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Date Your Partner for *This* Long and You’ll Probably Never Break Up

While there are no set rules when it comes to relationships, there are a few stages that will likely repeat each time you fall in love. After the first date, there will probably be a short period of time when all you can wonder about is if they like you as much as you like them. Once it’s official, you’ll move into that honeymoon phase when everything is new and you two are totally smitten with each other (FYI, you and your partner probably sort of suck to be around during this time, just saying). But once you move through that, you may fall into a rut or at least a lull. There are some who manage to go the distance, but other relationships tend to dissolve during this period. If you’ve ever wondered just how long you need to be together before your relationship becomes totally solid, a study by Stanford sociologist Michael Rosenfeld might just have the answer.


Rosenfeld has been working to uncover the answer to that exact question. Throughout his ongoing study (which he started way back in 2009), he has surveyed more than 3,000 people involved in four different types of relationships: straight and married, straight and unmarried, same-sex in a marriage-like relationship and same-sex and unmarried.

While separation rates varied for each group, if you’re in an unmarried heterosexual or homosexual relationship, five years appears to be the sweet spot when breakup rates take a drastic drop. Throughout the first five years, these two kinds of relationships follow a similar pattern. Both start with a 70% chance of breaking up and drop about 10% every year. Make it to 23 years in an unmarried straight relationship, and your breakup risk comes in at an all-time low of 11%.

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What’s interesting is that risk rate actually goes UP the longer you’re together after that. After 40 years together unmarried heterosexual couples face a 15% breakup rate. That could be because unmarried couples don’t face the prospect of an expensive divorce and could potentially both just go their separate ways.

But now let’s chat about those who decide to go the married route. For straight married couples, separation rates are significantly lower than all other groups. At the five-year mark, their breakup rate is at about 4%. It remains pretty steady around there as the years go on with the risk steadily declining to 1% after 40 years together. For same-sex couples in a marriage-like relationship, the risk of breaking up is slightly higher. It falls at about 8% around the six-year mark and then drastically declines. Once together for 15 years, same-sex married couples and heterosexual married couples are nearly identical in their breakup chances.

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Alright, folks. We've officially made it to fall. And if you haven't already started switching out your decor (as long as it's ready by Friendsgiving, right?) you still have time to do so. Draw inspiration from this round-up of new home products that includes harvest-inspired candles, cozy linens and textiles, and a v. practical piece of furniture. One scroll through these, and you'll have all the motivation you need to transition the seasons. Scroll on to start shopping.

Prism x LOREM Collection ($96+): Calling all Cali babes. The popular Long Beach boutique, Prism, announced a boho-fabulous collab with home decor line, LOREM, that we can't get enough of. Shop everything from plant hangers (eight options, to be exact) to artwork, all inspired by the very colorful vibes of the brands. If you were looking for a cheery way to tide you through winter, this. is. it!

Floyd Mattress (Price TBD): Fans of the cult-favorite Detroit-based brand will love their latest launch debuting on October 29. The highly-coveted Floyd Mattress will have the same made-to-last design and superior comfort as their other furnishings, tailored perfectly to fit the line's in-demand bed frame. Additional details for the mattress include a breathable foam material, highly-mobile packaging, and a low-profile design to secure your best night's sleep yet. Check back on the last week of the month to get one for yourself.

Dims 'Composed Vanity' ($595): Small space? No problem! Direct-to-consumer brand, Dims, is giving you a quick and stylish solution to your storage needs with their newest item that doubles as both a desk and vanity. The functional piece is made with non-toxic, chemical-free materials and can be assembled in seven minutes or less. Throw in four sleek shades to choose from, and this may just be your best purchase of 2019 yet!

Saatchi Art x The Citizenry Holiday Collection ($225+): Get ready to deck your walls this holiday season. Saatchi Art partnered with The Citizenry in a one-of-a-kind collection that features a curation of art across styles. Explore everything from modern to abstract creations in a selection so stunning, it's bound to spark a conversation at your next gathering.

NEST Spiced Orange & Clove Collection ($16+): If you haven't experienced the addicting aromas of the beloved NEST fragrance brand, this is the perfect time to get on board! The label recently released their latest scent — spiced orange & clove — just in time for all your gatherings. Inhale festive notes of orange pomander, spiced brandy, cinnamon, and gingered honey across their suite of candles and diffusers to bring all the good vibes to your home.

Bloomingdales x RiLEY Home ($19+): RiLEY Home gets millennials. So they teamed up with Bloomingdales to make shopping their selection more attainable than ever. Now, you can get in on long-lasting, luxurious staples like flannel sheets, bedding, printed throws, premium pet beds, and more, by shopping online and in-stores at the department store. (Trust us: These dream goods are ones you're going to be *glad* you stocked-up on.)

Italic Serene Towels ($12+): The luxury brand that prides itself on using the *same* factories namesake brands (like Calvin Klein and Lacoste) use, but without the price tag behind them, brings you a new product for fall. Treat yourself to Italic's ultra-soft towel set spun from fluffy, 100% Australian cotton, in a convenient set of six. Consider it the perfect indulgence after a long soak in the tub on a cozy FNI (Friday night in)!

Hyascent x Neiman Marcus ($169): 'Tis the season for a delightfully scented home. Warm your abode with scents like bourbon joy, cheeky rose and more in a unique diffuser that doubles more as decor than a fragrance-inducer. Fresh off the (online) shelves of Neiman Marcus, explore nine scents that last up to six months in a specialized hourglass holder. (Shhh! Your friends will never know the secret of why your place smells so darn good!)