Being a mom on Valentine’s Day is different from being a non-parent on this holiday. When you’re kid-free, you have the ability to make plans sans stress. You can get reservations at a favorite restaurant, or your partner can book you a night at a romantic hotel. You also have the option of indulging in brunch desserts with your galentines or going out dancing with the single crowd. But moms? We’re usually lucky if we have any energy left to do anything at all. That doesn’t mean you can’t take control and make the day special in your own way; here are some mom-necessities you should be gifting yourself this Valentine’s.

woman getting massage

1. A Massage Subscription (varies): No one needs a back rub more than mom. And while your significant other might help you relax on special occasions, and your kids might buy you a massage Groupon on your birthday, it’s time to kick it up a notch. A massage center subscription will help keep you feeling good all year round. A number of massage centers will offer deep discounts to loyal members, making massages more affordable (and even less stressful). Now, mom will have a happy place to retreat to whenever things get too hectic at home. (Photo via Getty)

2. Nike Free RN 2017 Women’s Shoes ($100): Moms need solid footwear. We are almost always the first ones up and the last ones to get to bed in our households, and we need some kicks that will keep our feet comfortable and prevent any back and knee issues. Opt for a pair of these Nikes (or something similar), which are lightweight and versatile (good for standing, walking around, and occasionally doing some jogging).

woman in hotel room

3. A Solo Hotel Room Stay (varies): Every mom deserves a break, but let’s face it: You’ll never get a break if you’re at home. Someone is always going to be vying for your attention. And even if it’s not one of your kids or your partner, it’s something else, like the basket full of laundry or the sink full of dishes. Your significant other might not be entirely excited about you escaping for the evening, but if they’re supportive, they’ll be fine with you booking a night away in the near future. Best of all, you can use that time to do whatever you want. Jump on the bed, catch up on your shows, read a good book in the tub, give yourself a mani-pedi, whatever works! (Photo via Getty)

4. An Artemis Period Subscription Box ($18): For many moms, menstruation becomes a much more complicated mess after we have babies. Our periods can get heavier, and our other symptoms can become even more pronounced. While your partner might not understand all this, you do, which is why you should invest in a period subscription box like the Artemis Box, which features everything from tasty snacks to tampons or pads and other goodies to pamper you (like sheet masks and heating pads).

5. Slipsilk Pure Silk Sleep Mask ($45): You may not be catching a ton of zzz’s as a mom, but when you do get some shut-eye, make sure it’s quality shut-eye. This lightweight mask effectively blocks out light and is made of pure silk, so when it’s time to rest your weary eyes, you can do it in style.

6. JBL Everest Elite 750NC Noise-Cancelling Headphones ($239): When you’re a mom, headphones are no longer an optional accessory. If you want to survive the next 18 or so years of your life, you’re going to want a solid pair of headphones. You want wireless ones because they allow you to do chores or chase your kids around the house without a problem. And you need noise-canceling ones if you’re going to actually be able to hear anything other than your kids whining about having to eat carrots.

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