No cellphones. No blogs. No apps. And no rules. Okay, that last one鈥檚 going a bit far. But seriously, figuring out聽how to parent back in the day wasn鈥檛 exactly the tech-heavy competitive event that it is today. Take a trip back to a time around your own childhood, wipe your mind of the latest fads for聽raising great kids, and give your child the gift of a less stressful childhood. Or at least, one that鈥檚 way more fun (and, like, totally radical!).


1. No more hovering. In 1980-something, Eighties Mom was probably in the kitchen drinking a Tab while the kiddos not-so-quietly turned the living room couch cushions into a towering fort. Sure, they jumped off the tippy-top of that fort. And no, that mom absolutely, positively could not see what they were doing. But she trusted them. It鈥檚 not like Eighties Mom was an absentee parent 鈥 she just didn鈥檛 hover. No one鈥檚 saying that your kids don鈥檛 need supervision: Of course there should be聽someone ready to jump in if there鈥檚 actually a problem they can鈥檛 solve on their own. But traipsing behind your preschooler, hands poised to catch them if they happen to trip over their own feet, isn鈥檛 helping anyone. So quit your helicoptering and take a step back鈥 even if it鈥檚 only to a few feet away.


2. Turn technology off.聽Thirty years ago, toddlers didn鈥檛 know how to swipe, open an app, or unlock an iPad. They picked up crayons, played in the dirt, and maybe got into a competitive game of pencil-drawn tic-tac-toe. Taking all of your child鈥檚 tech toys away at once might be a major shock, so try a tech-time diet, where you go a morning or afternoon without the tablet, laptop, smartphone, or any other device. Oh yeah, and turn your tech off too聽鈥 your kiddo will appreciate seeing you having fun without checking your texts, FB feed, IG, or anything else.


3. Stop being the party planner. You鈥檝e turned the technology off. Now you鈥檙e being hit with, 鈥淢ommmmmy! I鈥檓 bored,鈥 and, 鈥淲hat am I supposed to do now?鈥 Eighties Mom didn鈥檛 spend hours clicking through blogs to get dozens of activity ideas. Eighties Mom said, 鈥淔igure it out,鈥 and turned on Dynasty. There鈥檚 nothing wrong with finding a few creative play ideas to help your child along 鈥 but there鈥檚 also nothing wrong with letting your kiddo learn how to entertain聽themself. Give your little one the chance to use their own imagination and show you just how genius they really are!


4. Quit competing. Competition between parents still existed back in the 鈥80s, but without social media keeping us connected to all our other mom-friends 24/7, it wasn鈥檛 on the scale that it is today. Instead of worrying about whether your two-year-old is meeting milestones before everyone else鈥檚 toddlers in your mommy Facebook group, focus on the amazing things that your child is doing right now. Who cares if your former college roommate鈥檚 tot is already memorizing times tables while yours thinks their聽shoe is fun to chew? Arbitrary achievements don鈥檛 reflect your child鈥檚 abilities, or their worth.


5. Don鈥檛 worry about the trends. In the 鈥80s there were theories of parenting. There were ideas. There were thoughts. But most of them stayed with the pros: Some moms swore by Dr. Spock or another聽baby/child guru, but there wasn鈥檛 the intense level (and constant flux) of trendy parenting propaganda that modern moms have to deal with. While brushing up on聽the best practices in parenting is never a bad thing, that doesn鈥檛 mean you have to go crazy overboard. If you鈥檙e spending more time reading about being a parent than actually doing it, it鈥檚 time to get back to the 鈥80s!

What part of the 鈥80s would you bring back? Tweet us your retro revival聽@BritandCo!

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