It鈥檚 not exactly news that not everyone is going to think your S.O. is as perfect for you as you do. Your friends might actually hate your boyfriend, and that 鈥渘ightmare in-law鈥 stereotype (sometimes) exists for a reason. But when everyone on the street is looking at you and bae like, 鈥淥bviously this is an 鈥榦pposites attract鈥 situation,鈥 that really doesn鈥檛 feel great. Interracial couples, unfortunately, have tons of experience with this (even in 2016 鈥 remember the gross backlash over that Cheerios ad?). But a new study finds that mixed-weight couples experience significant discrimination in their own right.

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In a report called Date Someone Your Own Size, psychologists performed a series of studies to determine if there was real prejudice toward relationships where the partners had significant differences in BMI. The findings are pretty unsettling, no matter your weight or relationship status.

For the first study, they asked people to simply rate how favorable they felt about mixed-weight couples and same-size couples 鈥 and the mixed-weight couples overwhelmingly scored lower. It didn鈥檛 matter whether the man or woman had a high BMI in the mixed weight couple (they didn鈥檛 like them no matter what. UGH).

In the second study, participants matched up potential relationship partners on the basis of weight and other factors that were similar to what you might find on a dating app 鈥 and mixed-weight couples were categorized as 鈥減oor matches.鈥 (Um, we鈥檝e been on Tinder 鈥 there are plenty of more important ways someone can be a 鈥減oor match.鈥)

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In the third study, the researchers asked participants to give dating advice to someone dating a mixed-weight partner 鈥 and they were told to go on less active, public and expensive dates, plus be less physically affectionate and delay introducing their partner to friends and family. Basically, they were saying, 鈥淏e embarrassed about your relationship, and hide it from people.鈥 Wow 鈥 great advice, jerks!

In the fourth study, researchers tried to determine why there鈥檚 so much negativity toward mixed-weight relationships. They theorized that it could be that people are just prejudiced against couples who are different from one another, whether it鈥檚 age, race or class; that people find it 鈥渦nfair鈥 when one member of a couple is less attractive; or that couples who have the same weight are more conventional, and make people more comfortable. A new group (separate from the original studies) was surveyed, and while answers varied, the first theory (different in any way = bad) seemed to prevail.

So鈥 at least they鈥檙e equal-opportunity haters? Look, we鈥檙e trying to find a bright side here, but let鈥檚 just be honest: This sucks. The whole world basically thinking 鈥淵ou two don鈥檛 belong together鈥 is a lot of stress to put on a couple. And the study鈥檚 authors note that more research is needed to look at how that kind of prejudice affects mixed-weight couples long-term. So if you鈥檙e part of a mixed-weight couple, hang in there 鈥 and eff the haters.

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