It鈥檚 YOUR big day. That means it鈥檚 all about you, and of course your soon-to-be-betrothed. The date is set, and your guest list is growing, growing, growing. Mom and Dad. Check. Aunt Ethel. Check. Your boss (begrudgingly, check). Your BFF. Check. Her kids. Um, maybe? The decision whether to invite kids to your wedding isn鈥檛 always as easy as a simple yes or no. There are feelings to consider. That means both yours and your guests鈥. Before broods begin dominating your guest list, check out these simple strategies for making a to-invite or not to-invite decision.

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1. Age Eval:. There鈥檚 a world of difference between inviting your friend鈥檚 toddler and her teen to your wedding. Even the best-behaved babies (and younger children) can have their moments. Consider whether you want to risk an all-out wail when baby鈥檚 sensitive ears meet Pachelbel鈥檚 Canon or if you鈥檇 rather nix the risk entirely. Typically, by the middle elementary years, kids are mature enough to sit through a ceremony and at least some of the reception without incident.

2. Temperament vs. Temper-Tantrum: Okay, so age isn鈥檛 always the 100% predictor of how a child may or may not act at your wedding. Some toddlers have the temperament of an angel, while some 10-year-olds can鈥檛 sit still through your 鈥淚 do鈥檚.鈥 That said, you may not be the best judge of any given kid鈥檚 temperament. Just because your cousin鈥檚 five-year-old freaked out last Christmas and threw a kicking and screaming fit when mom said no to the 15th sprinkle cookie in a row doesn鈥檛 mean that the child is a wild animal. He may have been having a bad day, been on a gingerbread-infused sugar high or just plain off his game. Ask Mom and Dad what their overall take is on said child鈥檚 temperament before making any snap decisions.

3. Time-Tested: The ceremony is set to start at dusk. That means the reception won鈥檛 get under way until well after 9:30pm. Inviting kiddos to your event may work out if it鈥檚 an afternoon affair. But, not so much when it doesn鈥檛 start until it鈥檚 dark outside. Keep bedtime in mind when you鈥檙e deciding whether to invite your guests鈥 kids.

4. V.I.K.鈥檚 (Very Important Kids): Not all relationships are created equal. It鈥檚 true when it comes to your soon-to-be-spouse, and it鈥檚 true when it comes to friendships too! Some super-special friends deserve super-special treatment, and so do their kids. Inviting the HR guy who you barely know鈥檚 kids to your wedding? Maybe not. Inviting your friend since seventh grade鈥檚 kids? Maybe a good idea.

5. Preferred Preferences: Some people are 鈥渒id people,鈥 and others just aren鈥檛. Chances are that you have a preference when it comes to whether kids come to your wedding or not. That鈥檚 perfectly okay, if not expected. Go with your gut. If you truly want a grown-ups-only ceremony/reception, then go ahead and do it. But, if family-fun (that鈥檚 kids-included fun) sounds more like you, invite the littles along.

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