Gabrielle Union is as famous for her varied acting career as for her willingness to talk openly about her personal life. The Being Mary Jane star is especially candid in her new book, We鈥檙e Going to Need More Wine, in which she shares her ongoing struggles with infertility and reveals she鈥檚 had 鈥渆ight or nine miscarriages.鈥

In an excerpt published by People, Union writes that she and her husband, NBA star Dwyane Wade, have been trying to have a baby for more than three years 鈥 something she never expected before marrying the basketball player.

鈥淚 never wanted kids,鈥 she told the mag. 鈥淭hen I became a stepmom, and there was no place I鈥檇 rather be than with them.鈥 (Wade has three sons, Zaire, 15, and Zion, 10, from a previous marriage, and Xavier, 3, who was conceived with another woman while the athlete and Union were broken up. The spouses are also raising Wade鈥檚 nephew, 16-year-old Dahveon Morris.)

The actress has spoken before about going through IVF, and she writes in her book that her body 鈥渉as been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant.鈥 And if that wasn鈥檛 hard enough, she鈥檚 doing all of this in the public eye.

鈥淔or so many women, and not just women in the spotlight, people feel very entitled to know, 鈥楧o you want kids?鈥 A lot of people, especially people that have fertility issues, just say 鈥榥o鈥 because that鈥檚 a lot easier than being honest about whatever is actually going on. People mean so well, but they have no idea the harm or frustration it can cause,鈥 she told People.

Union hopes that by sharing her story, she can change how we talk about fertility and family planning. 鈥淥nce a month I look like I鈥檓 in my second trimester because I鈥檓 bloated,鈥 she said. 鈥淚t leads to the questions and it leads to the rumors and anytime I go into a doctor鈥檚 office I feel like I鈥檓 a member of SEAL Team Six undercover because I don鈥檛 want people to speculate.鈥

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