Deep dish or wood-fired? iPhone 7 or 7 Plus? These are the decisions that keep us awake most of the time. While the majority of life鈥檚 choices are relatively arbitrary, some 鈥 like whether to start your dream business or not 鈥 call for deeper thought and self-searching. For these moments, Dr. Patrick Wanis, a human behavior expert, has some advice that can give you more insight into the reasons why you choose certain things over others.

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鈥淵ou have to go through this decision-making process, because that鈥檚 how you learn about yourself,鈥 Dr. Wanis said. 鈥淭he younger you are, the more important it is to question your values in your decisions.鈥

Whether choosing a college, job or spouse, these six steps are designed to help you understand the root of the choice you鈥檙e making, as well as how to tackle the decision head-on.

1. Redefine hard. 鈥淐hange the way you view the question,鈥 Dr. Wanis says. 鈥淵ou can say it鈥檚 important, but not hard. The minute you tell the brain it鈥檚 hard, you鈥檙e saying that it鈥檚 going to be uncomfortable and difficult and that you might not be able to do it.鈥

2. Know that it probably isn鈥檛 final. When considering your options, Wanis encourages us to give 100 percent to the choices we make. However (after you鈥檝e given it your all), it鈥檚 important to know that you are allowed to change that decision if it isn鈥檛 truly what you want.

3. Ask yourself why. Dr. Wanis stresses the importance of this step. 鈥淏efore I make my decision, I look at the motivations,鈥 he said. 鈥淭he reason I teach that the 鈥榳hy鈥 is more important than the 鈥榟ow鈥 is because if your 鈥榳hy鈥 does not match who you are 鈥 your authentic self 鈥 when you get challenged, when the going gets really tough, you will drop out.鈥

4. Look at the consequences. Or, as Dr. Wanis says, look at the possible variable outcomes. When making an important life decision, also consider the opportunities and possibilities that a certain choice presents. For example, if you choose to move to California for work, it鈥檚 a possible outcome that you鈥檒l experience warmer weather.

5. Do a values check. Go right to the root of a decision: If you鈥檙e choosing between colleges, for instance, choose the one that aligns best with your values of hard work rather than one that鈥檚 more socially focused. 鈥淰alues are an important part of fulfillment, satisfaction and success in life,鈥 Dr. Wanis says.

6. Make the decision and stick to it. Plain and simple.

Do you have a method for making hard decisions? Let us know @BritandCo!

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