Giving birth is a crazy, amazing, messy, painful, beautiful and exhausting act, one that leaves nearly every聽new mama聽totally drained, emotionally and physically, post partum. It鈥檚 your job as her BFF to do anything and everything you can to fill her back up and support her during this exhausting time. That whole 鈥渋t takes a village鈥 thing is 100 percent true, and as one of her primary residents, it鈥檚 your civic duty to spoil the new mom. You might be wondering what you can do to help 鈥 well, we can assist you with that, especially since those first 40 days are so important. Here are聽10聽helpful suggestions on how you can be the best, most supportive BFF ever in these first weeks.

Woman supports her sister after a childbirth

1. Sign her up for a food service delivery.聽One of the last things on a new mom鈥檚 mind (even if she fashions herself a modern day Julia Child) is the idea of slaving over a hot stove making dinner. If her partner is not handy in the kitchen, then this hungry (and likely nursing) mama will need some meals. To make it super easy, give her the gift of a meal-delivery service like Munchery or Ayesha Curry鈥檚 upcoming food delivery service Gather (she鈥檒l even have baby food on the menu for when the baby starts eating).

2. Organize a meal train.聽If you want to deliver food with a more personal touch, get all your BFF鈥檚 BFFs together and create a delicious meal train where everyone pitches in to make food for the family. There鈥檚 even a site to make聽scheduling and food preferences easier to keep track of, aptly called Meal Train. Be mindful of the family鈥檚 food restrictions and give meals to them in disposable food containers or ones they don鈥檛 need to return to make it easier on the new parents. If you need some inspo, check out our suggestions for some easy freezer meals.

3. Pitch in around the house.聽Head to your pal鈥檚 house armed with cleaning products and get to work. Wash some dishes, do some laundry, change sheets and just do anything you can to help make life a little easier and cleaner. It may not be fun for you, but it鈥檒l make a world of difference to them.

4. Make snack time easier.聽Bring a basket of her favorite snacks that are easy to eat one-handed (since 90 percent of the time she鈥檒l have her other hand on her聽beautiful babe). Granola bars, fruit, popcorn and various dried fruits and nuts make for good (and healthy) options.

5.聽Gift her an awesome massage.聽Now, unless you鈥檙e a certified masseuse, don鈥檛 try this yourself. Instead, have a massage service do a house call or make an appointment at a local spa (and offer to watch the baby while she gets that much-needed rub down).

6. Watch the baby so she can grab a shower.聽Seriously, finding a moment to shower is one of the things that new moms don鈥檛 get to do as much as they鈥檇 like. The struggle is real! Swing by your BFF鈥檚 house for 20 or 30 minutes so she can hop in the shower, brush her hair and maybe even grab a few minutes of quiet time alone. This is one of the best gifts EVER and it鈥檚 so easy to give!

Woman reclining in bathtub

7. Encourage bath time.聽All sorts of places will be sore after having a baby. Bring her a gift basket filled with聽things that will make for the most relaxing bath time ever. Plan on an awesome smelling bath bomb, a couple aromatherapy candles, that fancy shampoo you鈥檝e wanted her to try and the time to take said bath (see tip number 6).

8. Netflix and chill. Well, not in the way we now think of Netflixing and chilling. Doing something as low key as watching The Princess Bride for the hundredth time or binge watching Gilmore聽Girls could be just the thing for a new mom to feel normal. Bring popcorn, her favorite sweet treat and a big comfy blankie for curling on the couch and doing next to nothing.

9. If they have other kids, take them out for a treat.聽It鈥檚 good for the new mom to spend some undivided time with her new baby. To help keep older siblings from feeling misplaced, take them out and spoil them. Swing by a toy store for a little shopping excursion, or just go out for a banana split. Take them to a playground, and go get another banana split! But make sure that they鈥檝e come down off their sugar rush before you return them to their parents.

10. Finally, don鈥檛 wear out you鈥檙e welcome. Make sure she has time to rest and recover and don鈥檛 monopolize her time (unless she wants you to). Ask her what she REALLY needs. It could be as unglamorous as a sitz bath, or that she鈥檚 totally craving a Dragon Roll from her fave sushi place (now that she can finally eat sushi again). Listen to her. Be there for her.

What do you think your BFF would most appreciate? Tweet us聽@BritandCo聽and let us know!

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