Miscarriage isn鈥檛 easy for anyone. You got butterflies the day that little pink plus sign popped up on the pregnancy test and have been spending 98 percent of your time imagining what life as a mama will be like (with the other two percent dedicated to drafting a list of your favorite baby names). Whether it happens in the first few weeks or much later on, experiencing pregnancy loss is, well, a loss. That means you need to grieve and come to grips with the intense emotions you鈥檙e feeling. Yes, this is a challenge. But you can do it. While you鈥檒l never forget, with some work (and some time) you鈥檒l gradually feel the fog lift and start dealing with the loss.

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1. Give yourself a pass. This may just be the most stressful situation you鈥檝e been in. Feeling sad, anxious or even angry is okay. Above that, it鈥檚 expected. There鈥檚 no reason to stuff those feeling down and bottle them up. Displaying a Viking-like strength right now is definitely not in order. Let yourself feel 鈥 no one will think any less of you.

2. Find comfort in friends and family. You don鈥檛 have to shoulder the pain completely by yourself. Even though it鈥檚 tempting to shut down and close yourself off, reaching out to those who love you can make a major difference. You need support right now 鈥 leaning on your S.O., BFF, sister, cousin or anyone else who is close to you adds another layer of comfort to the situation. No, they won鈥檛 be able to take your sadness away, but having someone there to listen to you is a step in the right direction.

3. Prepare a response. It鈥檚 no secret that you were trying to conceive. Maybe you even started telling friends and co-workers that you were now a plus two. Anyone who thinks you might be or are pregnant will probably continue to ask you about the baby. They aren鈥檛 mind-readers, and an innocent inquiry can throw you for an unexpected emotional loop. Prep a simple, polite and to-the-point response for questions such as, 鈥淪o, when are you due?鈥 or, 鈥淎re you still trying?鈥 If you don鈥檛 feel like discussing the miscarriage right now a simple, 鈥淯nfortunately we lost the pregnancy. Thank you for asking鈥 will do.

4. Stick with your S.O. Your partner may not fully understand the loss you鈥檙e feeling. You鈥檝e already made a connection with the baby, and might feel like your significant other just doesn鈥檛 鈥済et it.鈥 Make a point to not let your relationship cool off right now. Even if your partner isn鈥檛 all about deep talks (keep in mind, everyone processes grief differently), stick together. Go for a walk in the park, head out to dinner at your favorite spot or simply hold hands.

5. Make a memory, or a memorial. Right now you might want to just forget about what happened. Thinking about your loss is painful 鈥 there鈥檚 no doubt. But that doesn鈥檛 mean you need to pretend that you were never pregnant. Do something to mark the miscarriage. Plant a tree in your unborn baby鈥檚 name (and watch it grow over the years), create a special section in your garden or get crafty and crochet a blanket.

6. Don鈥檛 rush into another pregnancy. Grieving takes time. Getting pregnant as soon as the OB gives you the go ahead won鈥檛 necessarily take the sadness out of the situation or make everything instantly better. Let yourself work through your loss before started over again.

7. Call a pro. Your friends are totally giving you mega-doses of support. Your partner is there for you every step of the way. But you still aren鈥檛 feeling okay. This may mean that you need more help than the people around you can provide. A therapist can give you expert advice or, at the very least, listen to you in a completely open and nonjudgmental way.

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