Why Treating Yourself Like a BFF Makes You Healthier
Think about the last time your best friend was feeling bummed about her looks. It’s likely that you tried helping her out with a hug, a sympathetic text or a shoulder to cry on. Being that booster for your bestie is what friends do, right? Now, a new study says that giving yourself that same cheerleading treatment may actually help you look and feel better.
A recent study published in the journal Body Image found that self-compassion is the key to looking and feeling our best. Specifically, it has an impact on the way we eat and how we view our bodies.
To understand the relationship between eating habits, body image and being more forgiving of yourself, Canadian researchers studied 92 college women, asking them to complete a nightly online survey recording their body mass index, levels of self-compassion and self-esteem, eating patterns and various body image measurements. The researchers found that on days when women treated themselves more compassionately, they felt better about how they looked and also ate better.
Unlike self-esteem, which depends on being above average or meeting certain goals, self-compassion is practicing caring, sympathetic and non-judgmental attitudes regardless of performance. The researchers noted that forgiveness may stimulate feelings of safety and security, which should help women feel more positively about their bodies in a less restrictive way.
How To Practice Self-Compassion
Kristen Neff, founder of the Mindful Self-Compassion Program, describes self-compassion as a genuine, sympathetic concern for our own well-being. Simply put, it’s the same kindness and care we’d give to a good friend.
To practice self-compassion, Neff recommends being kind and understanding about our personal failures and honoring and accepting our humanness. She suggests several ways to practice self-compassion:
1. Treat yourself like a friend. Think about how you’d help a friend in a similar situation, then respond to yourself in the same compassionate manner.
2. Take a self-compassion break. Take five minutes out of your day to tell yourself that it’s okay to feel disappointed at times. Gently remind yourself that you’re learning to love your body just the way it is.
3. Start a self-compassion journal. Jot down anything for which you judge yourself and write yourself a supportive answer right back. You can even write encouraging and happy phrases on Post-its and place them around your home or office!
If you’re curious about your level of self-compassion, you can test yourself on Neff’s website. Like any new skill, being kinder to yourself can take time. But by channeling the part of ourselves that cares for others, we can begin to give the same unconditional love and gratitude to our bodies.
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Pocket doors are so delightful in and of themselves. They appear when you need them, get tucked away when you don't, and make it easy to define rooms while keeping an open floor plan. Add to the pocket door a joyful patterned wallpaper surprise, and you will be sent right into fits of visual jubilation! Or something ;) Today we're sharing two simple and impactful pocket door makeovers that zhuzh up your space in a jiffy.
Anjelika Temple here, co-founder of Brit + Co and proud owner of several pocket doors! When I moved into my first real grown-up house a couple years ago, I knew I wanted to incorporate wallpaper so reached out to our friends at Chasing Paper to see how we might collaborate. It felt like a total lightbulb moment when I realized I could create a surprise pop of pattern on a couple sets of pocket doors.
Not only is it a whimsical way to bring color into a space, but the doors double as picture-perfect backdrops for all your SFH (selfies from home, obvs).
A few pro tips about install:
- Removable wallpaper is miraculously forgiving! You can take it on and off multiple times without it losing integrity (or mucking up your surface).
- I ordered this adhesive wallpaper installation kit with a squeegee and xacto knife and it worked super well. I also recommend a sharp pair of scissors for cutting longer lines.
- This is a two-person job! Get a friend, put on a playlist, and get ready to bond.
- Wild, organic patterns like Tally are great because it's challenging to spot any imperfections in pattern alignment; keep pattern choice in mind if you've got a lot of corners to match up. More geometric patterns and larger shapes leave less room for error (but are awesome in their own right!).
BATHROOM POCKET DOORS
In our primary bathroom, we chose the wallpaper pattern Tally, designed by Kelly Ventura, in White and Navy. In our space, the navy reads as a soft black, which is perfect for the space. It's easy to combine an ever-rotating collection of linens with the Tally pattern.
I love how the white trim becomes the perfect frame around this pocket door piece of art.
My favorite moment in this space is the fact that you actually get a third pop of pattern thanks to our serendipitously placed mirror!
And yes, this one works pretty darn well as a backdrop too ;)
LIVING ROOM DOUBLE DOORS
This set of doors is definitely a focal point of our home. It separates our living room from our primary bedroom which opens onto our backyard. The doors are pretty much always open, but when they're closed we wanted to evoke a fun, nature-inspired vibe. With that in mind, we selected the Lines and Moons pattern by Thimblepress in Green and Brown.
Earth mama vibes up in here! I love how the shapes and colors echo the ferns you see through the windows and the acorn wood details throughout the house.
Love this pattern moment, and xacto-ing out the door handle is def on the oddly satisfying DIY list.
For a pattern lover like me, I love that now I have this instant photo backdrop!
Thanks to Chasing Paper for providing these rolls of pure pattern amazingness. Head to chasingpaper.com to find our own favorites and start adding patterns to your home!
(Wallpaper wingwoman: Kayla Haykin; Photography: Kurt Andre)