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From age eight to 16, Aija Mayrock was heavily bullied in school. As is the case for many who fall victim to bullying, Mayrock felt hopeless 鈥 until she picked up a pen. During some of her darkest hours, Mayrock decided to fight on and write The Survival Guide to Bullying, an emotional combination of personal stories, survival tips, 鈥渞oems鈥 (rap poems), and quick quizzes.

Now a 22-year-old NYU student, Mayrock may have left her high school bullies behind, but she鈥檚 still as dedicated to her cause as ever. She regularly performs her 鈥渞oems鈥 onstage and spreads her message in schools. She even recently gave the opening remarks at a UN summit for female empowerment.

We chatted with Mayrock about her personal experience with bullying and how she鈥檚 working to change things for future generations.

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B+C: Can you tell us a little bit more about your experience being bullied as a kid?

Mayrock: At eight years old, I had a lisp and a stutter and I was a really creative kid. I kind of marched to the beat of my own drum. Early on in my third-grade year, I started getting bullied for the way I spoke. I stopped sticking up for myself and kind of stopped speaking in general. I was repeatedly bullied verbally, physically, and online by both girls and boys for about five years after that. When I was 13, I moved with my family from New York 鈥 where this took place 鈥 to California because my dad had a job opportunity there.

Did the move help put an end to the bullying?

I had one year that was great and nothing happened. Then, in my freshman year of high school, a girl I鈥檇 never met from my old school in New York dressed up as me for Halloween. She posted it online and it went viral. Suddenly, I was flooded with death threats, hate comments, and I hit my rock bottom. I really didn鈥檛 know how to continue. That鈥檚 when I began writing my book. I realized that I wanted to find a way to show young people around the world that they could get through bullying. I wanted to show them they could survive and thrive.

The book鈥檚 topic is heavy and also very personal to you. What was the experience like writing it?

For me, writing the book started as a way to really save myself 鈥 to save my life. It was something made me feel like I had a purpose on this planet. In the beginning, I wrote it as a kind of diary. Then it morphed into half-memoir, half-self-help book. Half of the book is filled with short stories from my life and the time I was bullied that actually were written in real time during that period. The other half is actual advice that anyone 鈥 a student, a parent, a family member, or an educator 鈥 can use personally to help a person being bullied. It鈥檚 designed it so that if you are in the bathroom at school and you are struggling and you need help, you can open it to any page and find something.

For a lot of people who鈥檝e been bullied, it鈥檚 a hard thing to talk about and relive, but you鈥檙e doing that in a very public way. How have you dealt with bringing those struggles out into the world so openly and regularly?

You know, whether it鈥檚 bullying or mental health, there鈥檚 so much stigma. In the beginning, it was hard for me to realize that a lot of people would be reading my story and would be able to judge it in whatever way they want to. But I thought about the millions of people being bullied or people have been bullied. I decided I was going to be brave and try to take part of that stigma away by speaking out and saying, 鈥淟ook at me. There is nothing wrong with me. I was bullied because someone decided to bully me but, that doesn鈥檛 mean that I can鈥檛 triumph over it.鈥

Now that you鈥檙e 22 years old, how have you seen bullying translate into the adult world?

I will say that right now in my life, I see bullying translated into sexism, misogyny, and gender inequality. I was actually just asked to open the United Nations Summit for Girl Up, the gender quality division of the UN. I鈥檓 talking a lot there about my experience with bullying in the world today and the misogyny and sexism we鈥檝e faced at some point in our lives.

Since you鈥檝e started your activism against bullying, have you seen any major improvements or steps forward?

There鈥檚 still a lot of work to do, but I鈥檓 also seeing a lot more content out there 鈥 whether it鈥檚 on broadcast news or a TV show 鈥 where they鈥檙e talking about bullying. Just a few years ago, when I was in high school, that didn鈥檛 happen. People didn鈥檛 want to touch the subject.

鈥淚 was bullied because someone decided to bully me but, that doesn鈥檛 mean that I can鈥檛 triumph over it.鈥

Realistically, do you think we鈥檒l ever get to a point where there is no bullying?

No. I don鈥檛 believe that it鈥檚 possible to have no bullying. Part of bullying is ingrained in human nature. It has always been there and it always will be there. What has exacerbated it and made it so much worse is social media and technology. Rules and educational institutions haven鈥檛 done enough to enforce kindness in their curriculum.

Speaking of school and the education system, a lot of your work involves going to schools to spread your message. Through those visits, have there been any schools where you鈥檝e been impressed with how they鈥檙e combatting bullying?

Yes! There鈥檚 a school in Long Island, New York called Jericho Middle School that I have visited a few times and worked with and they鈥檙e incredible. Their principal has a huge, week-long event every year that鈥檚 focused on standing up to bullying, creating a kind space, and encouraging an open dialog. He really amazing. Every year I go back and see improvements. They are great examples of what every school should be.

You鈥檝e already managed to accomplish so much, but clearly, you鈥檙e not planning to slow down anytime soon. What鈥檚 up next for you?

I want to write for film and television. I want to tell stories about human rights and civil rights issues. I also want to be an activist 鈥 not just for bullying but for things like female empowerment. That鈥檚 something that I really want to continue working on. I want to keep sharing my work all around the world on different stages. I also want to act. I want to do it all!

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