Dating is hard. (Understatement of the year.) It鈥檚 confusing, expensive, you鈥檙e constantly being told there鈥檚 a 鈥better鈥 way you could be doing it and, in some cases, it鈥檚 all literally a scam. And then there鈥檚 ghosting.

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If you鈥檙e not familiar with ghosting, you either haven鈥檛 been anywhere near the Internet in 2016, or you鈥檙e just fortunate enough to be dating emotionally mature adults who will be upfront and respectful about not wanting to see you anymore. Basically, it鈥檚 when you鈥檙e talking to or seeing someone, and everything seems to be going fine, but then at one point they just鈥 ghost. And you never hear from them again.

You could waste a lot of time wondering what you did wrong (probably nothing) and why they (or their ghosting robot app) won鈥檛 text back, or you could just let it roll off your back. Of course, moving on is sometimes easier said than done, especially if you were dating them for a while. To help you out, here are some tips on how to finally let go of the ghost(er)s from your past.

1. Know it鈥檚 not you; it鈥檚 them. More likely than not, if someone is ghosting you, it鈥檚 coming out of their fear of confrontation and inability to deal with conflict. Don鈥檛 waste your time going over every single detail of your last date looking for 鈥渃lues鈥 as to what happened.

2. Delete everything. Even after you think you鈥檝e long forgotten all about your ghoster and you鈥檙e totally over it, one day you鈥檒l be scrolling through old text messages or your contacts list and BOOM, all those hurt and confused feelings could come back up again. There鈥檚 no reason to hold onto them in your phone, so why not save yourself from the chance of further emotional turmoil where you can?

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3. Realize you dodged a bullet. If this person can鈥檛 handle a basic, 鈥淚鈥檓 sorry; I just don鈥檛 feel a connection here and don鈥檛 think we should continue seeing each other,鈥 there are probably a lot of other social skills and courtesies they鈥檙e lacking. You always deserve to be treated with care and respect, no matter how hot their Tinder selfies were.

4. If they come back, don鈥檛 engage. It鈥檚 not fair for another person to play with your emotions like that, or only be around when they feel like it. Unless they have a really good, fact-checkable excuse 鈥 like they鈥檝e been living underwater with no cell service for the last three months on a mission the President ordered them to serve on which has since been widely reported on CNN 鈥 you don鈥檛 need this person in your life.

5. Laugh about it. Nothing will make you feel better than getting together with friends and going in on this drippy man-child who鈥檚 just that hopeless at talking to women. They鈥檙e sad; you鈥檙e not.

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