing her on the forehead.

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May 2024 — Justin and Hailey Announce They're Expecting Their First Baby

After mentioning she was ready for kids a year ago, Hailey Bieber's pregnant! So far, Hailey Bieber's pregnancy announcement carousel on Instagram has almost 10 million likes and tons of praise! Revolve even left this sweet comment: "couldn’t be happier for you guys🥹🤍."

But, the best praise came from Justin and Hailey Bieber's families. Justin's mom, Patti Mallette, took to Instagram to share her thoughts in a reel on Instagram that captured her excitement about becoming a grandma. She squealed, "Oh my gosh, I'm gonna be a grandmom! Oh my goodness!"

She also left a happy message on Stephen Baldwin's Instagramthat made some fans question if she was revealing if Justin and Hailey Bieber are having twins. She initially wrote, "Congratulations Grandpa! WE ARE GONNA HAVE THE CUTEST GRAND-BABIES EVER!" but circled back to let people know, "No not twins lol I wish. I just mean in general. Hopefully they will have more than one eventually. They will make beautiful babies whenever they have them. One is enough for now 😂"

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Summer is incomplete without a good pair of shorts that you can pull on for any given occasion – evening strolls, happy hours, farmer’s markets, and the like. But sometimes, the major struggle is finding a shorts style that feels and looks good (chafing is absolutely not the move). Luckily, Abercrombie & Fitch has so many cute shorts that aren’t a literal pain in the butt.

Abercrombie & Fitch is currently having a sale on all of their shorts! Here are the details:

  • Dates: May 10-13
  • Deals: 25% off ALL shorts, plus 15% off everything else (like dresses, jeans, tops, and more)
  • Stackable promo code: ‘AFSHORTS’ for an additional 15% off

We love A&F because of their versatile styles and their very impressive size range. They have a plethora of materials to shop from, including denim, linen, and fleecy lounge shorts. These are our favorite styles for summertime!

Denim Shorts

High Rise Dad Shorts

Dad shorts are an anti-chafing hero – this pair in particular boasts a longer hem than your usual denim shorts. The inseam measures about 5 inches, so you have more coverage! These A&F shorts are made to have a relaxed fit throughout the hips and thighs. We adore this light denim wash, but you can also shop these shorts in 8 other colors.

The High Rise Dad Shorts are shoppable in sizes 23-37 on sale for $52.50 (was $70).

Curve Love High Rise Dad Shorts

You can also shop A&F's dad shorts in the brand's Curve Love silhouette, which is made with an additional 2 inches through the hips and thighs to help eliminate gapping. Trust us, we know the pain of shorts not fitting right, which is why these pieces are so great!

The Curve Love High Rise Dad Shorts are shoppable in sizes 23-37 on sale for $48.75 (was $65).

Mid Rise 10" Loose Shorts

Long bermuda shorts like these seem to be another emerging denim trend for 2024. They look so chic with other summer capsule wardrobe staples like laid-back sandals and basic tank tops! Abercrombie & Fitch knows what's up, and this mid-rise number is perfectly on-trend. The inseam lands around 10 inches, with a loose fit all around the legs. You'll totally appreciate the additional length for comfort reasons!

The Mid Rise 10" Loose Shorts are currently available in sizes 30-33 on sale for $52.50 (was $70).

High Rise Loose Shorts

We truly cannot resist a high waist! While other shorts may fit snug against your figure, these let loose a bit for maximum breathability and comfort. The high rise still compliments your waistline, too. They're crafted from a vintage stretch denim material that moves with you, but still retains a bit of structure.

The High Rise Loose Shorts are shoppable in three other colors and sizes 23-37 on sale for $52.50 (was $70).

High Rise Mom Shorts

Mom shorts will never go out of style, in our opinion. A&F champions this timeless style with a super high-rise waist, 2.5 inch inseam, and a classic cuffed hem. The denim material that swarms these shorts is considerably stretchy, which is a massive perk for tackling the hot summer weather.

The High Rise Mom Shorts are also available in the Curve Love style, which accounts for 2 extra inches in the hips and thighs to fit your curves the right way. This style is available in sizes 23-37 on sale for $48.75 (was $65).

Curve Love High Rise 90s Cutoff Shorts

White shorts are a quintessential vacation piece, and these ones made in a 90's-inspired silhouette just can't be beat. The loose-fitting leg and 3.25-inch inseam allow for freedom of movement, whether you're walking, standing, or sitting down. The waistline fits you in a subtle v-shape, flatting your figure instantly.

The Curve Love High Rise 90s Cutoff Shorts are shoppable in 3 other colors and sizes 23-37 on sale for $48.75 (was $65).

