We know that your BFF鈥檚 relationship with your S.O. is really important, but what happens when your number one gal pal introduces you to the new guy in her life and 鈥 as much as you try 鈥 you just can鈥檛 seem to get along? Your options seem pretty limited: Tell your bestie you鈥檙e not into this new guy and risk a tragic friend breakup鈥 or hold back and hope that she sees what you鈥檙e seeing. It鈥檚 a tight rope to walk, which is why we brought in Nicole Zangara, licensed clinical social worker and author of Surviving Female Friendships: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly to give us her tips on navigating these rocky waters.

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1. Length of relationship matters. First things first, how long your bestie and her boo have been dating can definitely dictate how much room you have for commentary. Nicole says, 鈥淚f it鈥檚 in the early stages, then you鈥檙e okay to say something to your friend, but be very cautious with how you word it. Maybe he doesn鈥檛 treat your friend nicely or he seems like a flake. If it鈥檚 in the early stages, you have more of a right to point it out than if she鈥檚 been dating this guy for years.鈥

2. Get real with yourself. Sometimes you gotta ask yourself the hard questions and get really real. Start with asking yourself, 鈥淲hy don鈥檛 I like this guy?鈥 The answer might surprise you, notes Nicole. 鈥淢aybe you need to spend some time with him. Even if you鈥檙e not thrilled about it, some one-on-one time to connect with him may allow you to see another side to the guy.

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3. Take a step back. This is your best friend we鈥檙e talking about. You have a vested interest, which means you also might have blinders on. Nicole suggests trying to see or at least understand what your best friend likes about this guy. 鈥淒oes he make her happy? Does he respect her and truly love her? If you can see past your dislike and acknowledge how he makes your best friend happy, that may help lessen your feelings towards him,鈥 Nicole says.

4. Don鈥檛 ignore it. Let鈥檚 be real for a second: Your bestie could marry this guy. And then what? According to Nicole, 鈥淚f the friendship is that important to you, find a way to say something to your best friend about it. On the flip side, be ready for how she reacts 鈥 positively or negatively. Gain some perspective by putting yourself in her shoes and asking yourself how you would feel in the same situation.鈥

5. Put your big girl pants on. News flash: You might just have to deal with the guy. Whether your bestie takes it to the altar with him or it fizzles out after a few months, it鈥檚 not your relationship to manage. The only thing you can manage are your feelings. Nicole notes, 鈥淵ou don鈥檛 have to hang out with him all of the time. Tell your friend you want more girl time, and that way, you鈥檙e not having to see him as much. When you are in the same room as him, act cordial, be nice and get on with your night.鈥

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