If You’re Trying to Score a First Date, Don’t Do THIS Online
There are a lot of balances to strike in your online dating profile. Do you upload your professionally staged selfies, or post candid shots with friends? Do you say upfront that you won’t tolerate jerky losers who send you unsolicited dick pics, or do you just wait to tear into the creepazoids like an Amazon warrior princess when they slide into your DMs? If you aren’t making it to that first date, it may be time for a dating profile makeover. And a new study just found a major don’t, if you want to see your matches go up.
Your mom always said to put your best foot forward, right? Well, that actually doesn’t apply when it comes to Tinder. The study, published in Communications Monographs, found that people who emphasize too many of their “best qualities” in their online dating profiles are actually less attractive to potential matches.
Two researchers at the University of Iowa surveyed 316 online daters on one of four profile types, and asked them to rate the users for attractiveness and trustworthiness. They were interested in seeing the effects of two key attributes: “selective self-presentation” (where the user highlights their most positive qualities) and “warranting” (where they not only say what makes them great but link to evidence that can back it up). And while a little bragging might seem like the best way to get people to swipe right, it turned out that users with the highest instances of each — whether they were talking about their lives, looks or accomplishments — got the lowest scores.
However, in instances where selective self-presentation was low but warranting was still high, participants perceived the profile owner as “honest as well as humble and approachable.” Since they weren’t immediately turned off by heavy bragging, they’d actually look into the warranting points, and having access to those corroborating links helped them feel like the user was legit. (In other words, they didn’t worry that a dude who says he “works in finance” would surprise them with a third-date confession that they’re actually just a teller at the local bank.)
So if you’re looking to give your profile a boost, it’s fine to throw in some links to that article you’re proud of or your company bio. But keep it low-key and humble, because your friends were right — you’ll get more dates if you can actually possess some chill.
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)