Linen Shorts

Linen-Blend Pull-On Shorts

Linen shorts are so much more fuss-free than denim ones, but they can look just as put-together and elevated. Case in point: these pull-on linen shorts! The elastic high-waist pulls things together (without any buttons, no less!) and makes getting ready a total breeze. The inseam falls at about 3.5 inches, plus this cutie style has pockets!

The Linen-Blend Pull-On Shorts come in 9 other colors and patterns in sizes XXS-XXL on sale now for $37.50 (was $50).

Premium Linen Scallop-Hem Tailored Shorts

These scalloped shorts with an elastic waistband look like the perfect summer uniform, TBH. Their 100% linen construction means otherworldly breathability, especially when it feels like a million degrees out. A&F even sells coordinating linen tops if you want to step out in a matching set.

The Premium Linen Scallop-Hem Tailored Shorts are shoppable in three other trendy colors and sizes 23-37 on sale now for $52.50 (was $70).

Curve Love A&F Sloane Tailored Linen-Blend Shorts

Though these high-rise linen shorts lack some pretty cool scallops like the previous pair, their waistline pleats and sophisticated belt loops are everything. They're giving office chic in the best way possible! The generous 4.5 inch amps up the comfort levels of these shorts with ease, but the details from the cuffed hem to the seamless pockets make them a bit more luxe.

The Curve Love A&F Sloane Tailored Linen-Blend Shorts are shoppable in sizes 23-37 on sale now for $52.50 (was $70).

Lounge Shorts

Vintage Sunday Shorts

The Vintage Sunday Shorts boast a thick, durable fleece material that feels oh-so luxurious – even if you're just wearing them for a session of rotting on the couch. The wide, elastic high-rise waistband is fitted with drawstrings so you can find your perfect fit. These A&F shorts come prepared with two side pockets to hold your phone and/or your fave lip balm!

The Vintage Sunday Shorts come in 7 other fun colors and sizes XXS-XL on sale for $37.50 (was $50).

YPB neoKNIT Unlined Shorts

These short-shorts lean more athletic, but they work just as well for lazy weekends. They're made from a sweat-wicking neoprene material, making for exceptionally light and breathable wear. The curved bottom hem grants you more mobility, too. Plus, there's pockets!

The YPB neoKNIT Unlined Shorts are shoppable in 2 other colors and sizes XXS-XXL on sale for $30 (was $40).

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Picture it: you're waking up tired because of your partner's snoring so you're thinking about getting a "sleep divorce." You may have tried the Scandinavian Sleep Method or wearing earplugs to help you get cozier, but it's possible they didn't really help. Plus, if you've never slept separately from them, it can feel daunting to broach the topic let alone talk about the benefits of it. Take it from me, a conversation is necessary if you're dealing with sleep deprivation and find yourself being resentful towards your S.O.

There was a time I used to believe that it was cute to fall asleep holding my partner, but now I'm well aware that uninterrupted rest at night can lead to irritation that's not fair to anyone. Because there's several reasons why a "sleep divorce" may be necessary, I spoke with licensed clinical sleep psychologist Dr. Shelby Harris, the Director of Sleep Health at Sleepopolis, to explain what it is, why it's so popular, and how it may benefit couples long-term.

What is a sleep divorce and why do you feel it's gained traction recently?

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If you're wondering if a "sleep divorce" means you went to bed, woke up, and decided to get divorced, I'm here to let you know it's not as drastic. Dr. Harris says, "A sleep divorce is when couples decide to sleep in separate beds or rooms because of sleep disturbances from differing sleep schedules or comfort preferences." So if you're not a fan of your partner's snoring and you're been losing sleep over it, this could lead to a "sleep divorce."

According to the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, one-third of people report sleeping somewhere differently than their partner. This is "...fueled by a growing awareness of how important getting good sleep is for health and relationships, changing attitudes toward relationships that prioritize autonomy, and advancements in sleep technology that make separate sleeping arrangements possible and more comfortable," continues Dr. Harris.

What are some signs that a couple should consider getting a sleep divorce?

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No matter who you and your S.O. are, it's likely you have differing needs. I'm not telling you to prioritize your autonomy over your partner's, but it does help to have a conversation about losing sleep if that poses an issue. And as it turns out, you're not the only person who may be experiencing sleep issues.

Experts at eachnight discovered the top three states where couples have sleep struggles are New York, Massachusetts, and Maryland. They also discovered that 'insomnia' and 'sleep apnea' are the top two highest searched queries on Google.

Dr. Harris says, "If you're constantly waking up because of your partner's snoring or tossing and turning, feeling frustrated or exhausted from lack of sleep, or if you both have different sleep preferences, like mattress firmness or room temperature, it might be worth considering separate sleeping arrangements. It could help ease tensions and improve both of your sleep quality, benefiting your relationship in the long run."

How can couples benefit from a sleep divorce if they choose to pursue it?

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Admittedly, this is a question I've had for a while. Though I've made the decision to sleep in a separate room than my S.O., some people may feel uneasy taking that route. The good news is that Dr. Harris lists reasons why this can be beneficial for couples in the long run.

"A sleep divorce can benefit couples by giving each partner better sleep without disruptions, reducing any resentment that might arise from sleep issues, and improving intimacy since both partners are more rested and happier overall," she says. I know I wasn't a fan of how cranky I was in the morning so I personally swear by getting a "sleep divorce." It's been nice to actually get 8 hours of sleep without feeling sluggish by a certain time.

In Dr. Harris' opinion, "It's like hitting the reset button on sleep and relationships, helping them to understand and respect each other's needs while getting the best rest possible."

Do you believe couples are starting to find nontraditional avenues for successful relationships?

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Seeing how popular getting a "sleep divorce" has become, I wondered if couples sought creative solutions more today than they have previously.

Dr. Harris says, "Couples are discovering new ways to make their relationships work, even if they don't follow the traditional scripts we've seen in media and society. Whether it's through sleep divorces, open relationships, or challenging gender roles, people are realizing that what matters most is their own happiness and fulfillment."

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July 1 — the officially mid-year point for 2024 — is fast-approaching, and it's a good checkpoint for how you’re doing when it comes to reaching your 2024 goals. Most of us rolled into the new year feeling hopeful that we could meet a list of resolutions by years-end. How are those going? If you’re not where you’d like to be by now, here’s a little help to get you back on track.

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I recently spent a weekend at the Dream Inn in Santa Cruz, CA with meditation master Sarah Vie, author of I Wish I'd Known, and about 35 other women to uncover emotions that might be holding us back. A beachside hotel called the Dream Inn couldn’t have been a more perfect location to ponder life’s biggest questions – without kids, dogs, partners, work, and a house to pull us out of our “me” zone.

I started the weekend off a little bit of a mess: stressed from traffic, organizing a dog sitter, and making sure I could log off from work for the weekend. Any talk of meditation and manifesting my dreams was not on my radar when there was a house to clean! Bills to pay! Kid to care for! I realize now how close I was to burnout.

My weekend with Sarah manifesting my dreams at the Dream Inn pulled me back, set me straight, and transformed my mood and energy in ways I never expected.

Here’s what I learned about manifesting your dreams right now.

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1.Write down your dreams: And don’t just write them down – be specific about what they look like and how they feel when you’ve finally reached them. Close your eyes and imagine yourself in that moment. Where are you? What does it feel, smell, sound like? What are you doing when you reach them? Use visualization tools like a vision board placed front and center; start a daily meditation routine that keeps you focused on your purpose; and try saying your goals aloud to yourself (if that’s not too weird). These practices can help keep you driven and focused.

2. Write down the “show-me’s”: According to Sarah, this is the how. Write down the small steps for achieving bigger goals. Be consistent. It’s a lot easier to give up on your dreams, when the steps for getting there are not already part of your routine. “We can't just do something one time and expect to change a habit,” said Sarah. Reframe how you think about reaching your goals – a mindset of will do vs. maybe will – and create a routine around the steps. 

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3. Practice gratitude. Practice gratitude for what you already have – this has a lot to do with shifting your energy and what you attract because what we feel inside attracts the same energy outside. Start a gratitude journal or try these gratitude prompts.

4. Set a daily intention. Sarah suggests using LSD: listen to yourself, stop negative thinking, and declare your goals. Every morning find a quiet space to listen to yourself and your needs – this may be actual meditation, or sitting with a cup of tea, or taking a walk or hike. Set an intention for the day that will help you reach your goals.

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5. Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. We talked a lot about energies and magnets – what we put out there, we attract so if you're feeling stressed and chaotic guess what's coming right back at you? Underneath that stress though is usually fear – fear of not seeming perfect or saying no or not doing what your true inner self wants to do. Replace those negative beliefs with positive ones; treat yourself with kindness and understanding; and allow yourself to heal slowly to reach a healthier way of living. "Replace those old stories you tell yourself and redefine them into something positive, so your conscious mind starts to believe you can," says Sarah.

6. Focus on what brings you joy. Spend more time doing the things that bring you joy and your energy will shift to a more positive mindset. A positive mindset is key to achieving your goals, attracting positive experiences, and living the life that you want.

7. Stay accountable. Whether it's a friend or partner or a journal that you check in with on a daily or weekly basis, find ways to hold yourself accountable for your goals and check off those small steps you decide are the best way to get there. You got this!

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